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I Don't Complain THAT MUCH!!! (Do I?)

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Tuesday, June 26, 2012

I hung the phone up and smiled that smug little smile I have when I believe I am superior, not just to those around me, but to the entire universe. A friend had issued a challenge. He asked me to go an entire day, twenty four hours, without complaining about anything. I couldn’t whine about how hot it was outside, the neighbor’s dog, co-workers, children or friends…… Just go twenty four hours without complaining about anything. Turn all those negatives into positive possibilities!!! No problem, not for an amazing guy like me!!!I had some errands to run. I told Joan how wonderful she looked today, how great supper was last night and bounded out the door. “Gosh, I’m on fire!!! There is no stopping me now.”

I unlocked the car and saw the seat had been pulled forward. Our son Tim had used the car and he likes to sit up further than I do. I pushed the little lever to move it back and muttered something to the effect of “You think the little so and so could have put things back the way they were. I got stuff to do!!!” The little voice, which I abhor at moments like this, said “Let’s see, you lasted all of what, three minutes?” (I hate that little voice.) “That one didn’t count. I wasn’t ready.” I started the engine and moved away from the curb only to travel about twenty five yards to a stop sign. In front of me was an elderly neighbor who was taking her time before proceeding through the intersection. You can only imagine what went through my mind.

As the day unraveled I found myself complaining about things I had no control over. It was way too hot for my taste, traffic lights took too long to change from red to green, and why did people with more than twenty items in their basket get into the express lane at the grocery? I worry and complain about the things I couldn’t possibly change so I don’t have to focus on the things I do have control over. Life doesn’t mirror self-help books or fairy tales. We don’t turn on a dime when it comes to modifying behavior. Usually I read a pearl of wisdom only to file it under “The World Needs This Not Me.” I’m the coach. I’m the expert!!!

You have to start someplace and the thought struck me that right around the next corner is a person whose day may be affected by my attitude. I can greet them with hope and possibilities or I can be the proverbial downer. We all carry baggage around and sometimes we forget about a piece or two that affects our demeanor and interaction with other people. My complaints with another person have nothing to do with them. It easy to take those monkeys off of my back and put them on yours!!!

I have to start someplace, so I’ll begin with ten minute increments. I have found that when I focus really hard on solving issues rather than complaining about them the load I carry seems lighter and I appear to smile more often. Least that’s what I’m told

Namaste my friends.
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CHUM48 9/24/2012 6:40PM

    It is so easy to fall into the complain complain place. It takes effort to look for the good, once you get into the habit, complaining that becomes an effort. Thanks for the honesty!

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NASFKAB 7/28/2012 6:03AM

  great blog as usualy

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 7/16/2012 11:57AM

    Great reminder. I'm going to try that today. What does Namaste mean?

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TONI-ANN_L 7/12/2012 3:46PM

    Read this at just the right moment. Namaste to you too.



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DOBSONSM 7/11/2012 8:01AM

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BABY77A 7/4/2012 4:49AM

    Well said. Thanks.

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HUNNAWANNA 7/1/2012 10:57PM

    Thanks, I needed to read that.! emoticon

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LOGOULD 6/30/2012 12:58PM

    What a GEAT challenge for ALL of us. I have been working on it for YEARS, but find when I let go of the things that are outside of my control and focus on thankfulness rather than complaining, my life is 1000% better!

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WYTCHHAZYL 6/30/2012 5:18AM

    Bless your friend for challenging you and bless you for giving it a go!! I realized after a couple of life-changing events in a two-year span (having a stalker try to murder me at work, having a breakdown and getting fired, being diagnosed with cancer and having to move cross country for treatment, my father dying shortly after, then my fiance dying from cancer) that it's up to me how I see the world. Every day is a Gift, Open it, Live it, Love it, Look forward to the next. I now live in a very quiet little village, work from home at a job I love, been cancer-free for 10 years in May, wished on a full moon for someone I could trust to share my peaceful place, my wish was granted and we were hand-fasted two years ago. We try to leave 'em with a smile, it may be the only one they get! Blessed Be!

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REENIE131 6/29/2012 11:28PM

    Terrific blog! Thank you so much!

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CIRANDELLA 6/29/2012 8:15PM

    Namaste, and yours is a day of namaste itself! What a lovely practice. I tried that once...it took quite an effort! I guess I'm a whine-and-cheese gal, but you're so right: There is a ripple effect for those who were the beneficiaries of your pleasant attitude. It will have made their day so much easier! You're an inspiration :)

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TRI_BABE 6/29/2012 6:55PM

    Nice! Being more positive rubs off on other things in our lives.

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DABLUECAT 6/29/2012 12:08PM

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FRENCHMARKET 6/29/2012 12:28AM

    Thank you!!! I needed to hear this!!!

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FATHINSN 6/28/2012 10:50PM

    I believe in not wasting time thinking about small things, things that you've no control of. Just go through life with smile and laughter, try to make things much more lighter and spend my energy more on things that I can can control, on my goals. Which is why some people hard to accept this, they get frustrated LOL Such as how I still can joke at time when I get lost trying to find my grandma's house - my reason, whyever I want to be more gloomy, it's not such a big thing and still can be fix and besides, my mom (my passenger) already worry enough for two people!

Smile & laughter, those are the best way to start beating the whinning and complaining!

