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Rewards - Do We really Need Them?

Friday, July 13, 2012

I just read a Daily Blog about vacations as a reward. As I read it I began to wonder if personal rewards for things we need to do any way are a post TV thing created by the psychologists of the world. I had totally dismissed the idea of a reward for me getting to my goal weight.
For Pete's sake this is what I should have done ten years ago and I'm going to reward myself for doing it now? I don't think so. I didn't take away any privileges when I gained the weight so now giving myself a reward is supposed to motivate me. NOT! Thinking about a reward is a distraction and, besides, getting healthy is the right thing to do. That's motivating.

OK, that's how I feel about it but I grew up before TV dominated our lives. I grew up when the three R's were the most important thing in education and my teachers didn't even think about my self esteem. If I didn't turn in the work I got a zero and if I didn't make passing grades I failed and didn't get promoted. Fear of failure was a motivator then but now it's something we are supposed to avoid teaching our children. Holding a child back for not learning is tantamount to emotional abuse these days. But I'm old so what could I possibly know about motivating anyone. I still have a healthy fear of failure.

Don't get me wrong I have no problem with going out for a special dinner to "celebrate" losing 20 lbs. but a trip to Europe(for us Colonials) emoticon, seems a tad excessive to me. A trip across the channel for our UK friends is probably more reasonable. However, what's wrong with considering the success a reward in itself. Do you absolutely need another reward to motivate you? Isn't a friend asking you if you've lost weight a reward. If not - what is it? To actually create a healthy lifestyle you have to have a healthy thought process or else this is all just another diet.

When you feel good because you eat the right kinds of food in the right quantities routinely and enjoy the new foods you've found then your thinking has finally changed. When we get to that point we better not need rewards to keep it going.

OK, that's how rewards look through the eyes of an old codger with a young mind. I sure hope I didn't hurt anyone's feelings but I also hope I caused someone to think. If you disagree please feel free to blast with both barrels. I love to hear dissenting opinions so I can look at something from a different perspective.

Enjoy the ride,

Lew
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JENGRAMMER 7/16/2012 10:09PM

    I'm in agreement on the non-material/financial rewards side of this blog.

As others have already said, I enjoyed things like putting aside clothing that was too large, being able to cross my legs again, not bulging out of clothing where I shouldn't bulge, and so on as you have already listed so aptly.

The best reward for me was when the dr. told me my blood pressure was back to normal, my cholesterol was back in normal range and I was no longer dangerously nearly a diagnosed diabetic. PHEW -- those were ominous medical conditions I was delighted to be rid of and no amount of trips or new clothes can top that reward.

Who needs a dinner out, when your dr. says those words? NOT ME...

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HONBAD 7/16/2012 11:55AM

    For me, a reward is what got the ball rolling but the benefits of feeling better is what has kept me on track since my reward has come and gone! I hope that is the case for most other people that use rewards.

I think rewards can be good or bad - I have heard of weight loss programs where people get money to lose the weight and that causes them to lose it the "wrong" way, such as crash dieting. They get the reward and then put all the weight back on, and ususally more. Which is believed to be even less healthy than if you just stayed at the same weight to begin with!

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MOM2GEO_JR 7/15/2012 8:44AM

    Lew, you are just a young codger. I agree with you also. I will be 81 next month, and I am just happy and thankful that I can improve my health. I don't need an expensive trip, expensive clothes, as I am a simple women. I just like when people give me a nice smile, a hug, or saying you are looking good. Thanks for bringing this to our attention. Sometimes we forget what REAL REWARDS are. Not the material things, but things that we can do each and every day.

Thanks again young codger. My rewards are the friends that I have meet here on Sparks, who needs more????

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REXTINE1 7/14/2012 7:58PM

    You got a lot of people's attention. I'm older than you are, and I think part of the problem is not only the things you mentioned, but the fact that families get spread too far apart. I had not only a father, but uncles and grandparents on farms, and no one would let you goof off.

One time I recall a bunch of men loafing in a hardware store, when I was a teenager, and I said that I remembered when there was no television. The next guy said that he remembered when there were no movies. Then one old guy said he remembered when there was no baseball (he was 95 at the time, still farming). Time goes fast, and everything is always changing.

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ROBBGIN 7/14/2012 5:01PM

    Interesting blog and interesting comments! One team I'm on had us list our rewards for what we accomplish in our 60-day challenge, which is good for those who are motivated by rewards. Some put down new clothes, some a manicure and a pedicure, others a trip. Likewise, my reward is just losing the weight I've carried for so many years, being able to get into some clothes I grew out of, have more energy and feeling better both physically and mentally, and lastly finally feeling like I can tackle my den cleanup where it has become the family junk room for all the stuff no one wants in their room anymore. Those are my rewards! Good luck on your journey and glad your daughter convinced you to join us bunch of "losers".

