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It's The Little Things, Isn't it?

Thursday, September 06, 2012

My journey towards health has included a really hard look at the things that upset my sense of balance and wholeness. Iím sure you have them too and when we stop and look at them we discover they are the tiny and inconsequential issues, like a penny on a rail track that seem to dislodge our sense of balance and equilibrium.

My sister-in-law posted a comment on Facebook that I disagreed with. As Joan will tell you Iíve never met a discussion I didnít like. I usually jump in with both feet, as I did with this one. Apparently my sister-in-law took so much issue with my comment that she decided to no longer be my friend on Facebook. I have to admit, it hurt.

I went to the bank to deposit a check shortly after I found out Iíd been kicked to the curb, lol. The teller in the drive thru is an old friend. I asked her if she was behaving and she laughed. ďI never behave John. Iím the black sheep. You know what thatís like. Youíre one yourself.Ē

What the He** did that mean?

I drive away wondering if there is some cosmic and karmic plot to derail my bliss. But, ahhhhhhhhh, instead of grabbing a cookie or pie or putting on a disguise and slinking down the narrow carbohydrate alley of sin, I took three or four deep breaths smiled inwardly and went on with my day. I nodded a prayer of gratitude to the Divine within me and realized I am one fortunate personÖÖÖ. For a lot of reasons.

The door swings both ways, doesnít it? Those little things that often send us into a tailspin can also be the things that keep us on course.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
NANA-JEAN 9/10/2012 9:04AM

    emoticon I so understand! An interesting thing happened to me at my cousin's wedding so many years ago - I mentioned to my siblings that I feel like the black sheep of the family... they all said NO they were the black sheep of the family... hmm perception!
I am the wild card...great blog! Jean

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SPSPSP1 9/10/2012 4:00AM

    Being a black sheep can be a great thing! Good for you for staying "on course".

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KELLYPAQ 9/9/2012 8:02AM

    Some days it seems like the world is against us. Be strong in yourself and don't worry about what the naysayers think.

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MCFERRET 9/8/2012 6:31AM

    You find your own path and are not defined by the comments and actions of others. I think you are in good company!

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MYOWNHERO 9/8/2012 12:48AM

    Hey, we are who we are. I'm the black sheep in my family and I have learned to love that about myself. Namaste.

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NASFKAB 9/7/2012 10:16AM

  Payno attention to what others think does it matter?

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SNOWANGELDIVA 9/7/2012 10:11AM

    Black sheep are usually the ones that stand for something and rarely fall for anything.
Badge of Honour, my friend...

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LYNMEINDERS 9/7/2012 6:48AM

    I join the black sheep of the family...I love being is superb

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CARTOONB 9/6/2012 10:34PM

    Is being the black sheep a bad thing? Good to hear that you stayed on track.

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LINDA7668 9/6/2012 8:25PM

    It's too bad that your sister in law can't handle someone having a different opinion. Hopefully, you two can work through that.

I think your friend meant the black sheep comment as a compliment. You refuse to think within the tiny boundaries of that box that we are taught to live within. Because of that, you have given many of us things to think about that we may not have considered before. Thank you for that.

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HDHAWK 9/6/2012 7:31PM

    It's probably better to be a little on the black sheep side and speak your mind than to let things burn under the surface (like someone I see in the mirror everyday)!

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BGRN13 9/6/2012 5:57PM

    Thank you for posting this. I've list weight & gained it back too. I guess I know this is a lifestyle change & not a diet, but I'm really struggling b/c I'm not seeing results. I feel like I'm failing & don't know how to stop the downward spiral I'm in.

Your blog proves to me I'm not alone & some people DO make this work somehow.


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REGILIEH 9/6/2012 4:52PM

    Wow! I would say your sister-in-law needs to grow up, how childish she acted.

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TRISTAROSE 9/6/2012 3:34PM

    emoticon emoticon

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POPSY190 9/6/2012 3:05PM

    Black sheep are treasured here (NZ) for their difference. Beautiful things are made from their wool.

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    Nothing wrong with being a black sheep if you really are. Life would be pretty dull with nothing but white sheep. LOL. I would not worry about what other people think. Just be yourself, everyone else is already taken. LOL.

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VONBLACKBIRD 9/6/2012 1:03PM

    We sometimes see ourselves differently than other people do..I just accept it and if I seem to be the "black sheep" then I'm fine by it. It used to bother me to be different but now I feel blest that I'm different and I flaunt it now...Don't let the buzzards get you down.

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WONDERFUL2BME 9/6/2012 12:03PM

    Great reactions to undesirable emotions John. It really is a huge step in awareness to understand how you use to react to these situations and how you choose to react to them now. I am still working on this myself! It isn't always so easy to see this when you are in the midst of it. I will try to be this perceptive next time.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/6/2012 11:40AM

    Sorry to hear about your sister in law :( That does hurt when people - especially family - does stuff like that. But don't let it bother you. Have a talk with her about it the next time you see her, and see if you can get it ironed out. Maybe she misunderstood something you said?
Anyway, take care my friend. :)

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MAMADWARF 9/6/2012 11:28AM

    Isn't it weird when people say things like that about us when we dont see ourselves like that at all?

I will argue to the bitter end over something I am passionate about.I am always bewildered when someone is offended because I thought we were just having a healthy discussion and exchange of ideas.

Embrace your inner black sheep, john. At least you are being true to yourself. Plus, its awesome not to be like everyone else.

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