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"You aren't as big as you think you are"

Friday, August 10, 2012

I know what size I wear if I buy clothes from specific designers. My clothes range from size 14 to 18, or XL to M, even some petites, depending on brand and fit.

And I have a bunch of clothes that I'm NOT taking for travelling, or saving - so I put everything in the closet in my studio/office, along with a bin of shoes, another bin of purses. $10 per dress or shirt or jeans, $10 per pair of shoes, purses from $5 to $30 depending on size and brand. Sold a bunch with the house sale, and a few to people who came by to buy the couch, bed, etc.

So here I am, looking for women I think are in my size range - and my line was something like, "I'm not sure what size you are, but there are clothes and shoes for sale in the closet back there, so be sure to check it out."

And a teacher from school came by to check out the bed. I know she's much taller than I am. But I'm kind of clueless about what size she is, and so I gave her my little clothes-available line.

She looked at me (down at me from her 5'11") and said, "You are either trying to flatter me, or you just don't know what size you are! You aren't as BIG as you think you are!"

So I have to re-assess my mental image of myself. Which is kind of strange. To not think of myself as BIG. I'm trying to adjust to thinking of myself as medium. I'm not slim or thin, I know I'm not there yet. But medium. I'll aim for adjusting to medium.
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  • v PLATINUM755
    What a wonderful thing to hear!
    1410 days ago
  • v DIET_FRIEND
    A nice problem to have!
    1411 days ago
  • v GINIEMIE
    I concur with Alihikes, it's great to be smaller than we think we are.
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    1412 days ago
  • v PHEBESS
    Ellen, after I lost the first 40 lbs and was no longer a 2X or 20 or even 22, I brought bags of clothes to school - we have a lot of large teachers. I invited about five or six women to come to my room and they could check out what I had (in my office). One woman, who I always thought was about my size at my biggest, told me the clothes were lovely but that nothing would fit, it was actually all too small for her.

    I'm seriously clueless - I think I'm this big person and I'm not. I still think I'm tall, since I was a tall kid - but I stopped growing at age 13, and then I've lost height since then - it's just weird!
    1414 days ago
  • v WATERMELLEN
    I totally get this: still "think" of myself many days as my former self. My hairdresser (of some 20 + years) said to me yesterday that he can barely remember me 90+ pounds ago: and yeah, it's been over 10 years for the major part of that weight loss (stabilized, then further reduced here at SP).

    When I was wanting to cull my closet after the "big weight loss" (and I waited 5 years to be sure), I found nobody would accept my "gifts" because they did not want to think of themselves as "my former size". So: it works both ways I guess.

    Thanks also for your comments on Eat Fast Eat: I agree that listening to your body is the key.
    1415 days ago
  • v JLPNURSE
    That is so true. We carry a mental picture of ourselves that is different from reality.
    1415 days ago
  • v ALIHIKES
    WOO HOO! That's great, to be a smaller size than you realize!
    1415 days ago
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