Emotionally Exhausted

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Tonight has been such a bad night. My Dad called me and pretty much cussed me out. He said that when I was home on the 14th that I was rude to Becky and him. That I didn't spend anytime with them and just hung around my SIL and my bff. Then went on to say he didn't appreciate the comments I made on Facebook pictures he posted. None of them were bad. He just read too much into it. Then told me if I didn't respect his choices he was making I didn't have to be in his life. This all happened while I was at work. So of course it made my night. By the time he hung up with me I was in tears. I didn't want to talk because he wasn't listening too me at all. So I wrote him an email. I'm not sure what good it did. I just know that I don't want to lose my dad. But he needs to understand that I need to time to make it a ONE BIG HAPPY FAMILY already. My mom has only been passes away a year now. He is getting married to his ex-wife Becky on November 3rd. I need time to get used to this. She is nice don't get me wrong but I don't know her from a whole in the wall. Just because you have known her forever doesn't mean I have. Plus you knew this person 40 years ago. I'm pretty sure she isn't exactly the same as she was before. Or if she is why did you divorce her in the first place. It's crazy situation and he needs to realize there are more than just his and her feelings in this. He just wants everyone to get along and if we don't he is willing to not have anything to do with us. Too me that isn't the way to go.
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  • AMBER281
    Sending you lots of big emoticon !!
    Sorry you are going through such a difficult situation.
    1883 days ago
  • WHITNEY0814
    I'm sorry you are having a rough time with your dad. I hope he has a change in heart. Correct me if I'm wrong but maybe this is his way of coping with the loss of your mom? I mean to go from married to widowed to engaged in a year is quite drastic.

    Don't let him bother you too much. You aren't doing anything wrong. Just try to stay positive and try to be happy..

    1887 days ago
  • UNICORN212
    You have a lot of good advice here. I find it interesting that he was so upset, yet it took over a week for him to bring it up. Why didn't he say something sooner? Maybe will your email and some cooling off time he will see reason.
    1889 days ago
    Sending lots of emoticon your way. This is a difficult situation and it seems like emotions are running high for your dad, it sounds like you handled it the best you could and I'm sure he will appreciate the email. Hang in there honey.
    1889 days ago
    Hugs, so sorry you are having to go through this, family is so important! Hope your dad wakes up and sees what a wonderful caring daughter he has. And what he is putting you through.
    1889 days ago
    Sweetie...hang in there. This is such a hard situation for you and I'm so sorry. Your dad needs to be more understanding of what you're going through and not read too much into things or put so much pressure on you. You get to know her on your own time and when the time is right for you, it will happen. I love you twinsy
    1889 days ago
    I'm sorry you are going through this. My own dad was recently in a relationship with a woman that I could see wasn't going right from the start. He actually did end it with her about two weeks ago and I voiced to him how I felt about her from the start. The only problem is that when he ended it with her he got a new cell number and he lives in a different state and hasn't given me the new number yet either. So I am in the dark as to whether he has left her back in and doesn't want to tell me or if he has just been his usual scatter-brained self and forgot to give me the new number. It isn't unusual for us to go up to a month without a phone call due to work & life.

    I am positive though that your dad does not want to just cut you from his life. I think he needs a little time when cooler heads can prevail to think about it from your point of view. Hopefully that time comes soon for you both. :)
    1889 days ago
    Sorry you have to be going through this situation. I agree that sometimes mens emotions come out wrong or mixed up. Here's hoping your email might set things straight or at least make him realize how you feel. Keep your chin up and don't let this eat you up. Chances are it'll get cleared up soon!
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    1889 days ago
    Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I hope he comes to his senses soon. I don't understand why he would say he would cut you out of his life, you are his daugher! I hope/think he didn't mean that. I'm here if you need anything, Hugs, Lyn emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1889 days ago
    Aww emoticon I'm sorry.
    1889 days ago
    I can't believe he would cut you out of his life - just listen - sometimes men are so emotionally backward they don't realize that your needing support and ear and time also.

    He isn't perfect - never will be .... let his imperfections be his and put them away in that imperfect box in your head.

    I'm so sorry hun that you lost your mother - I am alot older than you and I have never stopped missing my mother either... she wants nothing more for you than happiness... so remember when you smiles - she smiles too in heaven...

    hugss sweetheart...
    1889 days ago
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