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Just The Way We Are

Monday, July 30, 2012

I had just finished reading some really good insights from Sparker JENNKFIT about how advertisements (even the ones here at Spark.) are often misleading. JENNKFIT was writing about an advertisement which said you could get a bikini body before the end of summer by exercising five minutes a day. I saw the add myself. An attractive, svelte model ran along the beach, the waves cascading behind her. She had that look of happiness……. All in five minutes per day!!! Sign me up, lol!!! If we were on Facebook I’d say “Everyone who has fallen for these ads at one time or another hit “like.” There would be a lot of “likes.” We all have this hidden belief that the magic formula is right around the corner. Sure it takes hard work, dedication and sacrifice, but come on dear friends, who wouldn’t want a bona fide short cut to all of that if it were legitimate? It’s like the Holy Grail of weight loss. No one I know enjoys suffering. Click your heels three times and……… Let’s come back down to earth. It’s awfully frustrating to work so hard and see so few results. It’s why we will believe almost anything. It’s why we choose to give any slim hope a shot. Remember how frustrating it was when you realized there were no short cuts. Yeah……… Me Too.
As I pondered this my phone rang. On the other end of the phone was my gym manager. She didn’t want to “put me on the spot,” but she had a question for me. Had I been on an elliptical machine a few Saturdays ago when a member had a verbal joust with one of the trainers? Yup, I had. I know both very well. They are dedicated, healthy and for the most part intelligent people, but like you and I they can be swayed by all the pressure and hype that comes with maintaining your healthy appearance.

The person on the machine next to me was “getting it.” She had sweat pouring down her face; she was breathing hard and making me look like a slacker. Oh, yeah, she was close to nine months pregnant. The trainer suggested she might slow it down just a bit because her face was red and her breathing a bit erratic. She told the trainer to mind her own business. As she dismounted the machine she stumbled and appeared dizzy. The trainer moved in to assist her. She sat her on a couch, took her blood pressure and called the EMT’s. After a while they phoned her husband to come fetch her as we say in the south. She wasn’t allowed back until she had obtained a doctors release.

Two days later my fellow gym member had “never felt so humiliated in her life.” She phoned the gym manager demanding not only to be allowed to work out as she determined but she wanted the trainer fired. My view was the trainer acted professionally. She explained to the member what her concerns were and did it calmly. If there were any epithets’ thrown around it came from my fellow road warrior.

Now, I’ve never been pregnant, not even close, but I can tell you I have acted that irrationally myself, in the past, when someone told me to dial it down a notch. How dare they??? Later on, when I processed all the info it dawned on me it wasn’t how healthy I wanted to be it was how I wanted to look – Running down the beach, grin on my face and people murmuring in amazement. I’d do anything to feel that.

I look amazing. I am handsome, healthy and sexy. So are you, just as you are. Now have an amazing day you healthy, happy, sexy person --- Just the way you are

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GODSGALS 8/16/2012 8:54PM

    As a certified trainer I can tell you from experience this happens. More than you'd expect. But I also know one other thing. When I see one homo sapien humiliate another fellow of the species, especially in public, it tells me WAY more about the insulting than the insulted. Just sayin'.

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ASRMOM 8/2/2012 9:45AM

    Great blog!!

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    To be honest if it only took 5 minutes a day there are those of us who are stubborn enough and lazy enough to not be able to do that at times. I won't mention any names. emoticon LOL.

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CBRIGGS1956 7/31/2012 2:07PM

    Thanks John, but would any of us be here if we were happy with just the way we are?

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SNOWANGELDIVA 7/31/2012 8:28AM

    If I was 9mo preggo and pushing hard at my exercise it's because I'd be busting my chops to jiggle junior out!
"Here's your notice Small Fry!" *jiggle-jiggle.

If her indignation was due to her healthy, happy, and sexy vanity she'd be of the elite of 'Great with Child' women. I don't remember feeling like a healthy, happy, sexy mama in the latter part of, although I'd agree that her tantrum was immature I'm actually quite impressed the more of her. She works hard and loves the results and is not ashamed to make herself look like a fool before letting go of her dream of being the elite preggo ~ not letting her sexy go.

blessed brat.

