Friday, August 10, 2012
I still have no idea what to do with this group situation. My friend (who is the co-owner with me) feels she needs to give this person yet another chance, but won't meet with her unless I do.
I seriously at this point have no interest whatsoever as I know it will be a repeat of the meeting I had before with this person where I had to listen almost 3 hours to her cry, tell me her life story, etc. I'm tired of being attacked and I've been more than patient with her while being attacked.
Where does she become understanding of me and what she puts me through? So my friend says that she is not convinced that what I am telling her (that this person is trying to take over our group although you'd have to be blind to not see it) is reality.
This person is angry that we didn't let her make group decisions, didn't let her know our plans for group decisions, etc. Umm, she's not the leader, but thinks she is. She's only been in our group for about a year and our group has been in existence since 2009.
Members that have been in the group from the beginning have never demanded this of us and have never told us constantly what they think we are doing wrong. I guess I don't understand my friend's thinking although I have tried to have an open mind about it and try to understand where she's coming from.
I will say that my friend is very subservient to her husband so maybe she doesn't mind being bossed around, but I certainly do, LOL. I don't mind someone pointing something out that I might not realize, but when you constantly criticize the job I'm doing and tell me what to do, I will bristle up in a second.
So I'm stuck in the middle once again with all the pressure being put on me although I have only been understanding and nice this entire time but this other lady is the one showing us her ugly side and yet I'm supposed to yet again take it or agree to meet and talk yet again and put up with more of her caustic remarks and her insistence that we're supposed to include her.
This person told my friend that if I didn't meet with her that she was leaving. I'm fine with that, no more drama, but my friend is not and wants to meet ONE last time (heard that one before as she said that the last time) and I suppose have us both be tortured.
For the life of me I don't know why I must be included since 1) this new person pretty much as told me without saying it that I stink as a leader and she can do better, and 2) my friend won't meet with her without me. When I ask her why, she tells me because she needs me.
What it is, is that my friend is afraid to meet with this lady and wants me there because she knows I'll stand up to this person, but yet she at the same time doesn't want me to do that and wants me to be subservient like her (no, she didn't say that, but that's what I read between the lines).
So I have two people that I feel are looking at me to do something I have zero desire to do and will only prolong the torture and the negative feelings I have towards this person that has called me now twice to attack me. Of course my friend doesn't get the attacks like I do (because this person knows that I am the stronger one) and doesn't have to keep putting up with it.