Friday, August 24, 2012
Self-acceptance is all about your ability to feel comfortable in your own skin by accepting the fact that you are who you are. However this doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to the fact that you can’t or will not be able to change who you are, it is merely an acknowledgement that this is who you are at this particular moment in time.
You should use your self-acceptance as a starting point for improving areas of your life that you think need improving. Evaluate your situation, determine and accept that this is where you are in your life at the moment, this is who you are at the moment, and then work out a plan of where you want to go and who you want to be in the future.
This plan of where you want to go and who you want to be needs to be based entirely on your own set of beliefs and goals and must not be influenced in anyway by the expectations of others.
If your goal of self-improvement is based on the expectations of others then you will never be completely satisfied with what you are able to achieve and you will always be looking for the approval of others to validate your own self-worth.
Is It A Contradiction To Accept Who You Are And Then Work On Becoming The Person You Want To Be?
Not necessarily. All you are doing is using your self-acceptance to further better yourself and improve your way of life. By working out a plan of where you want to go and who you want to be in life doesn’t mean you are ignoring the fact that you are who you are.
It just means that you have accepted the fact that all of your attributes whether they be good or bad, make you the person you are today and you have acknowledged that there are areas of your life that could be improved in order for you to live a happy and fulfilling life.
Wanting to improve yourself is a good thing and you shouldn’t have to lose your identity in the process. You still need to be true to who you are, live by your own set of beliefs and have a high level of self-acceptance, but this should not mean that you have to settle for anything less than what you want out of life.
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