I'm happy to report that I'm starting to look thinner (to myself) again. When I look in the mirror, I see thinner arms and a thinner face. When lying in bed, I see thinner FEET.
I don't see thinner legs and butt, because I don't see them a lot (most of my mirror gazing is shoulders-up), but I *FEEL* loser pants (LOVE that!).
I worked my tail off yesterday, so hubbs was on his own. But when left to his own devices, his diet is AWFUL. He eats like a 10-year old. Yesterday, he chose mac n' cheese, 2 bowls of cereal (with half & half!!! not milk!) and potato chips with sour cream & onion dip. This is no exaggeration, this was exactly what he ate yesterday, everything all day, in order of consumption.
When we talked about it, I asked him why he would eat this way. He shugged and said sheepishly "I don't have anything else". I reminded him that on our last trip to the grocery store (TOGETHER) we just bought about 10 preportioned servings of frozen fish, and frozen vegetables. Good, healthy food, to which he can add any type of sauce or spice he wished. We are well stocked.
He said "That's YOUR food. I can't eat YOUR food!"
I assured him I'd rather he ate "MY" food than what he did eat. We can buy more. And even though we have only one car now, he can certainly drive it to the store and buy something for dinner.
The problem is, we always seem to fall into this mother-child paradigm where I buy healthy foods that I want us both to eat, and HE buys junk food or "treats" like chips, ice cream, pastries... anything other than what would be considered part of a healthy, planned meal. Like that part is MY job exclusively.
In frustration, I asked him what he would do if he lived on his own. He grinned and looked a little embarrassed... even though it was a serious question.
Folks, the guy is over 40, never exercises, and smokes. He doesn't get medical or dental checkups. If I were being kind, I'd describe it as "Spartan"; if I were being funny, I'd say "caveman".
In actuality, it is serious. And not good. And I feel helpless to change him.