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Sunday, July 29, 2012

I began blogging as a way to keep myself accountable and hopefully encourage someone on the same journey. I share very openly and honestly from my own personal journey. I know that everyone's path to "Health & Fitness" is unique as we start from many different points of origin in very different "vehicles".

Most of the comments left by people on my blog are very encouraging. They make me want to share my journey and observations. I've shared my ups and downs, my recipes, my "food finds", even some light-hearted moments along the way. The hard part of being so open is that from time to time someone reads my blog and leaves a comment that is hurtful.

I had one person send me a sparkmail that was so full of venom I cried. I'm just a struggler on the journey like anyone else. I don't claim to have anything but my personal experience for whatever that's worth. It almost makes me want to stop writing but my DH said don't let WORDS make you stumble.

He's so right. How many times in my past have I let WORDS trigger an eating binge because the food was a comfort for those stinging barbs. How many times have I retreated to my kitchen with cookies, ice cream, etc. to salve those verbal wounds. Words are powerful things. Finding a way to cut them down to the mere syllables they are is tough, but I'm trying.

I DIDN'T succumb to food today (that's the victory). I'm thankful to all of you that encourage me to write. I hope in some small way I can save you from a mistake I've made or make your way a little easier by having journeyed ahead of you.

As Scarlett said "Tomorrow is another day!"

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    You are so inspiring and so appreciated. Please don't let one thoughtless person deprive us all of you wonderful insight and courage.
    2061 days ago
    I want to start by saying i'm sorry, that someone would feel that they had the right to say mean and hateful things to someone. I can only speak for myself, but I know I couldn't blog like you guys do. And if someone doesn't like what you write
    just go on. You don't have to write, but if you do you write write nice. I want to thank you for posting (blogging!) emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2061 days ago
    thank you for your blog and all the others that you have written. I do enjoy them and get good out of each one as it pertains to me. I even print some of them that hit home the most to have when my internet is down. Please don't let one person stop you from what you enjoy and is helpful advise to others. Take care, Lucinda
    2061 days ago
    yup yup - what they all said.

    give your DH a big hug for being your staunch supporter - and stand in the shielding friendship of all the rest of us sparkers.

    Isn't it great you have a delete key?
    2062 days ago
    Words, words, words. You have what your detractor does not, and that is a way with words. You have a positive attitude, a generous spirit and a willingness to share as you travel your journey and blog about your ups, downs, and lessons learned.

    Count this as one more lesson learned; it is unfortunate that someone out there chose to be hurtful instead of helpful and mean instead of kind.

    We can all be thankful that in our ''worst of times'' we are not so vindictive and small to reach out to a perfect stranger and anonymously (cowardly) inflict pain on an innocent soul. Shame on that person for not having the moral compass to act decently to a fellow human being on the journey.

    Words, words, words. I hope these words lift you and leave you feeling peaceful inside. You are blessed, and you are loved.

    Thank you for having the courage to share.
    2062 days ago
  • KIPPER15
    Don't let nay sayers get you down. There is always someone who has to rain on the parade. You speak from the heart and inspire people. Don't let one jerk push you around. Lashing out is childish, shows envy and weakness. Boo suck to that person. You rock. emoticon emoticon
    2062 days ago
  • XMAS2012
    I'm sorry that happened. Thank you for sharing your journey! I always look forward to your blogs! ALWAYS! Congrats on your NSV victory as well!!!
    2062 days ago
  • SJOHNS30
    WHAT!? I am flabbergasted! What negative thing could anyone have come up with AND how could anyone personally email someone to attack them? This completely blows my mind. If they don't want to join in on the journey to lose weight and to get healthy WHY ARE THEY ON THIS WEBSITE!? Plus, WHY DID THEY CLICK ON YOUR BLOG!? It's not like you showed up at their house and pushed your views on them. They joined SP and they clicked on your blog. What a coward for not saying what they thought for everyone to see. They thought they could bully and intimidate you through personal messages. How sad for them. Hopefully karma is as kind and forgiving as you have been... but usually what goes around comes around. I certainly hope you reported the message to SP. I certainly don't want such an abusive person on arguably the most positive website ever to have existed. Keep doing what you're doing!
    2062 days ago
    Another lesson in the journey! We get to learn how to blow these people off! Or kick that email off in a kick boxing class! You have so much insight into this thing called "Life"! The short time I have been blessed to stumble across your blogs I have been given more things to think about, reminders and encouragement. You are amazing.... Don't let one bad apple get in the way of your incredible journey! emoticon emoticon with not turning to food as a band aide! emoticon Now that's what I call victory!!!!!
    2063 days ago
    Good for you for not letting this person bring you down. Good for you for knowing your triggers. You use your powers for good, not evil. I would have to chalk this up it being that person's problem. Not yours. I appreciate your vulnerability, honesty and openness. It makes me feel understood and not alone. Please keep on sharing your gift with us. That person can choose not to read your blog.

