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The Other Side

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Do you know those windows they build into bathrooms? They are frosted so you can’t see through them. You may hear laughter, excitement, maybe even some really scary stuff on the other side of them but you can’t see them. You can’t reach out to touch them, taste them or make them a part of your life and it frustrates you, because you know on the other side of that hazy glass are all your hopes, dreams, and everything you want to be. But they seem just out of reach.

It must be your fault isn’t it? You must lack desire or intelligence. Maybe you are too young or been told you are too old. You look in the mirror and you don’t like the nose, the hair, the smile………… So you decide you must change. You embark on a process to recreate, to reinvent. You work hard always looking to the right and left to make sure you are keeping up with everyone else and slowly you feel yourself falling behind. Oh, you have victories. They are small, sweet and do not sustain and when you are alone they mock and judge you because you couldn’t hang on to them the way “everyone else does.”

The glass gets thicker and the images on the other side seem to blur and are less recognizable. You work harder and then those voices get fainter and we wonder where we went. We are in pain and we convert it into suffering because we deserve to suffer for all the accumulated wrongs in our lives. We try to stay busy.

“Love What Is,” a quote from Dorothy Hunt. Sit up taller right here and now and embrace that person whose skin you are inside right now. They may be tired or frustrated, dejected or maybe just really frazzled about the edges. They may feel flabby and out of breath. Hips, knees or backs may ache. They weren’t the prom king or queen and a lot of days they just don’t get it. Make friends with them. Love what is, right here, right now and make them your bestie.

“Be still and know that I am God.” Fold your busy hands on your soft lap, close your eyes, even if it’s just for a moment and breathe. Forget work, family, friends and everything else that chases you and simply sit in the presence of what you call divine and drink in the love and energy.

Slowly the glass loses its hoar frost and you begin to see yourself not on the other side but alongside the you that you have come to love and adore.

“A jug fills drop by drop,” Buddha


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MYOWNHERO 8/27/2012 11:47AM

    Thank you for this!

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MARCYNA 8/27/2012 11:43AM

    Love this, John, I am now trying to help the others and help myself also....accepting the person I am rather than what I would have liked to become.
Wise words, you are always my hero, John!!!!

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PROVERBS31JULIA 8/27/2012 8:40AM

    Dorothy Hunt? I'll have to check that out. The "Love What Is" concept I've heard is from Byron Katie, who authored a book by that name (I think? Need to go find my copy.).

Thanks for the mentally stimulating blogs!


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NEWMOM20121 8/25/2012 9:29AM

    Just what I needed today. Thank you

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RADAZZLE 8/25/2012 12:55AM

    emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 8/23/2012 7:32AM

  thought provoking powerful as usual thanks

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LYNMEINDERS 8/23/2012 4:45AM

    Be still and know that i am God.....that is such a powerful verse....can be life changing

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CARTOONB 8/22/2012 11:29PM

    Prom queens can be mean. emoticon

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TRISTAROSE 8/22/2012 2:06PM

    Great Blog .... Thanks


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TWO-TOO-MUCH 8/22/2012 10:31AM

    "...we wonder where we went." WOW. That's precisely what's been going through my mind. The last short while has been particularly difficult for me as far as staying motivated and positive. Your blog has lifted my spirits considerably. Thanks!

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/22/2012 10:28AM

    Thanks emoticon

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ANGIEJAY77 8/22/2012 9:31AM

    I love this blog. It is so right on with how I'm feeling right now about my journey. Thanks for sharing! Namaste

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    Great blog to encourage those of us who spend most of their time on the dark side. LOL.

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ANASONIC 8/22/2012 8:41AM

    Thank you! I am always amazed by your writings. You seem to know me so well. Stay the course and keep bloggong because you have so much to give to us all.

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KATHRYN1955 8/22/2012 8:39AM

    I recently did a visualization exercise where I was to think of my goals on a big board and how I would feel once I attained them. It got me to thinking what if I didn't reach them for one reason or another.....would I still be ok just as I am today? Perhaps it is a function of increasing age, but I am gradually realizing I am meant to be exactly where I am this minute, this very second as I am writing this.
I believe if we can get to the point where we can totally "Love What Is", (and not believe that we deserve to suffer) all the rest will take care of itself, in ways we can not even begin to imagine.
Thanks for the reminder,

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REGILIEH 8/22/2012 8:27AM

    As always, well done!

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