Are You Nice to Yourself?
Wednesday, August 08, 2012
I wrote on Monday that it's my favorite day of the week.
Monday's are my day of rest, but after I wrote that one of my "special" kids
delayed my resting. It wasn't intentional; she was having a very emotional day
and due to her limited vocabulary she had a 90 minute melt-down when I was getting ready to walk out the door for some much needed "me-time." When I was finally able to get her calmed down enough that I could sit next to her, I put my arm around her, told her I love her, and I tried to soothe her with words she could understand. She needed comforted. She needed to feel loved. It really got me thinking, because we all need to feel loved and sometimes we need comfort. Sometimes there isn't anyone there to provide the comfort and security we need.
In the past I've used to food to comfort myself when I felt unloved, lonely, angry, or upset. I've had to learn other ways to comfort myself. Sometimes it's going for a walk so I can pray and clear my head. Sometimes it's just telling myself over and over "it's going to be ok." Other times it's a trip to the library (I love to read!) or an iced tea (no sugar) from Starbucks and some 4G time. I have found many ways to be kind to myself and comfort myself besides food. Do I always use them? No, but I'm finding it's getting easier to find something other than food to help myself feel better. I've learned that being nice to myself is important, and it helps me have a better attitude. Eating until I feel sick is not being nice to myself, and it will never help me succeed in the goals I have for myself.
Yesterday I mentioned how I talk nice to myself. That is just the beginning. I try to be kind to myself as well. Are you nice to yourself? Do you take time to do something nice for yourself everyday even if it's just 15 or 20 minutes? If you don't then give a try. You will be surprised how much better you will feel about yourself. It will leave you feeling more positive about yourself. It will help you make better choices when things aren't going the way you hoped. So do something nice for yourself today. You deserve it.
PS: My "Sparks time" is one of the nice things I do for myself everyday! :)