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My father

Thursday, September 13, 2012

It is with sadness that I report that my father passed away around 6:30 this morning. As many of you know, he had battled Alzheimer's for many years. He moved into a residential hospital, the NJ Veterans Home, about two months ago. My last real visit with him was about four weeks ago. He was in his world of dementia, but he was able to carry on a conversation. On August 28 he fell and sustained a pelvic fracture. Last week we were informed that the situation had really deteriorated, but I thought we still had a little more time. On Monday we signed the papers for hospice care. He stayed where he was; in reality there was going to be little change in his treatment. When I saw him on Monday, he was barely conscious. Not in a coma, but pretty much asleep the whole time and no recognition of anyone. My brother and his wife flew in last night from California to see him and (very likely) be here for the funeral. Unfortunately my brother never got to see him alive again.

We knew it was coming, he was 88 years old, and he had no real quality of life. But it still hurts. Funeral is Sunday, and Rosh Hashonah starts a few hours later. Will be a whirlwind of a day.

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SLENDERMAMA1 9/18/2012 9:27AM

    Leslie, so sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts.

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SWAZY33 9/14/2012 7:17AM

    Leslie, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad :( No matter our age...we always want our parents forever in our lives... he WILL be FORERVER in your heart and an angel smiling down on you! Sending lots of hugs and prayers!

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GAYLLYNNE 9/14/2012 7:06AM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I dealt with Alzheimers with my mom for a very long time (11 years) and I know how hard it is. My thoughts are with you.

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HICIM705 9/14/2012 6:22AM

    I'm so sorry about your father . . . I'll be thinking of you and your family - especially in the next few days.

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NEWMOMOVER40 9/14/2012 3:28AM

    Ha'makom yenahem etkhem betokh she'ar avelei Tziyonvi'Yerushalayim

I am so sorry for your loss. I came to this post because I saw my friend Cierapoet's comment on your post; I saw your post was called "my father" and I have been thinking so much of my father tonight, because he is having a lot of trouble with managing things due to memory loss. Your post is a stark reminder of life's preciousness. Holding you in my thoughts tonight.

Take care,

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IMAGINE_IT 9/14/2012 2:22AM

    Oh Leslie im so sorry for the Loss of your father. I know words can't really comfort you at a sad time like this but please know you are in my Thoughts. emoticon emoticon

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CIERAPOET 9/14/2012 1:09AM

    It's Hard Losing Anyone Especially A Parent. Remember and Hold Close All The Fond Memories. They Will Help You Each Day. Still You'll Cry. My Mom Passed Dec 2006 But I Didn't Know Hospice Care Meant She Was Going Soon. (Lung Cancer Caused By Cigarette Smoking). She Was Staying With Me And I Found Her. Felt Stupid That I Didn't Know What Being In Hospice Really Was. She Was 67. I Put Trust In God And Lean On Him For Peace. Memories ARE A God Send. Find Comfort In His Peace and Love!

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CATLOVER110 9/13/2012 7:30PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 9/13/2012 6:38PM

    I know it hurts.....Even when we know it's coming and it puts an end to years of suffering; it's still a shock ,and it hurts.

My heart goes out to you. Be kind to yourself in the days, weeks and months ahead.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Love and hugs,

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MARTY19 9/13/2012 6:22PM

    I am so sorry to hear this. My prayers go out to you.


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LOPEYP 9/13/2012 6:19PM

    Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself. emoticon

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ELIZRN 9/13/2012 3:44PM

  I am so sorry. I actually know the facility where your Father was.... I was there several times to visit different family members. Although it has been decades since then, I found it a peaceful place to be. The staff was chosen carefully & that is so important as these are the people who will be touching loved ones as they pass.

My thoughts are with you. I do know the pain....& it has little to do with the age of the person. My hope for you is that your pain transmutes to love, leaving that special place in your heart forever.


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SAINTBERNARD6 9/13/2012 3:03PM


May God comfort you and your family in this difficult time..

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BLOOIZEANGEL 9/13/2012 2:35PM

    emoticon and prayers my dear friend

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SLIMMERJESSE 9/13/2012 2:24PM

    Yes, it does hurt a lot. Deepest sympathy for your loss.

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MENNOLY 9/13/2012 2:23PM

    Losing a parent no matter how old is a difficult thing. Wishing you Gods grace as you get through the next few weeks!

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1CRAZYDOG 9/13/2012 2:20PM

    My condolences to you and your family. I am so very sorry. HUGS!

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DLDMIL 9/13/2012 1:09PM

    condolences and prayer for your entire family. emoticon

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KIMPY225 9/13/2012 1:04PM

    Best wishes to you and your family always and especially at this time of loss.

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NJJAZZ 9/13/2012 12:46PM

    so sorry for your loss Leslie.................... Its been quite a few hard years with your dads health. My thoughts are with you

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GYMRAT_AT44 9/13/2012 12:18PM

    I am sorry! I understand your pain and strange relief - your story is very similar to how I lost my dad, due to Parkinson's - exact same story line. You have a new SP friend thinking of you with a kindred loss of her dad.

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RIDMYCOCOON 9/13/2012 12:12PM

    My condolences emoticon

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ALIHIKES 9/13/2012 12:08PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. It is sad and difficult, even when my own dad was terminally ill and in a coma and we knew the end was coming, I missed him very much. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. emoticon

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KBRADFORD88 9/13/2012 12:07PM

    So sorry. I hope that Rosh Hashonah will be a time of healing and comfort for you. I celebrated the Jewish holidays with my kids a few years ago. I wanted them to understand these special days. I wish I had known someone like you who could have really explained them to me. Thank you for sharing this hard time. I will have you in my prayers. emoticon

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LUVS2BIKE101 9/13/2012 12:04PM

    I am sorry for your loss and send you my condolences. Please know you and your family are in my prayers.

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MJK0430 9/13/2012 12:03PM

    Leslie, My love and prayers are going out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. emoticon

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