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Five Things Holding Me Back?

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Me would cover all 5, I think. lol

1. My badly do I want it? In the past, when I wanted to lose a few pounds, I didn't let anything stop me. Now.....quite different
2. Prioritizing ---not placing myself as a priority...thus, I don't do it.
3. Exercise----doing it when I have time. I have found that that time doesn't seem to happen....unless I make it
4. Food----I think I need to eat when hungry instead of at designated times....& don't reward myself with food.
5. Self Esteem----I am almost certain this would be improved if I was healthier. But, kind of like a domino effect...I have little so don't do it....don't do it ...thus have little.

I definitely have a lot to work on and would accept any suggestions or advice.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
DBELLE39 9/14/2012 9:32PM

    Putting them in front of you helps you work to achieve those goals & overcome any negatives. You can do this one step at a time.

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SHAREBEAR1963 9/14/2012 9:27AM

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Think of today as the first day and get started. Know it will take time and plan in the foods you like best. Consider exercise a responsibility to yourself.

I know this is hard, but this has helped me. Although, I am still a work in progress and always will be. Good Luck to you!!!

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FITGRANDMA145 9/13/2012 4:03PM

    Very well ou are complettelt capable of success.

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RAINBOWCHOC 9/13/2012 5:19AM

    Advice is cheap, it's using it that makes the difference! I went through quite a "complacent" phase, happy in my skin, not unduly worried about slow progress but eventually I knew it was time to crack down again. Set yourself a mini goal, I used a number of pounds (I wanted to get under 200) and a date. I managed it but then went to America and it took 6 weeks to get back to that point again....not good!
However, it's back to my circuits and sticking to the programme and the weight is coming off nicely and I feel GOOD!
Try being a bit more disciplined, it is hard but does pay off
best wishes, Sandra

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 9/13/2012 2:16AM

    It's a step forward when you learn to see what's holding you back in such an honest way. Good job on that.

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KARIDIAN1 9/12/2012 11:05PM

    Great list, I know I have the same thoughts. Time to exercise slips away is a biggie for me.

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AMYBELLES 9/12/2012 9:14PM

    I can identify with most all of these. Number 5 sure is a "catch 22" - we feel better about ourselves when we start taking better care of ourselves, but to do that you have to make yourself a priority and feel you are worth it! I know I need to change my mentality and give myself exercise as a reward and mood enhancer instead of food!
All the best to both of us in working on these areas. emoticon .

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NO_SNOW_BODY 9/12/2012 8:37PM

    great list, acknowledging them is step one forward for today

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LJR4HEALTH 9/12/2012 6:19PM

    Awesome list of what is holding you back seems like many of us "our" attitude hold us back suggestion Put exercise as a priority and that way you are working on 2 at the same time emoticon

emoticon no I mean emoticon we all are a team here

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SAL1512 9/12/2012 5:42PM

    The 5 points cover a lot of area! What is best to note is that you are "awakening" !!!

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FISHINGLADY66 9/12/2012 5:17PM

    Recognizing out problems is the first step. I'm still working on mine.

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MADAMES 9/12/2012 4:10PM

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MARIJO150 9/12/2012 2:36PM

    How about one at a time. I know if I tried all at once I would not make it.

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COOLMAMA11 9/12/2012 1:44PM

    I too know how you feel, I have been struggling with not only weight issues, but many health issues, as well as 4 surgeries in the last year, I have been up and down like a yo yo, and losing faith in my ability to follow through!. I finally decided to stop trying to compete with others, and just do what I can manage for my age and body is actually working, but I have learned it has to be consistent, everyday some effort, if not, I will gain again!
I guess we all have to find our own niche, we all lose differently and all of us can't go gung -ho at the exercise, so just do what is possible, what you feel you can handle.
We are here Nancy if you need some extra support, I would never have gotten this far without the help and encouragement from my many Spark friends! emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 9/12/2012 12:57PM

