Saturday, July 07, 2012
Just saw a picture on facebook that said "Be careful how you speak to your children, one day it will become their inner voice." But I have learned something much more important. Be careful of your own inner voice, one day it will become your children's.
For many years I did not think well of myself. My inner voice said, "You aren't good enough, too fat, no one likes you, bad mother, etc, etc." All untrue, as you can tell from my bio.
Even though I have said positive things to my daughters over the years, unlike my mother who didn't (cultural reasons, so you won't get a big head!) very often with me, I hear them saying, "I'm not smart, I'm not talented, noone likes me, I'm fat."
Gee, where could they have gotten the idea that that's what your inner voice says?
Thank goodness I have moved on and am now confident and know I'm talented and people like me. (Honestly, I think some of this is society being down on women)
Who knew that lacking confidence and being down on myself would rub off on my girls!