Day 895: You NEVER Stop Learning
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Oh my goodness..so I must share because I am so excited for myself. Whenever I figure something out personally, I always report it to my blog on the chance one of you guys will have an "a-ha" moment from it. As you guys know, I am huge into viewing your weight loss efforts as a self-development journey...you truly learn so much about yourself while in the process of losing weight.
Spiritually, I believe that when the student is ready...the teacher will appear :). Meaning that, when you are truly ready to change...you will find a teacher, mentor, book, group, etc. that will help you make that happen. This change can be big or small, but I truly believe God works in perfect ways and everything is always on time. For instance, SparkPeople was mentioned to me in my world in 2006...but I didn't have the guts to get involved in the community (because I wasn't ready and still had lessons to learn to serve my life purpose) until 2010.
I know I've written about it before, but I was randomly going through the email of an account that I hadn't gone through in about two or so years when I came across an e-mail from Spark. I had just given up smoking a month prior and had enough confidence to tackle something else that I had thought I had lacked the "will-power" and "self-control" (which I now don't believe in ;) to do so. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear...and Spark was my teacher :)
Anyway..I have written about prior to finding Spark a million times ;)...fast forward to today. Not too long ago, I had a "confession" blog that I had gained back some weight since reaching my goal the end of last year. I said it was because I was eating out a lot, got out of my habit of exercising regularly, and coming into my spirituality (which can lead to temporary weight gain as unconscious issues are brought to the surface and uncovered to deal with).
Intuitively, I pick up a lot of what I know about why people like me (perfectionist empaths who are highly sensitive to the emotions and energy of others and who tend to have a huge inborn desire to help others) gain weight. AND I just found a book that literally compiles all this information that I have gotten intuitively and backs it up with scientific research! I was pretty excited :)
Some reasons include:
-We are so sensitive to the emotions of others and can literally FEEL how people are feeling (prior to realizing I was an empath, I just had chalked myself up as a really good "people reader")...as a result, sometimes we unknowingly take those emotions on as our own and emotionally eat because we're overwhelmed.
-The perfectionism also discourages us to talk about our feelings because it risks us not being able to appear to have it all together, as a result..we suppress our feelings. They never go away unless we deal with them though, and as a result..in order to experience a temporary release/make us feel better, we binge/emotionally eat.
-We eat/crave food as a result of an emotion that we have...if we solve the emotional issue...the craving goes away.
There are a million other reasons, but I am just focusing on this right now because I had an important insight yesterday while I was reading a book my Reiki teacher recommended based on a dream I had six months ago that told me I would be teaching this to people in the future.
SO..I'm reading this book "Constant Craving" by Doreen Virtue..which is published my Hay House (the same publishing company that publishes SparkPeople's books!)...and I huge block uncover right before my eyes. If you guys have kept up with me, I was having a hard time transitioning to eating my meals at home. It was kinda bizarre. I wouldn't eat super unhealthy or binge when I'd go out, but if you eat out as much as I did..weight gain is inevitable. I didn't get why it took me so long to FINALLY streak and be able to eat at home, even though I had been trying for quite a few months. I wasn't beating myself up over it, but it was kinda mind-boggling to me.
While reading this book, why I was struggling with eating out before having my recent 2-week streak became SO clear to me. I realized that eating out started more frequently when I moved away from my family. I work from home by myself, I would tell people "going out to eat is my time to get out of the house!" (because I'm there all day). It didn't dawn on me until I was reading that I have been going out to eat because I am LONELY. Since moving about 40 minutes away..I am not readily around people unless I go out in public. My interests are also changing and I am yet to make very many friends that are interested in spirituality like I am. It can be very lonely..which I was conscious of. I just didn't make the connection to why I was going out to eat so much. I was lonely and when I went out to eat I would feel less lonely because I was around people (even though I'd go out by myself and usually only talk to the waiter/person who took my order). Seems pretty obvious now, but now that I am aware of this and have identified my trigger...when I want to go out to eat, I can go within myself and ask, "why am I lonely right now? what is missing within me that I am trying to find in my external circumstances?" Obviously, the loneliness was only temporarily relieved when I was around other people..and I wasn't going to stop going out to eat so much until I became conscious of why I was doing it. WEEE--I'm so happy I figured it out :) :)
I do want to note that maybe at times I will just want to go out to eat to enjoy going out to eat, like many people..but now there is no need to go out to eat so much because I know why I was going out the majority of the time.
YAY ! I know like this probably doesn't seem like a big deal to you guys..but this was a hugeeee breakthrough for me. Coming off my cleanse, I am confident I will stay caffeine free and go back to making more healthy at home choices :)
I LOVE reading and I am constantly learning that we never stop learning! :)