Great article on Spark today called "Why Do We Beat Ourselves up" by Mike Kramer: www.sparkpeople.com/reso
The back half of the article really spoke to me, and while my inner brat hasn't been trash-talking me that much lately, it doesn't mean she's gone forever.
Now, normally, you've gotta understand that I'm definitely not a Stuart Smalley-morning-meditations-in
-my-mirror type person, and frankly, my esteem-challenged, sarcastic, knee-jerk smartass self *did* find it hard to read a phrase like "What's so wrong with reminding yourself how wonderful you are?" without eye-rolling.
But even with that, the article spoke to me, so I'm going to paste those words right here on my blog. That way, if that brat does come calling again, I'll be prepared. So here goes:
"You’re a fantastic person on an exciting journey, in the middle of creating a life that you want. If I were you, I wouldn’t put up with that negative voice in your head. You deserve better. If anything, your self-esteem needs to be built up, not torn down. What’s so wrong with reminding yourself of how wonderful you are? Isn’t that what you would do for a friend who needed a word of encouragement?
Sometimes, this can be easier said than done. Any self-bashing you might do may actually have its roots in something other people have told you over the years. Harsh words can leave scars that never go away. Still, that doesn’t mean we have to carry on the legacy of beating ourselves up.
You deserve to be treated with respect, encouragement and patience. You demand that much from people you know. Demand it from yourself."