Thursday, July 12, 2012
Feeling a bit down this morning. My oldest DD lives with her dad part of the week and with me the other. I've known for a while that he hasn't been feeding her very healthy, mostly fast food and junk. She's gained a bit of weight becauase of that and because of not playing sports the last 6 months. I feel so powerless to help her and so guilty for not being able to change what he's doing. I am not sure why he allows her to eat so poorly. Maybe he's just lazy. Not sue. He knows how to cook some food, enough to feed her better. He only works part-time and doesn't have any other kids. I have tried to genthly bring it up and provide some healhty eating books to him. He does not seem to care. I am planning on having a family meeting with him and her to discuss this, in a gently way. He's one of those people who does the exact opposite of what people 'tell' him to do - even if he knows it's wrong.
My DD has expressed to me many times over the last month or so that she wants to eat better and lose weight. I have been a little unsure of how to proceed. I know what she should be eating and how she can lose weight safely. I have just been unsure of the best way to express this to her. I want to make sure that I don't tell her anything that might lead her to eat less, skip meals, or any other dangerous thing.
The first step I took was to have her not change anything last week, but to keep a food journal. I asked her to keep track of everything she ate and drank. I didn't ask her to count calories or measure anything. Mostly I just want to see what types of food she was eating. It was worse than I thought. All but one meal for the week was fast food. I went over the food choices with her. She understands that fast food isn't good for you, but I wanted her to know why. So we pulled up the nutritional info for the food she ate on the web. She was shocked by how high calorie, sodium, fat these foods were. We talked about healthy alternatives at each location her dad takes her because I know that I may not be able to change his bad habits. I also cooked her a big batch of chicken stir fry. A really healthy meal that she could eat atleast 3 days instead of fast food.
I am so proud that she wants to eat better, but I am also worried for her future if her dad doesn't change what he's doing. She's only with me 3 days a week, and that's not enough to counteract 4 days of fast food.
I want to start teaching her how to cook some healthy foods herself, but not sure if at 12 she's ready to be responsible for cooking food.
Other than that. I have been doing good. I am planning on dong D2W1 of C25K. My legs are pretty sore from my strength training yesterday, but I will push through.
Eating is going good. I have eliminated coffee as of this morning. I have been drinking tea. It's okay. I need to find a tea that will taste good with my coconut creamer that I normally use in my coffee. It's full of good fat and keeps me satisfied in the morning until I eat breakfast at work. I tried some chai tea concentrate (sugar free), but it wasn't very good. I may just try to make a berry smoothy with it if I can't find a good tea.
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It sounds like you are making headway with this. It's great that you are being proactive about protecting her from dangerous dieting.
One thing you might try would be for her to challenge herself to eat 3 pieces of fruit or veggies a day. Rather than taking away, she would be adding in.
1714 days ago
When my kids were about 12, they had the responsibility of planning a menu (healthy) and cooking once a week. Of course, I was there to help out as they were learning new things. They enjoyed doing the planning and carrying it out and to this day (they're in their late 40's) they are all good cooks and all eat pretty healthy too... None of them are overweight, so guess they learned something!
Start your daughter off with easier things, then let her get some ideas how to expand on those things.
1715 days ago
Way to Go on sitting down with her and going thru all of her food choices and alternatives. 12 is not too young. My boys have even been so much more concerned about the food they eat. They've been like this for quite some time. They do eat their bad foods, but if I keep them at a min. at home, they will go for other more healthier foods. Maybe if your DD starts to get the healthier foods, her dad will get it eventually. Good Luck!
1715 days ago
You're making the best of a bad situation. It's great that you're giving her the tools to take care of herself! Fast food is out there, and she's better off knowing how to navigate her way than just being told it's all crap.
I have two boys and they started cooking around 13 - microwaving frozen stuff, making sandwiches, cooking ramen noodles (lol! the teenagers' favorite food after cereal!). They're both fairly proficient these days at simple cooking. My eldest likes this quickie:
Open, drain, and rinse one can of chicken. Put 2-4 T of jarred salsa in the bottom of a non-stick skillet and heat on medium/low. Add the chicken, and mix/heat. When it's hot enough, drizzle jarred queso over the top, let it get warm and serve. She can wrap it in a tortilla, put it in a taco shell, or, better yet, top a salad with it!
No, it's not haute cuisine, but it's something you could actually make in a dorm room!
1715 days ago
12 is not too early to teach her how to cook. At the very least, she can cook eggs, spaghetti, make a salad, etc. She might not be comfortable doing it, but would she talk to her dad? Maybe they can work together to come up with meals she can cook and then they could shop together. Even if they only do that a few meals each week, it will be better for her.
Keep going on C25K. Its a good goal!
1715 days ago
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