    Looks like you are truly looking reality straight in the face and banishing all excuses. Good for you!!! Now, look for the things you do well. Give yourself credit. Build on your strengths and face those pitfalls. You can have health and fitness when you prioritize it, have some small successes, and then build stronger and stronger eating and exercise habits leading to better attitude and self-esteem. Honest, small steps work when they are going in the right direction. You can do it!!! -Marsha

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ALWAYSOWNIT 9/12/2012 12:26PM

    Self Esteem .Its funny you mentioned that..I was about to blog on the same lines ..Yestereday I cried for almost half an hour when I it hit me very hard ..all my struggles which are same as you ..has nothing to do with anything except for my low self esteem.I have low self esteem..What does that mean..?I think I am inferior than someone else..Why does I think so ? Somebody made me believe so ,or worse I made myself believe so..But it really doesn't make any sense .Imagine ,I am saying I have low self esteem..means somebody is superior than me..superior by definition mean as of higher grade or quality ..but how on earth anybody can be compared to anybody unless they went through the same exact life conditions..I mean I can be compared only to some one who had the same living conditions,same opportunities ,same struggles ,same failures...We all know thats never gonna happen..So I cannot be compared to any one..when I cannot be compared to anyone ,thats automatically negates that I am inferior than anyone..I am not inferior than anyone..likewise I am not superior than anyone..I am just me..Me..and so are you..You are unique..and I know you get it too...

Other thing which was running through my mind was that do I really feel that achieving that certain weight will make me happy and in hearts of my heart I know ,its not true. I may feel elated for some time..but happiness ,I doubt.It has been proved from time to time that even after the event that we thought would kill us ,we survive..the things we cried over in past , barring few ,we nod our heads and think ,"My God ,what was I thinking?" or the other way..that grade we killed ourself for ,got it..felt happy and now what? that one thing which was so important at one time doesn't have any importance now. ..My point is we really need to stop waiting for something to make us happy ..because that is never gonna happen.We all need to find something which makes us happy right now..and no I am not talking about hedonistic pleasures of indulging in that cake till I feel like I will puke ,it means something which will really make me happy.

So to find out what will make me happy ,I need to recall what has made me happy in past.Was it really that grade or that sense of achievement when I studied whole night ..that night when I refreshed every thing I could ..practiced as much as I could and yes that made me happy ..I dont know what makes you happy but if I can sense what kind of person you are ,knowing that you never give up even when you have failed thousand times in past, you are very similar to me. .How do I know? Well you are still here..isnt it??

I think ,we all know this .We know we can do it..we do it and we do it perfectly..may be more than perfect ..because we have a predefined sets of standards for perfections ..if we dont match up,we feel guilty of not giving our best shot but we forget that we already gave it our best shot ..I think this is the answer. To be really happy we need to learn to give life our best shot , to the best of our abilities and understand the fact that whatever we did was enough.If you felt proud of yourself at the moment when you were doing something about your goals ,that was it. You already achieved what you were after.If only I can remember every moment of my life that state of happiness or satisfaction we feel at the moment we are working for something ,giving something our everything is what we are after all...we can be out of this rut...


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COOP9002 9/12/2012 11:52AM

    At least you know what is hindering you. That's a good place to start. How can we help you with these challenges?

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D-ABBY 9/12/2012 11:14AM

    Praying for you, Nancy. I agree that the struggle to do and the struggle with my who are too closely linked. I have to constantly remember who God says I am and what He thinks. One thing I am finding is that as I focus to correct what you have as your number 1, the rest is lining out. Hang in there and don't give up. True failure only comes when we quit trying. Hugs.

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KATIBUG49 9/12/2012 11:07AM

    Sounds like a plan - now you need to set down & make the goals to go with it.
Keep up the great work!

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DAS92687 9/12/2012 11:01AM

    I think a lot of things fall into place when I have very specific motivation planted firmly in mind. What's your WHY? And how bad do you want it?

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SUNRISE14 9/12/2012 10:31AM

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POSITIVELY_EB 9/12/2012 10:30AM

    Those are all pretty "big" changes you want to make. I would suggest starting with just one and working on it! Then when you feel you have that one, try another.


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