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"I'm Rubber You're Glue"

Monday, August 06, 2012

I learned a valuable life lesson on my morning walk a few summers back. Each morning I would pass a college aged woman standing at the bus stop. She was dressed in a fast food uniform and as I passed by I would greet her with a cheerful “Good Morning!!” She would turn around and smile and we’d both go about our day. One morning in early August I heard her voice say “Excuse me sir?” I thought maybe something had fallen from my pocket so I stopped and turned around.

“I wanna thank you for saying hello to me every day,” she began.” I’ve had a rough summer and I’ve had a lot on my mind and when you walked by every morning and smiled and said hello it made my day bearable. I’m going back to school on Wednesday and I wanted to make sure I thanked you. You made me feel that someone really cared enough just by saying hello. ”We both stood there a bit uncomfortable for a few minutes and I actually had a tear or two in my eyes. I mumbled something like “Thanks,” or “God bless you,” and went on my way.

That life lesson stuck with me. I can’t tell you how many times I have watched a grumpy cashier or servers turn their face into a grin when I’ve simply said. ‘Hi, how are you this most amazing day?” They will tell me they are fine or well or whatever and then the grin breaks out. “Thank you for asking!!!” I say it with sincerity. I genuinely do care.

What comes around goes around as they say? The other morning I was running late and needed some water to wash my BP pill down with. I swung into a long line at a fast food place to get a bottle of water. After what seemed like forever and my anxiety level rising higher and higher each moment because I just knew I was going to be late for everything for the rest of my natural life, I reached the window. A hand reached out with a bottle of water. I fumbled for my wallet and the person said “Apparently you have a new friend John, because the person in front of you paid for your water. Have a good day.”

I did

When we were kids there was a chant prescribed mostly as a negative. It went “I’m rubber, you’re glue. Anything you say bounces off me and sticks on to you.” So maybe, just maybe we turn it around. And anything I say bounces off me and sticks on to you, especially the warmth, love and affection.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BRIDGIEEE 8/14/2012 11:38AM

    I love this.

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SNOWANGELDIVA 8/13/2012 8:33AM

    Namaste, John!
Excellent message.

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LYNMEINDERS 8/12/2012 12:48AM

    This is so so true....
I have been speaking to people I cross paths with for years now and it is amazing how they speak to me first now....and they always have a smile when they see me coming....

Glad that this is how you live as are right...what goes around comes around.....
Look out for the awesome blessings that comes with it....woohoo

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VICTORY2XS 8/11/2012 1:17PM

    Amazing post. I think of the difference you made in that young girl's day each time you said hello. I think of the way you must have felt when the person ahead of you paid for your water.

These all may seem small, but we remember them. When we think of them, our day brightens a little, our step becomes a bit lighter.

I want to influence someone in a positive way like that every day. I know the difference a smile or kind word can make in someone's day. At work, I was called Smile, some called me Bubbly. It has always made me happy knowing I made someone else smile.

And I hope it is infectious!

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Sometimes it's the littlest of things that prove to us that the world really is a good place in spite of those few horrible people that make it seem so ugly.


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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 8/8/2012 9:20AM


Very nice reminder for all of us....

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SHELLIECAN 8/8/2012 8:27AM

    Its true.. and theres nothing nicer than when someone asks how you are and actually waits for an answer. I always do...otherwise the words are insincere, arent they ?
Pay It Forward..should be everybodys motto.

Wonderful thoughts as always John


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MYOWNHERO 8/7/2012 10:32PM

    Ah ha! A random act of kindness!

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THESLIMMERME1 8/7/2012 4:02AM

    It's true - its amazing what a 'smile' or good word can do not only for the person you give it to = but yourself. I have experienced the same 'kindness at a drive through'; it certainly gives a 'boost to your day!' emoticon emoticon

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NASFKAB 8/7/2012 12:43AM

  great one for pointing how we can make a difference in a person's life

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NASFKAB 8/7/2012 12:40AM

  great one as usual

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KATRINAKAT23 8/6/2012 9:03PM

  This was a great post. Such a wonderful message. We just never know how we impact someone's life sometimes.

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MARITIMER3 8/6/2012 7:55PM

    Nice one, John. We never know how much our greeting, or our patience in listening, can affect someone else.

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NEWMOM20121 8/6/2012 7:29PM

    A smile and kind word goes a long way. Thank you for the reminder. So glad you were the recipient of a kind deed, you deserve it.

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/6/2012 7:26PM

    LOVE it, John! Just when you need it. Guardian angels... amazing the timing our Maker has!

