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Friday, September 14, 2012

Ok, so my soon to be ex husband has been out of the house for couple months now
We have joint custody of the dogs, so he comes by after work and gets them for the weekends. He still has keys to my house.

My question for everyone is when or if can I/ should I change the locks? I really don't like that he can come in anytime, but I can't always be there when he gets the puppies. Plus the divorce isn't final and it's still his mailing address.

What are your thoughts?

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NIKEIT2016 9/16/2012 10:34AM

    Every situation is different however, changing the locks would enforce the separation and divorce. VELRENO said it best about respecting yourself. The decision has been made so follow through *hugs*

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VELRENO 9/15/2012 9:12PM

    Either marriage full force or nothing at all. Change the locks. No explanations needed. It is not his home anymore. Return all his mail to po and tell him to put in a change of address. If he questions any of it just tell him your future husband is not ok with the liberties he is taking. You must show respect for yourself. How will mr right see it if me ex is still coming and going at will. I am sure the is not a new man yet but it is time your ex starts treating you with that respect. Same as if there were a new man.

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SLFGOLF 9/15/2012 1:00AM

    Once the divorce is final, the locks should be changed. It will no longer be his place. You can set up a convenient time for him to pick up the dogs.

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WINSLOWGIRLS3 9/14/2012 10:43PM

    I think that you should change the locks. He has moved out and you have the right to your privacy. You don't have keys to just come and go at his place, so he doesn't need keys to yours. I would handle the custody of the dogs like with kids. Set up days and times that are convenient for both of you to switch off with the dogs.

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HDHAWK 9/14/2012 9:34PM

    Change the locks now if you can, even though the divorce isn't final. He'll have to pick them up when it's convenient for you.

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MARVEEME 9/14/2012 9:26PM

    Make sure your divorce includes your exclusive use of the home, and the requirement that he change his mailing address from the house, and the instant the ink is dry on the papers, change the locks.

He'll just have to wait until it is convenient for YOU to pick up the "kids".

Just sayin'

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PURPLESPEDCOW 9/14/2012 8:24PM

    You need him to sign first, then change the locks. He can make arrangements with you to pick up the pups just like people do with kids!

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BECCAJ98 9/14/2012 5:05PM

    I do want to.....I hate thought he can cone in.

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BECCAJ98 9/14/2012 5:05PM

    I don't like it, but don't know if I can since he hasn't signed and it's still his mailing address.

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KAYDE53 9/14/2012 4:50PM

    I always believe in a clean break for a divorce, so I would change my locks. I wouldn't want him coming & going. But you have to do what's right for you!! emoticon

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