Thursday, June 28, 2012
The only way to fail is to quit.
What I've previously labeled as "failure" (cheating on diets, gaining weight, etc.) isn't actually failure because I learn from those things. In fact, this can carry over in to other parts of my life. When a boyfriend and I broke up, I learned things about myself that needed to change or else I learned that I couldn't stand certain traits in a person. When I didn't get a job I wanted, I learned how to present myself better and I strived to improve my resume. When I was broke and living paycheck to paycheck, I learned how to be frugal and how to survive on less than I thought I could.
If things had automatically worked out, I'd never have learned those things. I wouldn't become a better person.
You've all probably heard the phrase "______ is the new ______". (Like pink is the new black or orange is the new pink or Bieber is the new Timberlake or Cam Gigandet is the new Brad Pitt) It means that something was popular but has been replaced by this new thing.
Failure is the new success.
That is my new saying. Failure isn't actually failure but is a prerequisite to success. Without trial and error, there is no success. If I were to succeed the first time I tried something, then I didn't learn anything about it. That success might not ever be repeated because I didn't work for it and didn't learn how to get there. So is it really success or is it beginner's luck?
Yoda tried to tell me this once and I pretty much ignored him. I was whining to him about my lack of progress and said that I was failing him. He told me that the only way he'd ever think I failed is if I quit. If I was trying, then I wasn't failing.
It's hit me the past couple of days in all aspects of my life. I did something that I thought meant I had failed epically, but the more I think about it the more I realize that by not succeeding, I learned a lot about myself.
1. I am stronger than I think. I can make it through things I thought I never could.
2. I learn from my mistakes and I carry what I learn into my future.
3. Sometimes failure is necessary. It makes me take a hard look at myself.
4. After I've failed, success is so much sweeter because I earned it.
5. People who stick by me during/after my failures are my true friends.
6. People who only like me because I succeed are leeches and not true friends.
7. Every time I fail, I'm a little bit stronger when I get up again.
8. I don't mind failing as much as I used to - it gives me a chance to be more creative the second time.
9. Failure shapes the way for greatness. I am becoming great.
10. Failure gives me the determination I need to be successful.
So, if you think you're failing right now then think of it a different way. You're using the trial and error method. You're creating a path for success by figuring out which paths don't lead to the place you want to go. One by one you're checking those paths and blocking them off. Soon you'll have the right path.
Above all, never quit. Once you stop trying, you have stopped making your way to success. That is failure.