Friday, September 07, 2012
Entertaining family is a big deal at our house. It always has been. My mother has always had a huge commitment to making sure there is plenty of healthy food at every meal, but there are also plenty of treats--often based on fresh fruits, peanut butter, whole grain--but still packing plenty of calories. At our house, food says love, and eating is a form of celebration.
When it is just me and my mother and dad around, we eat more simply most of the time--still as often as not, Mom will mention that a bowl of ice cream would be just the thing to round out a nice meal--or there are just too many good choices to start with.
I am just as guilty as she is. When my brothers and sister and their families come, I am more and more becoming the head chef, and I am also helping to plan those parties and celebrations.
So do I know what is sabotaging my diet? Yes.
* An unwillingness to measure out my food--it just doesn't seem polite
* Inconsistent tracking
* Failing to plan out the meal (Even when I do track, if I don't plan, I'm just recording how much I ate, not taking control)
* Lack of Motivation to loose weight
*Falling prey to situations where goodies are unexpectedly available and seem just too good to pass up.
So what are my ideas for dealing with these problems?
First, I am going to give myself a little more credit for measuring. I have figured out how much most of the glasses in the house hold, and I do watch that. I also count almonds, cookies, candy, crackers, and other things to hold it back. When I eat cereal, and other things on my own, I will measure that. But I think that watching portion control--thinking "Half that, please," "Just a little," "No seconds," "Just one," and trying to take the lead about portion size from my Mom who is small and skinny instead of my Dad who is an eater will help. I know this isn't ideal, but after a year on sparkpeople, and thinking about measuring so much, and feeling so disinclined to do any more than I am, I think another approach monitoring smaller portion-sizes and number of servings will be more helpful (Especially not letting myself indulge in seconds at family parites.)
Spark Coach has helped me track more lately. I have been surprised at how much I am eating, because I thought I was holding it down better than I am. I am doing better about tracking more often lately. And that is a good thing. Also, I refuse to get crazy about it, and thank myself for doing it as often as I do. I think every bit of effort in this direction helps.
Meal planning is problematic around here. My mother doesn't like it when I take that over too much. We both thing the other one is the one that always things about one or two more things that would just put the finishing touch on the meal. I'm thinking I need to try to check ahead about how many calories the main dish has--how much I can safely have instead of accessing the damage later on. We are consistently using luncheon plates at meals rather than dinner plates, and I know that helps. I have also really been trying to follow the "My plate" guidelines, and that helps too.
I know that lack of motivation is really big for me. I just don't feel like I'm that heavy, and don't really want to pay the unpleasant price of losing weight. I am going to reset Spark articles, so I can reread them again for points. I think that would help remind me that about the health aspect of losing weight--which is, frankly, the only reason that I care about it at all. I also know that I have other higher priorities health wise. My top priority health goals that I really feel motivated to do are:
* Get more and better sleep
* Keep exercising regularly, concentrating on core strength, flexibility, and regular walking or other aerobics.
* Keep my depression and ADHD in check (medication, exercise, therapy, stress management, and time-management and organizational skills, , learned optimism, affirmations, connecting with other people--all things that help and that are helpful for me.
So note to me: Keep holding the line. Give yourself credit for the good things you are doing. Work on staying motivated. Keep things in perspective. Spark people really emphasizes weight loss--and no doubt, you do need to lose a little weight and maintain the loss. But remember, fitness is important, and good sleep and mental health are where I need to put my biggest emphasis right now.