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Loving Yourself ?

Monday, July 30, 2012

Why do we have to “love/embrace/be happy” who we are/were as fat people? I read so many places where people clarify that “Yes, I loved myself despite being 20/50/100/whatever pounds overweight.” Is that the politically correct thing to qualify? Are we going to be ostracized if we do not take that stance? I’m not saying that it is not possible but it is the complete opposite for me. I loathed myself for not having the ability to lose weight; for not having control over my eating; for spending my entire life over-weight; for not being happy with who I was. It was my motivation for finally losing the weight and changing my lifestyle. I have realized only now, a good two years into this journey, that I still have issues at heart that I have to deal with (although I haven’t been able to label them yet). Losing weight is not the magic pill for happiness. But, with that being said, I am exponentially happier with who I am now. Losing this weight has lifted a huge mental weight off my shoulders and my anxiety levels have dropped considerably. I still have work to do and the balance between food/exercise will always exist but I can say that now I am happy with myself.
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    What I take away from the "love yourself no matter what" mentality, is that it is especially important during the journey. Since some of us have a LOOONNNG journey ahead of us to lose the weight, we are bound to slip up and have that piece of cake or two or three. If we are practicing self love, we will not resort to saying damaging things to ourselves ("you fat pig"; "your disgusting"; "you can never do anything") and just move forward, being kind to ourself for the slip up, and carry on. At least, that what it means to me. And even though it's hard, I am practicing trying to love myself exactly as I am now. I am still trying to lose weight, but I am not waiting until goal to love myself
    2055 days ago
    Losing weight is not a promise for loving yourself. And you can definitely love yourself in spite of your faults, you don't have to love everything, just love in general, maybe?
    2055 days ago
    Totally intriguing question and blog. I am glad you are loving life and yourself -that is really all that matters.

    So go on with your bad self!

    2055 days ago
    I assumed that when 'they' said to "love the fat" it was to love that self-abusing person and I wouldn't. I hate her. She wrecked my life on every level. When I decided NOT to embrace her destructive behaviours, I was free. Free to love myself enough to not tolerate excess consumption, verbal abuse and overall negative outlook.
    I took it to mean to 'count my blessings' and 'build my dreams' as the way to "love the fat" instead and it has done me good.
    If I hadn't detested what I had done to myself, why would I change it? If I embraced mediocisy in my self care, how would I have conquered over weight related illness?
    I agree with you. I think the way "loving yourself" is presented in the words they chose has caused many people to stumble on getting on a personal journey to healthier lifestyle because they don't see where they're at is destructive.

    2056 days ago
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