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Thursday, July 26, 2012

My poor 6 year old son has been constipated for the last few days and it's really, really stressful for me. I'm going to have to start giving him Miralax again, which isn't a big deal, but I really thought we were past this. Potty training was a horrible experience with this child. He's in so much pain and just refuses to go poop because he's terrified that it's going to hurt. I feel so helpless. emoticon I feel like such a terrible mother. My poor kid is clenching his cheeks together so hard and so often that he has headaches from the effort. He's always been a picky eater, but I think this time it's stress/anxiety that's causing it. He's worried about going on a plane for our vacation, worried about starting first grade, etc...

We don't have set routines for anything (eg. dinner on the table at 6:30), which might be causing him even more anxiety so I feel like if I would just get my s... together and make a balanced meal he (& the rest of the family) will eat every day at the same time, this wouldn't be happening. I know I really do need to develop more of a routine for meals and everything else in our lives, but it's not easy for me. It feels darn close to impossible for me - I didn't grow up that way and have no frame of reference. I'm overwhelmed. emoticon I work full time, leave the house at 7:45 and don't get home until 5:30. The LAST thing I want to do is get right to the kitchen to figure out something to make for dinner. I'm not a good cook. I mean, sure I can follow a recipe, but I can't look at the crap in my fridge or cabinets and "see" all the ingredients for any particular meal and I don't have the energy to look through my cookbook collection for "inspiration" that isn't going to hit me anyway.

I need to find a meal planner that will actually work for my family. I know SP has one, but honestly, the meals it comes up with are not things I would even consider eating - EVER. I have found a few online, I just haven't found one that makes me feel like I can actually do it.

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    Please please please don't beat yourself up! Functional stool holding is a really common thing in kids and does not reflect on your abilities as a mother! This is NOT your fault!!! Keep doing the Miralax daily (for the foreseeable future - no stopping) and have set potty times (after school, before dinner, whatever works) until he has one to two easy to pass stools a day. You hit the nail on the head that consistency is the key. You do know what to do! And emoticon

    As far as evening meals, I am in the same boat. The last thing on earth I want to do when I get home exhausted at the end of the day is go into the kitchen and make dinner. I am also not one of those people who can throw random items in my fridg together and make a fantastic meal. No Sir! I need recipes. Simple easy to follow ones with a few ingredients as possible. No fancy herbs or spices or sauces or add ins that I will use 1/4 tsp of once and then never again. emoticon I have found success with my turbo cooker and the recipes they provide. Not sure they even sell those anymore but I love mine. Also with my crockpot . You can throw 5 things into a crockpot, turn it on, walk out the door, and come home to a hot ready to serve dinner. Genius! I have a set of go to recipes I know are tasty and work for me.I will also sometimes make meals at random times a day. I made turkey chili in the crockpot during the day yesterday while I was home. Had it for dinner. I don't always wait until mealtime to make my food. I will also occassionally make two meals at once and save one for the next day. Kill two birds with one stone if you know what I mean. The point is, do what works for you!

    Now as I am single I don't need to worry about anyone else liking what I make. But you have a family, do you have any other adults around that can help you with meal planning and preparation? You sound like you could use some support. Please reach out and get some. You are worth it!

    Sorry so long!!! emoticon
    2035 days ago
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