Saturday, September 08, 2012
..and I have not gotten the permission but I would think it is ok. This is spark friend sue writing about her weight story and this part I find particulary interesting:
"...and with the healthy lifestyle living in sweden (car stood parked all week long, walking everywhere, plus we had a dog who demanded her daily walks), weight was never a concern even after huge weight gains (50% of my body weight) with two pregnancies.
then we moved back to the US in 1983, in my early 30s, and the roller coaster began. the first time i hit 112, made it back to 113, right after we moved..."
I have seen this very often in exchange students - they go for USA for a year and come back at double size... and when they come come they shrink back to what they were before they left in six moths or so.
This is probably known to all of us - but I tend to forget it. I tend to blame me, me, me - it is only me doing wrong and of course it IS me putting too many calories in my mouth.
But I have to pay more attention to circumstances - how is my environment? The ideal is a healthy environment and a healhy lifestyle. Then I can have an unhealthy environment but still have a healthy lifestyle - but it will be harder... and I can hae a healthy enironment and an unhealthy lifestyle... with those students it might not only been the axcess to more fattening foods it might also been longing for home but still...
My brother has gotten the idea to write a book about losing wight without dieting...I don´t know wether to laugh or cry but I should probably just let it go and say "you do that" but anyway...talking to me about it he told me the nobe-prizewinning discovery that it is not about diet it is about lifestyle...wow brother, who could have guessed?? (Irony, if that is not clear) Ok so I am a little annoyed and I admit to giving him a little lecture about my findings in the matter ... and the good thing was that I was reminded of my alcohol "story" - that I tried for a rather long time to control my alcohol intake in different ways because I thought I was going in the wrong direction. Only drinking at weekends, only drinking expensive wines, never drinking alone, only having one glass... many strategies that all crackled and ended with me having about the same consumption as before I started trying to decrease it.
And when I finally decided that I had to give it up entirely, I did so by changing lifestyle. Hubby had dumped me and that helped because the "wining and dining" or sharing a bottle friday night was not an issue anymore. I socialised with friends during daytime and we did things - going on excursions, looking at stuff, bringing kids along and having picknicks...I stopped eating french cheese for a while, I stopped cooking food that needs wine to be really good (today I think the same food is great without food, as is french cheese)
Doing that made giving up alcohol so easy, I never had to fight at all. It is a lot harder to do with food and the only thing that I see can be changed is evening habits. Crashing in the sofa is not that good because cravings come and I have no energy for anything exept for eating. I have tried to do other things at night but still - I don´t have the energy and I "need" to watch all that crap on teve because I need to relax... and taking baths or doing handicraft or meditate is not interesting enough to replace that sofacrash...keeping my hands occupied in sofa I tried - knitting is okay but hard to keep up. Hula hooping in front of teve I also tried but I have a hard time to be consistent with that.
In AA there is a belief that "whiteknuckling" your way to soberness will not work that good, you have to find what comes easy to you. I did that but how to do it with food is still a mystery. So I will have to come up with some strategies and try them out... which is perfect to combine with my "Lean" experiment ...which is not going that well, it is hard to make those list.. one good thing has been that I decided to write articles in 24 hours from doing the research/interview... yesterday I was at a pressconference and then had a lot of other things to do before picking up daughter at bus and in the evening I went to a theatre opening night which I was supposed to write a review on for todays paper...and normally that first article would not have been written yesterday because I would have been focusing on getting that review done - but yesterday I wrote that first one (and thus left the house uncleaned but I think I did the right choice) and then picked daughter up, went to theatre and then to office writing that review before returning home...whoohoo it feels good. I even might do some housecleaning today!