Tuesday, August 14, 2012
I have had some very interesting comments from my last blog "Getting Ready to Sew". Most of you had a good laugh at it, but NOTFATCAT really hit the ball out of the park!
She said "I truely wish our society today would dress nicely and put on a good face. We have become such an uncivil society where anything goes."
That was like a blast of cold reality to me.
It got me thinking (I sometimes actually DO that!), and you know? She's RIGHT!
Like most of us, there are days that I get out of bed, dress in old crummy clothes, don't brush my hair or teeth, don't wash my face...........you get the idea.
Strangely, those are days I don't get much done other than feel lazy and disconnected.
Then there are the mornings where I make my bed, head for the shower, get all clean and shampooed and put on clean clothes that actually match or look good together.
Those are the days I get a whole lot accomplished, and I am actually present in my own life.
It doesn't matter if I am going to town or if I am going out to do gardening. Even my gardening and work clothes can be clean at the start!! I truly do NOT have to garden or houseclean in yesterday's sweat!
But going deeper, I understand what Cat means.
I'm old enough to remember when women didn't wear jeans unless they were riding a horse or working in the hay fields alongside the menfolk.
I am also remembering that women wore dresses...............yes, they had "everyday" dresses and "dress-up church dresses". AND they had their hair in order. Usually they wore lipstick, but only if they were "going out" to the grocery store or someplace else.
I remember all of those ladies being so PRETTY!
I also remember home made meals being served on time, every day. And I remember praying as a family as we all sat down together to partake of those meals.
Don't get me wrong. I am not about to throw away my jeans and sweatshirts, but Cat, you got me going with your wise comments.
Yes, our nation and its people were, at one time, CIVILIZED.
We used to be polite, and it was rare when you ever heard any cussing.
We used to help our neighbors, and make meals for those who were shut in.
Our churches were actually filled, and kids went to Sunday School.
We kids knew we didn't have a choice about going to school. We WENT, and boy oh boy, we better BEHAVE to the teachers, too!! There wasn't any question about doing homework, and we all knew the Pledge of Allegiance, because we said it every day in the classrooms.
We actually admired folks who worked hard and "got ahead". There was no resentment or jealousy of those who had more money, and no disdain for those who had none.
We didn't expect Society to support us; we knew that we had to EARN our own living.
We accepted life on life's terms, and knew that there would always be "them that have, and them that don't". All societies in the entire world have those living conditions.
We used to have "company" for dinner, and the house was clean, hands and faces were washed, manners were polite and curteous. No one was embarrassed to pray at the table, no matter who was sitting there, or what (if any) religion they were.
We RESPECTED the differences in people's political views, and we just got along, knowing it was "The American Way".
"Handouts" meant helping one another. It didn't mean "I don't want to get a job because the Gubmint will take care of me, including giving me a cell phone, all for free".
There was actually a work ethic, unlike now.
Not everyone thought they should go to college either. People were truck drivers, plumbers, carpenters, farmers, clerks, mail carriers, ministers, rabbies, teachers, business owners, secretaries, telephone operators, shop workers, mechanics..............the list goes on and on.
And you know what?? WE ALL GOT ALONG AND WORSHIPPED IN THE SAME CHURCHES.
Jealousy over someone else's good fortune was a sin. We all KNEW what the Seven Deadly Sins were, and tried very conciously to not commit them.
Have you ever noticed that when you are clean and cleanly dressed that you feel and think better? That you are actually kinder and more polite to others? That you just plain feel good about yourself??
Abe Lincoln said "A house divided by itself cannot stand". Our nation is being divided by itself, and will not stand until we get over it, put our big girl panties on and deal with life on life's terms.
So WHAT some of us are Democrats and some of us are Republicans??? Does that mean we should treat each other hatefully? Does that mean we should tell bold faced lies about one another?
It is time for all of us to clean up our acts. Start it with a shower and clean clothes.
JUST FOR TODAY, be KIND and COURTEOUS.
And when you go to bed tonight, ask yourself this question:
WAS THIS A BETTER WAY TO LIVE EACH DAY OF MY LIFE???