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Sunday, July 08, 2012

I am coming off an extremely difficult year and a half, yet my weight has remained the one thing completely controlled. I have rules in my life for many things: I don't do debt, which relieves me of a huge amount of stress that others bear. I don't go to bed with a dirty kitchen. I don't leave the house with the bed unmade. I pay bills when I get them. I put my clothing away or in the laundry as soon as I take them off. I clean up the bathroom when I am done. These are rules I made for myself, they didn't come from my parents, or at least the house care ones didn't. In an unpredictable world, it gives my life structure and at least a minor form of predictability: I never have to wake up to a messy kitchen and I always know where my clothes are.

And I don't eat between meals. I know that many people incorporate snacks into their days, but I know myself well enough to know that my mind will twist that permission to snack into something I can't control, so I don't do it. It took awhile to figure out that snacks were something I couldn't control. God knows I tried. It was best to just give them up, and eat meals appropriately. As soon as I finish dinner, I brush and floss, then clean the kitchen and take out the trash.

It's a crazy world out there, but with my own rules for my own life, I have managed to find a way to manage my weight reliably, and therefore comfortably. Rules have gotten a bad reputation, and I am not fond of rules imposed by others (most speed limits are WAY too low!), but my own rules were made by me to improve my own life. I can't go to jail for breaking them, but I would pay with loss of peace of mind. I have already paid that price, and I don't care to pay it again.
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    I'm for rules, so long as they are MY rules, and I do have a few of my own. I always put everything on my desk away before leaving work. I always have flowers on the kitchen table. I always make my bed in the morning before I leave the house, and prepare my lunch the night before a work day.

    But: like the idea of eliminating all snacks. I've been tracking them . . . but it would probably help just to eliminate them!

    Thanks for another great blog.
    2042 days ago
    Ditto, rule maker here!

    Love this blog, and because I can soooooo relate thanks for posting it.

    I also feel that when you do these "tasks, rules" there is comfort in accomplishment of dedication don't you? Of course I also think that when you do have a day that "life gets in the way" you are better armed.

    Taking it a step further, I also pick out my clothes the night before, and make my lunch then also. This way if something does come up in the morning, I'm organized right out the gate.

    Your a CHAMPION, not many can do did it, and do it emoticon
    2065 days ago
    Yes to RULES...we need a disciplined structure. It feels so good & on some days that is all we have. When the going gets tough, I go directly into my discipline. In fact, I often add some additional areas. I just finished journaling this morning & designed a few more to add some sanity to my life. In a way, these are the gifts that come from the unpredictability of life.
    2065 days ago
    I really enjoyed reading this. I, too, have rules that make me happy and I think that I could use a few more to add greater structure and stability to my life. I think I'll try doing the kitchen before I go to bed.

    Great blog!
    2069 days ago
    Rules are good. Thanks for posting this.

    2075 days ago
    I envy your rules, would really love them myself, but my authority (me) does not seem to be able to make me follow them.... a wrok in progress!
    2083 days ago
    We each have to figure out what works. Glad you've done that.
    2084 days ago
    Oh, Nell, you always give me food for thought!
    I can't manage snacks either, but I keep trying. Maybe it's time to just stop the snack wagon! I got into the habit of having them after my husband died, and it has become a "habit". Thanks for pointing that out to me!
    2084 days ago
    I also like my personal rules, and many of mine are similar to yours (make bed, leave kitchen clean, put clothes in hamper). I do snack, but my personal rule is to plan for snacks and know what I'm going to snack on. Afternoons are tough for me, so I plan some crackers (measured out) or fruit about every hour and a half. So far it seems to be working. What is sneaking up on me, though, is evening snacking. As long as DH is home, no problem, because we "dine" rather than eat, so the meal is consumed at the table with lots of lingering conversation. When he is away, I'm finding myself right back on the couch in front of the TV. Time for new rules there.
    2084 days ago
  • VICB57
    I need to be in as much control over myself! Thanks for the inspiration!
    2084 days ago
    I read your blogs and posts often, but rarely comment. I admire your focus, discipline and the ways in which you march to the beat of your own drum. Kudos, hats off and our 'if it feels good, do it - if it's too hard, don't' culture, it is encouraging and refreshing to hear a rare voice reminding us of the benefits (and feasibility)of limits! I love routines - especially those that support the outcomes I seek.

    Thank you for sharing your perspective!!
    2084 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/8/2012 12:05:11 PM
    Great job. Do what works for you.
    2084 days ago
    Yes, rules can make a life so much more manageable. I keep saying "I need to grow up", in that I need to stop giving myself whatever I want even when it isn't good for me (like sweets). Growing up is hard to do...

    2084 days ago
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