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GEEMAWEST 6/28/2012 8:38PM

    I so needed to read this today. Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart my friend.
Although I may have to start in 5 min. increments. emoticon

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ANGELBABIES2 6/28/2012 4:32PM

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IACTA_ALEA_EST 6/28/2012 4:01PM

    namaste!

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PRESBESS 6/28/2012 3:44PM

    I like your humorous style of writing about something we all need to work on. We "think" we've got it together until the spotlight is shined upon us... and then, well, a different story is revealed. I think your ending was just right... approach it with small time frames and go from there.
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SILLYHP1953 6/28/2012 2:39PM

    I don't consider myself a complainer, but you've put a new light on it.

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STLOUISWOMAN 6/28/2012 2:32PM

    Great blog. Unfortunately, now I have to do something about it in my own life. Thanks for sharing!
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TRYAGIN 6/28/2012 1:53PM

    I was complaining about how people drive with my son in the car, and he
said hey dad they probably have a hard and unhappy life so maybe you should
be wishing them well not being mad at them. It changed my perspective when driving.

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TERRIH8118 6/28/2012 12:51PM

    Great Post..I never really thought about it but it does seem like were constantly complaining about things that we have no control over. and that can't be good for a good self image. I like the thought of going 10 min at time to not complain. There's definitely a lot more things we should be concentrating on emoticon

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KNEWMETODAY 6/28/2012 12:30PM

    Gutsy move, although more and more I'm finding Sparkies who step out, knowing we know where they're comin' from. Thanks to you, I'm going to give it a try today, "I don't really complain that much, do I?"

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MISSB8604 6/28/2012 12:10PM

    WOW! I seriously needed to hear this! All I ever DO is complain about my life and things that are going on! Can I last 10 minutes?! I'm going to try!

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CTTAGENT 6/28/2012 10:47AM

    Great words... I will have to remember this when I am ready to complain about something I cannot change.

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BOBBIENORTHERN1 6/28/2012 10:44AM

  The only way I have been able to live a complaint free life in not in my ability but in the ability of Mr. Holy Spirit which is the Spirit of Love Himself.

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LINDAK25 6/28/2012 10:42AM

    Thanks for making me laugh. Ah, but we do complain about the things we can't control, don't we? Oh, dear, now I'm going to be obsessing over this. I know the more positive I am, the less complaining I do. Ten minute intervals are doable. I'm not so sure about twenty-four hours!

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CATDUG19 6/28/2012 9:58AM

    hahaha thanks for the humourous yet very insightful blog that I will have to try myself. Not complaining hmmm new concept

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CRYSTALJEM 6/28/2012 9:53AM

    I love it! This one is so meant for my husband - not me of course, I never complain! LOL. I like your idea of 10 minute increments. That process works for so many other things... why not this too. Namaste my friend, today I endeavor not to complain - at least for 10 minutes at a time! Thank you. CJ

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MCHILSTR 6/28/2012 9:53AM

  Oh, so true - great blog, and great reminder.

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KDYLOSE 6/28/2012 9:51AM

    I have a feeling I would be very embarrassed at how often I complain.

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 6/28/2012 9:36AM

    I'll do this challenge...later.

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NIGHTOCUPS 6/28/2012 9:32AM

    That's a really good challenge for everyone to try. I'm trying really hard to turn into an optimist and I think that a challenge like this would help a lot. Thank you and Spark on!

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CAROLZ1967 6/28/2012 8:57AM

    Love this! I have heard of these challenges before and in all honesty, never wanted to try them as I'm sure I'd fail. I know it would be hard. But I like your 24 hour idea. As it's shorter, it seems more "possible".... If I really, really, really focus my energy and try hard!! :-) I know the point of it all, but I think actually taking the challenge will teach me more and hopefully open my eyes too. Thanks for the push I needed!

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OLIVIANIGHT 6/28/2012 7:41AM

    What an interesting challenge, it's quite tempting to give it a go and see how long I could last. I think I'm in the same boat as you; it's time to focus on solutions rather than complaints.

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SLIMTHICK2 6/28/2012 6:35AM

    Very insightful! emoticon

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LITTLEROX20 6/28/2012 3:40AM

    Good insight!

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CAROLIAN 6/28/2012 3:08AM

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GOANNA2 6/28/2012 2:21AM

    Namaste.
Great blog. emoticon

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BLUEJEAN99 6/28/2012 1:59AM

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JAMER123 6/27/2012 9:37PM

    emoticon emoticon Terrific learning process!

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ALLIGATORKATE 6/27/2012 7:58PM

    :)

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REGILIEH 6/27/2012 6:35PM

    TERRIFIC!!!

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CYDNEYLEECH 6/27/2012 5:46PM

    Thanks. I think we all may complain to much about the little stuff. Good reminder to let the little stuff go and focus on the stuff we can change, ourselves.

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HEARTS116 6/27/2012 5:14PM

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SUSIEMT 6/27/2012 5:05PM

    As they say easier said than done! I agree though! I will practice being more patient. Thanks for the reminders.

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SERASARA 6/27/2012 4:53PM

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LELERS 6/27/2012 4:45PM

    emoticon Awesome!

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TERRIJ7 6/27/2012 4:15PM

    We all hate being around whiners--especially if they are US!

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