88 Days & Yep, I Am Counting!
Friday, June 29, 2012
88 Days & Yep, I Am Counting!
Iím down to 88 days until my final court date for my divorce. That still seems like a VERY long time!
I have totally failed on my goal that I set in my last blog; I havenít even put my AM/PM stretch video in the DVD player! Iím terrible at goal setting & I know that, I always seem to set myself up for failure.
I am really looking for some ďAccountability BuddiesĒ. Some Sparkers that are maybe interested in texting each other, not through communicating through Sparkmail, or regular e-mail. Something a little more personal. If you are interested, you can leave me a message on my blog, or send me a private Sparkmail so we can exchange cell numbers.
Since I have been living with just my dogs, I seem to put off things, lay around more & make poor exercise decisions, so what have I gone & done now? I start working a 2nd job tomorrow morning! Yep, it will get me up off the couch, out of the recliner & off the bed! I will be waiting tables at a local cafť weeknights & on the weekends! Iím not doing this because I need the money; I am doing this because I need something to focus on other than all the negativity that is happening in my life right now! I have worked two jobs before & know that at first it is going to be hard, but once I get used to it, it wonít be so bad!
I can tell myself that I will go home & do chores that I know need to be done, but once I get home, I donít do them, I set around & think too much! This way I will someone counting on me to be somewhere, I canít put it off. Plus, the money wonít be a bad thing either, I can start saving to make all the necessary and not so necessary improvements / changes that I need / want to make to my house! Things that have been put off because either the soon to be ďXĒ didnít want to do them, didnít think they were important, etc.
I really feel that this is a positive step forward in my new life! I also hope that it will help make the time go by faster waiting out the next 88 days!
By the way, you can find me on Facebook at www.facebook.com/patrici
~ If you add me as a friend on Facebook, please let me know you are from Spark People, I prefer not to accept people I'm not sure who they are.
Yaíll have an awesome weekend!!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
Pat so sorry to hear that you have been going through such a rough time of it. I have been a bit lax going on SPARK and just started being more diligent - this yo-yoing was killing me. I was doing really well until sometime last year well all of a sudden menopause came knocking at my door. She hit me when I wasn't looking and knocked me on my a$$. I too gained back all the weight I had lost and then some. I was depressed and unmotivated. Then in February of this year, I took a look at my beautiful daughter and saw that she too had become lazy and over-weight - and I realized that my lack of motivation and interest was effecting her too. Since then I have set a new path, we joined Weight Watchers together, shop together and even discuss strategies. I'm back at my exercise routine and she is making better choices every day!!
Having someone to do this with had really helped us both. I would be happy to be a long distance buddy if you are still looking for one. I can honestly say that you truly inspired and motivated me many a times when I needed it, and I would love to be here to support and help you as you where there for me. Send me a private email anytime.
1601 days ago
Hey Texas Pat! Hope things are getting better for you! I have slipped a little on the exercise lately with vacation, then cutting my foot so couldnt wear tennis shoes then sick for a couple days. BUT all those excuses are gone! So Monday I am back. I have been doing pretty good on my food. I wouldnt mind a texting buddy either. Let me know if you r still looking!I dont do facebook ( I know crazy huh but my daughter had a bad experience with school problems and I just never had the desire to share all of my personal info, trying to teach her that privacy is golden!)
I did want to offer a little advice. If you are eating junk at nite because it is hard to cook for one then cook 2 servings of good for you food and save one for the next night. If thats too much, get a new microwave asap and pick up some smart ones or lean cuisines! Get RID of the junk and get fruits and veggies to fill up on and as for exercise - Maybe knowing that whole video is going to take so much time is just too much. Just say you will take a 10 minute walk every day...usually once you are started you can increase with no problem, but if you only have time for 10 minutes then that is what you do. There were days I just did NOT want to get up and walk, but half way through I was feeling great and glad I went. Plus the music lifts my spirits too.
Hope your weekend is going great! God Bless You...
1603 days ago
Comment edited on: 7/14/2012 9:43:26 PM
Just sent you a FB friend request, too. I find it best if I get up early and workout before work. I can at least get in 15-20 minutes of yoga or a Spark Boot Camp video. Like you, living alone makes it easy for me to just blow off working out later in the day - no one is around to see me goofing off!!! Keeping busy is a great idea, but be sure to take time to indulge yourself too! The time will fly by and soon you will be enjoying the next phase of life! Take care, Donna
1610 days ago
Sounds like you know yourself well, know just what to do to get yourself out of this funk. I remember my divorce, I was nervous about going to court, but what a feeling of relief once it was over!
I had a hard time for a while, but went to a group counseling at the local Methodist Church, which really helped me to sort things out in my mind.
My life is so much better now, on the other side. I was divorced 15 years ago, and it seems like that other time never existed..........I could totally shut it out except for my two dear daughters!
This too, shall pass. Better days are coming!
1618 days ago
This is transition time. You are starting the next stage of your life and letting go of the old you and your old life. Enjoy it! Embrace it! Get creative with it. Waiting tables will bring a little extra cash, but you'll meet new folks and reconnect with people that you know who got lost in the craziness of recent years.
Just like the saying you didn't gain the weight or whatever it is overnight, so don't expect it to be gone overnight, you need to allow yourself some time. Even a crappy marriage requires some grieving at the end, even if it is grief for what might have been and never was. Give yourself time to figure out and develop your priorities and create new habits and patterns. You can do it, but one step at a time and baby steps and all that. Don't try to do everything at once or you are sure to fail, at least that's my experience.
ALSO - give yourself credit and a pat on the back for EVERY success and accomplishment. Never let yourself forget you are totally worth it!
1618 days ago
Comment edited on: 6/29/2012 7:43:11 PM
sent ya a FB request..but didn't give me the option to tell you who i am. :P I'm only during the week days mostly.
I remember the count down to my divorce...longest days of my life, and yet soooo worth the wait LOL
Glad you're finding ways to stay busy. I"ll inbox ya my cell, I love to text!
1618 days ago
If you can be the Champ you are riding that horse, you CAN DO THIS,too!!
I have faith in you!
1619 days ago
Have an awesome weekend too! It sounds like you have a great plan to distract yourself from thinking too much. I have that problem myself sometimes and it can be destructive, so good job on busying yourself. Hang in there, hopefully the 88 days will go by fast now that you have a full schedule.
1619 days ago
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