    I appreciate you!
    2063 days ago

    It's sad that someone felt the need to lash out at you. Whatever you wrote must have struck a nerve, and while it was wrong to be nasty to you, hopefully they will learn from the experience. Maybe not now, but hopefully in the future. That's what you can hope for. There is a lot of wisdom, optimism, and hope in your blogs. Please continue! You are appreciated!!

    2063 days ago
    I would like to say that I can't believe this happened to you but the simple fact is that some people are mean. With so many encouraging people in this community it's hard to believe someone would have the audacity to try to bring you down. In the end, I think it's their insecurities and jealousy trying to hurt you.

    I'm so happy you didn't let it bring you down. You are amazing. Your blogs are amazing. You touch and inspire so many of us. This one person isn't worth the tears.

    Keep doing what YOU do!
    2063 days ago
  • 123ELAINE456
    Im so sorry this happened to you. You did'nt deserve it at all. You are a Good Writer that Motivate, Inspire and Help a lot of People. Will Agree with your Husband on this one. He is Right. Don't let this one person bring you down to their level. You are a much better person than that. Consider the source and forget it. You have written some Amazing Blogs that people have enjoyed reading them. So PRESS ON. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Take Care. You Can Do It.
    2063 days ago
    I totally agree with everyone! People usually attack from a place of weakness, or insecurity....don't let it stop you! What a NSV to be able to weather this and not binge--this pattern is part of my makeup as well and sometimes I can not binge and sometimes I binge after hurtful words...

    I thoroughly enjoy your blogs and certainly get some motivation and inspiration from each of them!

    2063 days ago
    The pen is mightier than the sword they say and words can certainly cut deep! What a very bad place this person must be in to lash out in such a nasty way. When people are unkind like that it usually stems from their own insecurities, fears and unhappiness and is nothing to do with the person on the receiving end.

    Keep on blogging for all of us who appreciate it and well done on not turning to food for comfort. emoticon
    2063 days ago
    I dind it scary how some people can truly jump and lash out at people for what they say in their own blog. This is your space and they need to respect that.
    2063 days ago
    How many Popular Blog Awards have you won??

    Do not, for even one minute, let anyone slow you down with words. You hit a cord with that person. Made a connection. It was an inappropriate response from them - but it WAS a response. I am gonna bet that after further reflection, that individual realized that your words "spoke truth to them" and sometimes the truth is difficult.

    PRESS ON!! You made and im-press-ion!! emoticon
    2063 days ago
    Hugs! I just had someone attack me in one of my posts and then plagiarize half of it so she could attack my thoughts further. It hurt a lot and demoralized my sparking for a couple of days.
    2063 days ago
  • YVETTE59
    I feel very sad that person had to be negative. I would have thought everyone who is on this journey must have food problems and have been themselves hurt by the comments of others! To then turn around and in turn be negative to another on the same journey........If this person sent you a SPARKMAIL rather than post the comments for all of us to see then should the word COWARD be used? I just hope all of our love can in some way erase those comments from memory!
    2063 days ago
    I SOOOO agree with your DH....
    I love reading your blogs and am always motivated and encouraged to do better and try harder to focus in order to achieve my goals....
    Don't let someone who is possibly jealous put you off....
    stand firm....
    The victory you had today can be a daily victory for all of us....
    2063 days ago
    I honestly think you have a real knack for writing and I encourage you to keep blogging. Don't let negativity pull you down... the World is full of it. Just keep "pressing" on.

    2063 days ago
    I love reading your blog entries and I love that you turned someone's hurtful words into your own victory (not giving in to comfort food) every time that I read about someone else's experience and their victories, it helps me on my journey! Please keep on blogging!!
    2063 days ago
    I'm so sorry that you were hurt. I don't know why people can't live by the old adage...if you don't have anything nice to say, than keep your mouth shut!
    I find your blogs very entertaining, helpful and inspiring. Good for you for not giving into the hurt feelings and make a bad choice!!! Very proud of you!!
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    2063 days ago
    Absolutely don't let the words make you stumble. Just live your truths and follow your path - they are obviously on their own, not so positive path. And be a duck! Let it roll off your back!
    2063 days ago
    Oh my dear, I'm so sorry to hear that. That doesn't seen fair at all. I agree wholeheartedly that you're speaking solely from your very own experiences. It takes work on your part, both physically and mentally to get your words out on paper. "Bricks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." Remember that from when you were growing up in school and in your neighborhood? Words can hurt us, but it's so good when we've learn to let them go and to let them just roll off our backs and not succomb ourselves to food. You've done such a good job in that dept. Keep up your good work because you're sure helping me! Thank you and have a good night's sleep tonight. You deserve it!
    2063 days ago
    I m so sorry that happened to you. I ENJOY all your blogs. Chin up. My pastor once told me...dont let someone else control your emotions....

    2063 days ago
    I'm sorry to hear that. There are always jerks out there. Please shut them out, they don't know you. Listen to the positive ones. You can do it, and I'm proud of you.
    2063 days ago
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