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One day your inner voice will become your child's inner voice.

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Just saw a picture on facebook that said "Be careful how you speak to your children, one day it will become their inner voice." But I have learned something much more important. Be careful of your own inner voice, one day it will become your children's.
For many years I did not think well of myself. My inner voice said, "You aren't good enough, too fat, no one likes you, bad mother, etc, etc." All untrue, as you can tell from my bio.
Even though I have said positive things to my daughters over the years, unlike my mother who didn't (cultural reasons, so you won't get a big head!) very often with me, I hear them saying, "I'm not smart, I'm not talented, noone likes me, I'm fat."
Gee, where could they have gotten the idea that that's what your inner voice says?
Thank goodness I have moved on and am now confident and know I'm talented and people like me. (Honestly, I think some of this is society being down on women)
Who knew that lacking confidence and being down on myself would rub off on my girls!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
JANEMITCHELL12 7/8/2012 7:35AM

    Yes, it's true they are working hard at overcoming those inner voices. And should be better at it younger than I ever was! My younger daughter just got 93% on her calculus exam!

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CINEMAVEN 7/7/2012 5:28PM

  Your daughters are so smart and talented...they take after their mom so I know they're strong enough to get past those inner voices :)

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MIWOLFF 7/7/2012 10:39AM

    I can totally relate...I have two daughters myself and I see all my insecurities in them even though I have always tried to build and support their self-esteem. Now that they are I their twenties I find myself telling them not to wait until there 50's to be comfortable in their own skin. I tell them and myself you are the master of your own destiny.

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RADFEN 7/7/2012 10:00AM

    Important to remember!

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