Ok so I think I mentioned the Nick getting kicked out of summer school for taking one of Doug's pocketknives to school. So I go to his "Manifestation Meeting" and I was all prepared to stand up and do my MOM thing, but no matter what I said, they had made their decision before I even got there.
Nick is labeled as being "Emotionally and Behaviorally Disabled", I think that Nick does things spur of the moment and has NO thought about the consequences that could follow. I told them he gets the 1+1 but he doesnt make to the =2.........know what I mean?
So all my talk was nothing. I walked out in tears and just sat in my car crying for about 5 minutes before I could even drive, I was MAD and I was HURT! These women do not know my son, this is summer school, they have known him for 10 days, yet they are so quick to crucify him.
So more therapy....then last Saturday night, it was after midnight and I told him to turn tv off and go to bed, as we all were. I am in bed and twice I got back up and told him to turn it off, the third time I unhooked the Cable Box, then SATAN entered the room!!! And I aint kidding!
I saw a boy I have never seen before!!! He cussed me, screaming to just let him die, just to kill him, F this F that! He physically charged me swinging, I won THAT, I pinned him down on the bed and told him to CALM DOWN AND BREATHE!" My God!
Anyway he got away from me and hauled butt out the front door barefooted. So I called Crisis Line and Doug went looking. I must say the Crisis guy could NOT have given a rats ass.... I asked should I call the police? Was told, "no they wont do much anyway, call your neighbors and see if they see him in there yards, he will most likely return on his own". WHAT? CALL NEIGHBORS? Um NO, anyway Doug comes back and daniel and I jump in the car with my 1 million light beamer that plugs into cig lighter and went looking. Here comes the fun part.............
I make it 1/2 mile away at a little Exxon/country store near us. There he is sitting in front of the glass doors looking at his feet. Must have hurt after running 1/2 miles with no shoes. He has a huge chunk of cement from God knows where that he has thrown at the door (thank God for plexiglass) he has knocked over trashcans, newspaper machine, ripped all the signs down around the gas pumps, had all the gas handles laying on the ground, ripped all the cute plants up and threw them around, cig thing knocked over, etc. etc.
So to make matters even WORSE, a man pulls up and asked me if this was my son and I said Yes and he proceeds to tell me how Nick threw rocks at his car as he was driving down the road! He was being very nice actually, and was talking to Nick about how he could of have ana accident etc, and Nick BOLTS! Runs across the road without looking, I just covered my eyes!!!! So I call Police, the man jets after him and brings him back, slings him on the pavement, breaking his glasses (at least not his neck) and holds him there. He calls Police, I said I already had......SO 5, yes 5 Police Cars show up. Nick is handcuffed and placed in back of one. So we explained everything, the man said his car was fine and he left.
So I am walking around trying to clean everything up (I stop here daily) and I get to the car and I asked Nick "Well, is THIS where you wanted to be? " And he throws his hands up showing me he is out of the cuffs, bare feet on the ceiling and banging his head against the window, like on COPS.
At this point, Doug was there and I was ready to stroke out....I told them I have never seen this in him before, blah, blah, blah. So one Policeman gets on radio and comes back saying the Juvenile Detention Home wont take him. REALLY? Did he NOT DO ENOUGH?
So they give him to me and we go home where we all just kinda fell out. I was SO exhausted, mentally and physically.
Though I DID call the CRISIS guy back and let him know all that happened, so that next time he may WANT to have the Police help search a little, what a ding dong.
So back to therapist, she sends him to get tested, so I took him to a Behavioral Center on Monday night, met the guy, Nick was bouncing off the walls. He took note. He gave me some question papers to fill out, a set for each parent. To bring and back and then he will test him and then get results in a couple of days. WOW!
So regular therapist Monday, MY MUCH NEEDED GROUP TUESDAY, and then The Office Of Student Conduct Wednesday, where they will probably kick him out of school. I am going to take all my stuff to show I am doing everything I possibly can to see whats going on inside his head, what else can I do?
So I feel better after typing all this and seeing it in front of me, thanks to all who make it all the way through this NOVEL! Please pray that I can help Nick find his way, he is such a sweet, compassionate and loving child (14) I hate to see him get really punished IF he truly has no control over his impulsive actions........I JUST DONT KNOW.
Love to all my Sparkies!!!!