Friday, July 13, 2012
I just read a Daily Blog about vacations as a reward. As I read it I began to wonder if personal rewards for things we need to do any way are a post TV thing created by the psychologists of the world. I had totally dismissed the idea of a reward for me getting to my goal weight.
For Pete's sake this is what I should have done ten years ago and I'm going to reward myself for doing it now? I don't think so. I didn't take away any privileges when I gained the weight so now giving myself a reward is supposed to motivate me. NOT! Thinking about a reward is a distraction and, besides, getting healthy is the right thing to do. That's motivating.
OK, that's how I feel about it but I grew up before TV dominated our lives. I grew up when the three R's were the most important thing in education and my teachers didn't even think about my self esteem. If I didn't turn in the work I got a zero and if I didn't make passing grades I failed and didn't get promoted. Fear of failure was a motivator then but now it's something we are supposed to avoid teaching our children. Holding a child back for not learning is tantamount to emotional abuse these days. But I'm old so what could I possibly know about motivating anyone. I still have a healthy fear of failure.
Don't get me wrong I have no problem with going out for a special dinner to "celebrate" losing 20 lbs. but a trip to Europe(for us Colonials)
, seems a tad excessive to me. A trip across the channel for our UK friends is probably more reasonable. However, what's wrong with considering the success a reward in itself. Do you absolutely need another reward to motivate you? Isn't a friend asking you if you've lost weight a reward. If not - what is it? To actually create a healthy lifestyle you have to have a healthy thought process or else this is all just another diet.
When you feel good because you eat the right kinds of food in the right quantities routinely and enjoy the new foods you've found then your thinking has finally changed. When we get to that point we better not need rewards to keep it going.
OK, that's how rewards look through the eyes of an old codger with a young mind. I sure hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings but I also hope I caused someone to think. If you disagree please feel free to blast with both barrels. I love to hear dissenting opinions so I can look at something from a different perspective.
Enjoy the ride,