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MARCIAC10 7/14/2012 11:47AM

    Totally agree, and I'm a baby boomer! I've been listening to Ted Talks and to Freakanomics. Studies have found that awards for accomplishments are very overrated and don't actually in the long run achieve anything lasting.

Doing this journey for our health and well being is reward enough!

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TEXASFILLY 7/14/2012 10:16AM

    Six of one, half dozen of the other. Whatever gets you to your goal is worthy of consideration.

As an educator from the "old school," we are completely on the same sheet of music with regards to education today. Thanks, again, for posting a stimulating blog, Lew. Have a great weekend. *hugs* BB~ emoticon

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STITCHINGNAN 7/14/2012 10:10AM

    I am another of codger with a young mind there's- a lot of us us on sparks, interesting question re rewards. I am thinking the same as
you Lew , it's reward enough to feel better and have improved health. We all have ouri individual reasons r wanting to lose weight, yes it's feels good when it's acknowledged and yes we did well. Do we need a reward? We are all different, one may do others don't. I was going to a slimming group where there were stickers given for reaching certain targets
I felt like a child at a school receiving mine and being applauded Did I put the sticker in a prominent place? Not at all. Yet others treated the stickers are a badge of honour. I call myself a practical person of common sense, I suspect you are similar I know I've worked hard to achieve what I have thats reward enough for me. I enjoyed your blog irene

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DIDMIS 7/14/2012 9:26AM

    Lew something to think about. A trip would be hard on me financially and besides you might gain some of the weight back on the trip.
Maybe a small excursion?
My rewards were:
People telling me my clothes didn't fit, having my pants fall down in the middle of the street and realizing I really had lost weight and had to buy a new wardrobe.
I gave away my big clothes to another lady missionary who could use them and I couldn't. You know going from a 22-24 to a 12-14 is quite a change and I was still going around in those sloppy baggy dresses I wore before.
Other REWARDS I received were:
1. Better health, less meds.
2. People not recognizing me who hadn't seen me in the 9 months I took to lose the 52 pounds and apologizing for not greeting me.
3. All of the compliments.
4. Becoming the Queen of our TOPS district for the most weight lost and so many other things they rewarded me with.
I am still at my goal weight, although not skinny as I have enough bat wings and turkey necks anyway.

Thank you for your blog and excuse me for writing a blog on your comments. LOL. I am going to subscribe to your blogs so I don't miss one.

Thank you Gloria for mentioning it.

Irene

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RAWHIDE64 7/14/2012 9:05AM

    Excellent point Eve. Thanks for posting it. I agree with you that we each have to do what works for us. Thank you, thank you, thank you. emoticon

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SCOTMAMA 7/13/2012 10:32PM

    I know you and I are somewhat in the same age bracket, but I totally disagree with you! I think rewards are a wonderful thing to spur you on in your journey to reach that goal. Nothing too outrageous, mind you, although I guess if you are filthy rich, then a trip to Europe may be the same as me giving myself a trip to San Francisco. lol

I think whatever you can do to motivate yourself is the thing to do. If frilly or frivolous things can keep you from going over on your calories, or knowing when the scale reads 10 pounds less means you can get a new outfit -- then go with the rewards. I do not think FOOD should be a reward, as the things that you know make you gain weight, they can be worked into your menu in very small amounts if you truly need them.

Not all people are motivated the same way. For some people keeping an eye on them and keeping them in tight control is the only way. For others if they have some support and compliments on the great job they are doing, it will keep them on the straight and narrow. We're all different. Be happy that you know what it takes to keep yourself motivated -- but for some of us; we need the rewards and the pats!

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COCHESE321 7/13/2012 10:22PM

    When I reached my 100 lb loss goal, I bought myself a beautiful red leather jacket. When I gained back some weight and could no longer claim the 100 lb loss, I refused to wear the jacket. I am looking forward to being able to wear it this winter, but I will only do that if I can claim the 100 lbs. In my mind, since I bought it as a "prize" if you will for accomplishing a goal, it would be cheating to still wear it.

Maybe it's just me, but it seems wrong to wear it if I don't "deserve" it at the moment. Not to mention that it doesn't fit.

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GLORYB2014 7/13/2012 10:06PM

    I can't give you a different way of looking at this Lew because I agree with you.
The only 'reward' I'm looking forward to is a fitter body, better health and more stamina! Now, if that isn't enough of a reward without having to fixate on something else to look for, well then I'm just an old codger with a young mind too!
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