Monday, July 23, 2012
My friend Margo noticed I lost weight. Her response: "Congratulations, you look wonderful!" I walked away feeling like a million dollars.
In contrast, are my two cousins. To protect their identities let's called them Milly and Tilly. Some background: I previously witnessed Milly sabotage my niece's weight loss by harping on how skinny she was. As a result, my niece packed on unwanted poundage. Both Milly and her daughters are super slim by the way and we would not dream of commenting on their weight.
Let's cut to my recent visit with Milly and Tilly. Tilly: "Wow, how much weight did you lose?", "What are you eating?" " Tsk, tsk, 1200-1400 calories is not very much food?" "Do you exercise and if so, what are you doing?" "How much are you trying to get down to?" Then there was Milly" Do you still eat hamburgers and fries?" Let me comment here that Tilly exercises 6 or 7 days a week. Milly never eats a whole hamburger herself. She will eat half a hamburger with salad instead of fries. When I told them I had lost 39 pounds (in response to their questioning) Milly responded: "Well 2 days ago you told me you lost 36 pounds, don't tell me you lost 3 pounds so quickly!"
For those of you who are wondering what problem I had with this is think Spanish Inquisition.
I felt like I was under a spotlight and two detectives were grilling me about where I was the night of the crime.
A simple compliment like Margo's does the trick every time. I grow weary of accounting for every pound I lose and how it was done. It says to me, that people like Milly and Tilly are far too concerned with weighing and measuring the worth of a person by the pound and that is sad for them.