Wednesday, August 08, 2012
This journey is not easy. If it was we would not have so many overweight and obese people in the world! It's also not a "quick jaunt" but rather an endurance test over a course strewn with obstacles. Today I want to talk about those people in your life that are just "waiting for you to fail".
I'm sure everyone has SOMEONE in their life that fits this category. Let me describe this person. They may be a family member or close friend. They might be a co-worker or acquaintance. Whoever they are they stand on the sidelines watching and waiting. They almost seem EAGER to see you fail.
They may say things like: "You know you will gain it all back." or "You won't stick to this!" or "You will get bored of this and quit." Maybe they say this from experience. Maybe that has been your history but IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE!
Don't let the naysayers in your life plot your course or determine the speed at which you traverse it. This is YOUR journey. It's personal! YOU determine each day if you are going to pull into a pitstop, get some repairs, take a detour for a vacation, or press the "pedal to the medal" and make haste.
Some naysayers can be converted into cheereleaders when you "educate them". Perhaps you can ask them to "comment" when you are making success with positive words. If's it's a close family member you can even say things like "When you believe in me I believe in myself". If you don't want them to be the diet police TELL THEM. Let them know that you have a plan and it varies from day to day and that they can HELP you by just giving positive encouragement.
IF this naysayer is also overweight/obese perhaps they want you to fail to make them feel better about their own weight issues. This person may not be ready to make the changes needed to go on their own journey but you can still find ways to positively influence THEM by keeping your relationship unchanged. Show them that you still love them. If they feel neglected because of your time at the gym schedule special time to go shopping or to a movie with them. As they see the pounds falling off your silent witness may inspire them.
The bottom line - it's YOUR journey. Don't let the negative thinkers pull you down. Just wave and smile as you drive past them on the way!