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The Wiser Me

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

If some toxic people I'll never get rid of, as they're part of my life as family, or colleagues, I am managing to give a support to myself as I am sometimes obliged to see them , even if I do not like being with them.
I am trying to draw a SWOT diagram of my life - stengths , weaknesses, opportunities, threaths - so that other people's attitudes won't bother me anymore....but this time it was a BIG challenge!!!!
Last night we went out for supper with a couple and they're family , she's the thinnest person in the world and lives on veggies.
I used to envy her as she's skinny and her hubby keeps on praising her body,her beauty and so on,right when I'm there,and that's overall when we're having meals together.
This brought me to feel terribly fat, ugly and desperate. Sometimes the hubby even told me off about my 'fat handles' on my back - sorry they're now gone through gym exercise!!!!
So how do you think I could feel????
An 'Ugly duckling', just to give you an idea....but last night it was different.
I calmly noticed her strong will.
She avoided pizza and pasta like hell, sat close to salad plates and ate maybe ten helpings of salad,,,,drank only water and avoided sweets altogether.
Good move! But, no nourishment at all.
The wiser me went to gym during the day, had three different classes and ate both pasta and pizza, in small quantities, drank a glass of wine or two - c'mon we're in the Land of Wine- and felt happy having some ice cream as a dessert.
Now I am keeping my normal weight, my normal curves and I'm not going to give up eating....
Who wants to starve all life long???
PS The wine was a roseè and it was totally delicious....It's ok if you have only a pair of glasses!!!!
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    Yes, you are the wiser one! I am on day 12 of low carb no sugar. This means no wine for me for 30 days, which is my goal. It is hard, I hate it, but it has an end. At the end, I will have a glass of wine!
    1928 days ago
    I do not think any food is off-limits except for a medical or religious reason.
    Good blog. Rude man.
    1939 days ago
    All things in moderation ma Cheri

    (Did I ever tell you that you were my hero?)

    Much Love

    1940 days ago
    emoticon emoticon You did great. I have a thin friend that is so out of shape she gets winded walking across the room. Thin is not a sign of good health.
    1941 days ago
    I will NEVER diet. I will live life to the fullest and love to the fullest. Having lost almost 60 pounds so far, I think I may on to something, lol... TOTALLY think you are on point here! You definately love your body and life-that is TRUE beauty in my books
    1942 days ago
    You can't live on just veggies and water!! I'm one of those people who doesn't think skinny is too attractive. I 've been eating 2500-2800 calories and I still keep fit, but I don't ever want to be too thin to have curves. So eat your pizza once in awhile and keep up with your workouts. Extreme dieting is not healthy in the long run. If that's what she wants, that's her choice. You just focus on your own goals and own methods of being healthy. Don't let what other people say affect you so much. You are healthy and beautiful and probably much happier for having that glass of wine!!
    1942 days ago
    I totally agree - balance and moderation are the key to being fit, active, healthy, and HAPPY! (And can you imagine the fear that woman lives with? If she gains a lb, I bet she hears from her husband for weeks! If she gained 5, he'd leave her! Poor woman must be terrified, as well as starving!)
    1942 days ago
    And that balance and moderation is why you are fit AND happy. Well done.
    1942 days ago
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