My Dad...............He Is SO Ready To Go....Heartbreaking
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
This past weekend was my assigned weekend to spend with my parents and help Mom take care of Dad. Mom and I had a few discussions about what will happen after he passes, which of course we ALL dread, but he is in Hospice. This weekend seemed to be a bit different... their neighbor commented on how Jeanne and Tim (my sister "The Warden" and her ahole hubby (which NO ONE LIKES) ......Their neighbor , William, who is our safety net, we know if William is home, no matter what time it is, he will be there if Mom calls needing help.
He mentioned to me this weekend that he thought after Pop passes, Jeanne and her worthless hubby Tim will be trying to move on in. I laughed and said, well there will be 4 siblings blocking the door, that WILL NOT HAPPEN.
Let me explain, Jeanne and Tim had a home (right across the street from my parents (which mom hated, a little TOO close ya know?) So now they are living FREE with Tims "loopy sister" and they are SO tired of it. WAAA...
Mom has told them they need to get an apartment. Jeanne cannot get a job since she is a recent felon (noboby's fault but hers)..Now Jeanne had a GREAT job, for 19 years at Bon Sequores Hospital, in accounting. She had worked her way up thru the ranks and had 1 year until she could retire at the age of 44..... She had gone to college and got a Bachelors (I think) in Business Administration, Criminal Justice and forensics..... this was to be her 2nd career.... Instead of all that happening she got busted for embezzling $54,000.....WOW...so now all her degrees aren't worth the paper its printed on. She cant get a job, and all of us siblings have backed away a bit, due to the shock. We didnt find out until she had been locked up. She had a chance to pay it back and keep her job, but lied and said, she knew nothing. (Bad Move)
Bottom line is she cannot get a job and stays at Moms and Pops M-F helping with Dad. Now she does a good job, a bit too nosey for my Mom,,,,,But Mom keeps her in line.
Anyhow the bottom line is...they are sick of living with HIS sister (for free) and are ready to move out, a shame it WONT be to my Mothers.
So although they think they have it made, they are in for a big surprise..... NONE OF US SIBLINGS, NOR MY MOM, will allow this....And as long as Mom understands this all is well. Jeanne does help a lot with dad's meds and stuff.. but she started staying there due to last years hurricane, and a tree fell on sister in laws house. All fixed now though...but the sister in law is a lil loopy to say the least BUT WHO'S problem is that??
She leaves at 12 on Fridays, when she knows the rest of us work and cant get there that early, and doesn't return until 9 pm Sunday night, when she knows we have kids, jobs etc.
She does No dishes, NO cleaning, she sleeps and plays on the computer (Moms) all day.
She is a control freak BIGTIME, and I think since she has lost control of her life, she wants to control my parents,, Thank God Mom is on to it. She told them they need to get an apt. They smoke like freight trains, Mom and Pop don't smoke.....Anyhow, IT AINT GONNA HAPPEN.
While mom and I were outside on the swing, she mentioned (for the first time) that she wanted to get a smaller place.....WOW...she LOVES to travel, which Dad always frowned upon, because he didn't like and she would go anyway with her sisters etc... she said HER siblings have trips lined up for her, which I think is GREAT!!
My Mother is THE most HONEST person on the face of this earth, or in the top 3... She is an absolute ANGEL......So I must say I feel a bit sorry for Jeanne and Tim, since they are in for a rude awakening.. BUMMER FOR THEM!