Unless You Are Ready, I Can’t Help You
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Our neighbor’s daughter is overweight (she is in her early 20’s). By definition I’m pretty confident she would be considered morbidly obese. I remember how big I was and I would put here in a similar weight range. Her parents would like me to talk to her about losing weight. I know that unless she is ready to face her weight and commit to the needed changes, there is really little point to it. I have been in her shoes. If you would have told me I needed to lose weight, I would have agreed with you. It’s not like I had no clue I was overweight. I knew. I just was not ready to deal with it. You have to have hit bottom and be ready to make the needed changes. She has not had the defining event yet. Mine came courtesy of increasing blood pressure.
I feel for my neighbor’s daughter. I remember being that big, out of shape, with no energy and struggling to do household chores. I remember not fitting into airplane seats, shopping the limited “Women’s” section of the store and just lumbering around. She has big health risks and I bet she knows this too. Gaining weight is easy; losing it requires determination and stamina. Until she has her “weight defining” moment, losing weight is only a dim light in the back of her brain. When she is ready, I will be more than happy to talk to her about losing weight. I will gladly go with her to the gym and discuss eating strategies. I’ll go with her to a Weight Watchers meeting if she wants to go (or any other weight loss program). I’d tell her life is so much better at a healthy weight. I’m not talking getting thin here, just healthy. Doing things is easier at a healthy weight and you feel so much better when you eat right. I rarely get sick any more. I feel healthy and like I can do anything!
I am not at my goal weight yet, but I am healthy. I have been at my goal weight, but I do continue to struggle with food issues. I will get there again. I would not tell her it’s easy. Some days it’s so very hard. But in the long run it’s worth the journey. It’s a trip she needs to take. She just needs to get packed and ready to go.