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LYNMEINDERS 7/31/2012 5:46AM

    Awesome as always

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NASFKAB 7/31/2012 12:25AM

  great as usual

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MYOWNHERO 7/30/2012 11:22PM

    I hope the trainer knows she behaved perfectly well. But with that said...pregnancy hormones made me somewhat irrational at that stage. I might have done a few things that would be considered over-reactive now that I think about it.

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GEEMAWEST 7/30/2012 11:08PM

    Yes John, you are amazing and thanks for reminding me that I am too! emoticon

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CARTOONB 7/30/2012 10:48PM

    Yes you are!

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LMULLINS4LIFE 7/30/2012 4:44PM

    So hard to listen to the trainer! But they are usually right! ;)

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ANGIEJAY77 7/30/2012 12:53PM

    I hope you have an amazing day yourself!! Thanks for posting! This blog is right on!

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SJKENT1 7/30/2012 11:08AM

    Sometimes the "right thing to do" is tough. Good for that trainer - that's one of the reasons she is there. I hope the woman will be able to see the truth through the sweat.

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BLUEROSE73 7/30/2012 10:53AM

    wow. What a difficult situation. That poor woman. Something is eating away at her. I hope everything settles down soon. Pregnancy horomones can be so hard on a woman.

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GINA180847 7/30/2012 10:33AM

    I too agree the trainer did the right thing and deserves a medal. What fruitcakes we are sometimes and we should be careful not to act like spoiled children. Thank you I am every bit as happy, healthy and sexy as we all think I am.

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DEARTOMYHEART 7/30/2012 10:22AM

  God bless the trainer.. I'm so glad God loves me for who He created me to be. We all have unrealistic thought of what we should be, but in all honesty, God love us know matter what and we need to remember that we are made in his image. We are to be healthy and physically active, that is how we were made. We are meant to be active. How ever, active the healthy way, not over doing it to the point of physical harm.
John, you have a great day and thanks so much for sharing. God bless. emoticon emoticon

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SPARKENISTA 7/30/2012 8:47AM

    There is definitely some information missing here. The gym member is completely out of line. She is endangering herself and her unborn child. Perhaps she is feeling pressure to look great or get back into shape after her pregnancy by working out during her pregnancy. Some women feel that they should snap back the way celebrities do.

When I was pregnant (24 years ago) I was doing Jane Fonda's Pregnancy CD. My La Maze trainer and my doctor told me to dial it down. Believe me, it was not as strenuous as what this woman is doing.

The trainer in your gym should get a medal. She is 100% correct, as is the gym's requirement that the woman bring a doctor's note. If, heaven forbid, the strenuous workout precipitated a medical crisis for this woman and her baby she would not hesitate to sue the gym b/c they should have "known" better.

I hope that all works out in the end with a healthy mother and baby.


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DOODIE59 7/30/2012 8:34AM

    I'm puzzled by that member's over reaction ... the trainer had her best interests at heart. And the baby's.

Separately, the most important lesson we need to learn is the absolute miracle of our body and souls. We are what we are, and it's amazing. If we work from that base of true and positive energy, the synergy will be astounding. Together, we are more than the sum of our parts.

Wishing you a wonderful day, John:)

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VONBLACKBIRD 7/30/2012 8:26AM

    We are all amazing..made in God's image...Thanks for the blog.

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HDHAWK 7/30/2012 8:17AM

    That's a tough situation for both of them.
Your last sentence is still one I struggle to believe when it comes to myself. Thanks for the reminder!

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SANDRALEET 7/30/2012 8:14AM

    Self will rudeness and wanting the unattainable Youth worship is the way of the world fast and without effort and right now is the way.I am so glad God likes me the way I am and I will get where I can be .I am who God made me.

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ONEKIDSMOM 7/30/2012 8:11AM

    What a difficult balance for the trainer to have to strike. My humble opinion... keep the trainer. Worth her weight in gold. I have to wonder whether if the trainer had been a guy our PG member friend would have had the same reaction.

Sigh. Human emotions, hormones, and image seeking... volatile. Hope it works out well for all concerned in the end. Including that precious child about to be born!

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