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DOODIE59 8/6/2012 6:35PM

    Very uplifting. Thank you for sharing and for the reminding that we need to slow down and remember that everyone around us has a story.

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SLIMLEAF 8/6/2012 6:08PM

    What an uplifting message!
Thanks for sharing it.

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    Wow! This blog is wonderful! The kindness of a stranger is powerful. We never know how much good we do by just being kind to others.


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ANATASHIKI 8/6/2012 4:45PM

    it happens to me all the time but the people involved are not important. I always feeel like I'm dealing with "the universe" . "universe "being one of the many names of God of course :D. "luck "is another one emoticon

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RUNNINGOMA 8/6/2012 4:28PM

    I remember that saying.
"Cast your bread upon water and it will return to you after many days." Ecc. 11:1
What a blessing to know that there are some wonderful people in the world.

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SPARKENISTA 8/6/2012 4:01PM

    John--Another way of saying it is, "What goes around comes around!"

I have to say thank you for sharing but I'm not the least bit surprised.


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CASPIAN3 8/6/2012 2:41PM

  Thank you for sharing

AND wishing you a HAPPY day emoticon

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DEBRITA01 8/6/2012 2:14PM

    It only takes a minute to show some kindness...and, as you know, it can make the difference to someone. Thanks for the reminder! emoticon

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MINENA2 8/6/2012 1:34PM

    Wonderful blog!! Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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PURPLE180 8/6/2012 1:25PM

    I love this blog...I needed to read this today.

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    It really doesn't cost anything to be nice and kind. It should be the norm.

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HEALTHYME229 8/6/2012 12:12PM

    The simplest of gestures - a please or a thank you or a smile or holding the door - can mean so much to some folks are really require little effort on our part. Thanks for a sweet reminder of this very true principle.

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STSCOTT11 8/6/2012 12:07PM

    Awww...THAT IS JUST WONDERFUL. THANK YOU for such a positive blog.

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SPARKL3 8/6/2012 12:02PM

    You are so right! The benefits of smiles and simple words of encouragement are far-reaching. It's like that Liberty Mutual commercial that was on TV a couple years ago. Someone does something nice for a stranger, and people pass on the love to others......... It makes the world a better place!

Thanks for a great blog!

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SANDRALEET 8/6/2012 11:56AM

    The simplest things mean so much .I say things like nice outfit love your hair .Hold doors open when peoples hands are full .Say thank you. Be kind and smile treat people with respect. emoticon

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PGNBRI 8/6/2012 11:51AM

    What a wonderful post John!

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VONBLACKBIRD 8/6/2012 11:43AM

    I agree...what goes around comes around whether good or bad..we need to always pay it forward even if it is nothing but a cheery greeting or a smile. Thanks.

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LMULLINS4LIFE 8/6/2012 11:43AM

    Beautiful. I love people like you.

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JLOVESDOGS 8/6/2012 11:36AM

    Just reading your blog today put me in a good mood! Thank you!! emoticon

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GINA180847 8/6/2012 11:13AM

    I just spent the weekend with a bunch of warm and fuzzy people and I sure agree with you. Bless you for looking for the positive instead of wanting to be clever and saying something negative. The world is a better place for it.

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LAWRALOO 8/6/2012 10:50AM

    Your positive attitude never ceases to amaze me, John.
Have an amazing day

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THEBEV2 8/6/2012 10:30AM

    This brought tears to my eyes! So often we wonder if our little gestures of friendliness have any impact on the world. Your example was a beautiful reminder that YES! we can make a difference in someone's life, no matter how small. And how lovely that the young lady actually took the time to say thank you. I keep smiling and waving to a man I see on my daily walks. It's been a couple of years now, no response at all from him. No return smile, no wave. I was about to give up on him but your message has encouraged me to keep on! Thanks so much.

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BAMAJAM 8/6/2012 10:28AM

  "warmth. love and affection"----- How important indeed! Often the smallest gesture of kindness can lift the spirit of another. John, I am sure that your kind gestures are most sincere. I commend you for your "warmth, love and affection'---and I am happy to read your blogs! God bless you!

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DIANE7786 8/6/2012 10:12AM

    I also remember the rubber/glue saying as negative. I wonder why no one ever turned it around--until you. Thanks!

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REGILIEH 8/6/2012 10:03AM

    Beautiful!!!! Beautiful!!! Beautiful!!!!

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MAMADWARF 8/6/2012 9:58AM

    Love this!!!!!

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BEATLETOT 8/6/2012 9:57AM

    A gorgeous blog, but I'm sure you already knew that. =)

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HDHAWK 8/6/2012 9:48AM

    A very nice reminder of how to make a better day for someone else and for us!

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