Mind over matter - To eat or not to eat the cake/chocolate/nuts/
Friday, September 07, 2012
You really want to eat that piece of cake, chocolate etc. Guess what you deliberate about it and then you cave. Beck calls this weakening your resistance muscle. To me it's what happens afterwards that makes all the difference.
When I think life is black and white (most of my life I have thought that way) I tend to stay away from the food mentioned above for weeks on end. Usually, at a social setting (not work) I get tempted and once I start I can't stop. Or I don't start at the social gathering because everyone knows I'm the health freak...as soon as I come home I start searching for junk food and end up eating my kids treats etc because I was good at the social event. Again without being able to stop.
For someone who has never been their I may sound like I'm not really all there ;-). Seriously, it's a really childish attitude to think oh oh I caved so I might as well finish the whole box and some. Worse thought is well I didn't have this stuff for months so now I need to have it more and more because it tastes so good.
First approach was to try and limit to the weekend. Guess what that didn't work either because the thought is still I'm so good during the week why should I not have it all. The other day I was thinking about a dress shop (I guess not fitting into any of my clothes is getting to me). When I go in, there are about 12-15 outfits I like. I then narrow it down to 1-3 before I leave the shop. If I had money I could buy all 12 but I don't. This is the same way I should treat my body. There is not enough "money" to eat all I see. The body has capacity only for some of it. I should be choosy of my treats.
Last night we ate out I had a great salad and took sips of milkshakes from my kids. I didn't feel deprived and I had an adult drink (cappuccino). I don't need to eat a full portion of anything and everything.
I have made healthy nuttella from three ingredients. Roasted hazelnuts, 100% cocoa and almond milk. That way if I feel an urge for something sweet I can have it , and not feel deprived. I also have jam for pbj which I like to have on apples/rice crackers.
I think it's important to remember to breath and realize that the world won't collapse if we eat some food that's on our "naughty" list. It's what we do afterwards that causes us to go into a spiral of guilt and giving up.