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Monday, June 25, 2012

I've spent years at the "diet mall". I've counted calories, points, dealt cards, bought pre-packaged meals, made cabbage soup, drank grapefruit juice before meals, tried both extremes on carbs/fats. I've read dozens of books, participated in study groups, danced, walked, swam, downed gallons of water and even went to an Obesity Clinic. I would have success on just about every one of these plans. Many have had great success on all of these.

There was one basic problem (with me). I viewed all of these as a temporary deprivation to a desired end. You know what I'm talking about. I would say things like this: I can't have bread today but after my weight is off... Once I get the weight off I won't have to eat these tiny portions... When I'm thin then I can have the nachos.

Do you see the problem? I was plugging the hole in the dike with my finger which would temporarily make a difference but the minute I pulled it out or even loosened it the flow would start again.

The reason all this matters is that until you are ready to make a LIFESTYLE CHANGE you will have great difficulty achieving your goal and SUSTAINING it.

I have lost up to 80 pounds before. I put it all back on and THEN some. I do not want to return to this:



This was not even my top weight. I guess I hid from cameras at that point. Ha! I know that I will never eat like I did then. I know I will always have to step on the scale, count calories (or points), make BETTER choices and exercise. ONCE I was able to grasp the notion that this is my new life I left that "temporary deprivation for desired outcome" mentality behind.

I don't feel deprived now because what I desire is HEALTH. When I see a chocolate cake doughnut does it tempt me? Of course! BUT - now I want the health and wellness more. THIS is my new life. THIS is my new "normal".

This is me now:



I like the "new normal".

Join me! The journey continues...




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ALIDOSHA 10/16/2012 4:40PM

  Congratulations and even bigger achievements on your journey.

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CHUM48 9/24/2012 6:35PM

    You look so fantastic! And your story is all our story! Thanks for sharing!

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LOGOULD 9/11/2012 1:15PM

    emoticon You look incredible! You must be so proud of yourself.....we sure are! emoticon

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 7/17/2012 11:01AM

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WILSON1926 7/14/2012 6:12AM

    Thank you so much for being such a motivator for so many.
Michael

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TEXASBREEZE 7/12/2012 5:29PM

    So true!!! I too have ridden the diet roller coaster. I told someone the other day that I have finally gotten off the coaster in my mind. I too want to be healthy and "choose" to not have the donut, pizza or whatever. It is no longer, I "can't" have it. I can have whatever I want... I choose to live longer and happier. Thanks for the motivation and great job!

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WRITINGDIVA1 7/7/2012 2:26AM

    Awsome! Could not have said it better.

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TEACHEROF4TH 7/6/2012 7:16PM

    You are inspirational! I'll join you anytime! Thanks for another great blog!

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JERICHO1991 7/3/2012 12:18PM

    Definitely lifestyle, not diet. My lifestyle changes are not occurring as quickly as I would like, but the process, and progress, will continue the rest of my life.

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LKWQUILTER 7/2/2012 8:56PM

    You have said the truth. WTG!!

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REGILIEH 7/2/2012 1:48AM

  WTG!!!

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YIWEN39 7/1/2012 5:10AM

    Way to go! You look great :-)

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JACEBEL 6/30/2012 5:34PM

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SUSIEMT 6/30/2012 4:51PM

    You are doing such and awesome job! You are a great motivator!

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JUSGETTENBY42 6/29/2012 5:23PM

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CARMENB66 6/29/2012 2:39PM

    Well said!! Congratulations, you look wonderful. I am looking forward to hearing more about your journey.
Carmen

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KNEWMETODAY 6/29/2012 2:39PM

    emoticon You are doing great. I totally agree about accepting a lifestyle change. I am no longer looking for the quick fix and am content to just lose.

Kathy

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 6/29/2012 11:48AM

    Great job! Keep up the great work!

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ALIGRIFFIN1 6/29/2012 4:13AM

    I agree with you! You can't 'diet' just for a short time. A 'diet' isn't really a diet! It is making that important change in what you eat and what exercise you do. I have only just realised that recently and am loving what I eat and doing exercise, every day. This is the way to keep it off.
Good luck and keep sharing. Thanks

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PASTORMAE5 6/29/2012 12:13AM

    you are so right, this is normal

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IMSOOZEEQ 6/28/2012 10:50PM

    You are so right! You look fabulous! Keep it up!!!



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GRATEFUL_BEING 6/28/2012 10:35PM

    You look great!

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PURPLE180 6/28/2012 10:33PM

    Awesome job!

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LMDEXTER 6/28/2012 10:32PM

  Great job! Looin' good!!

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DEARTOMYHEART 6/28/2012 4:22PM

  You look amazing!!!! Keep up the great work you are doing. Great blog! emoticon

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TEESLIM 6/28/2012 4:06PM

  Well said, I can so relate to this....lost more than 40lbs dont want to slip

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AUNTJAM 6/28/2012 2:23PM

    I love this! You inspire me, keep going, Girl!

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PENOWOK 6/28/2012 1:51PM

    You look great! Keep up the great work. This is our life and much better than the alternative!!

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IRONBLOSSOM 6/28/2012 1:38PM

    That's so exactly right! Great point. To play off your blog background, you keep thinking that once the boulder gets to the top of the hill it'll be easier, but it's still a struggle every day to keep it balanced! :-)

Thanks for the words of wisdom.

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BONIFIANT 6/28/2012 1:29PM

    Great words of encouragement. I have seen first hand what this changed thinking has done for a family member and I am now firmly convinced that this is the best attitude for success. Thanks for the timely reminder.

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DHUNTER49 6/28/2012 11:28AM

    way to go...keep that awesome focus :)

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SHEENADEE 6/28/2012 10:29AM

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Congrats on your progress, and thanks for sharing!

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WALLINMW 6/28/2012 9:54AM

  Stay motivated!

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DJSHIP46 6/28/2012 9:47AM

    Congratulations... YOU are awesome. Thank you for sharing your journey with others!!!

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REDROSEMARIE 6/28/2012 9:23AM

    Awesome blog! I found I was using these thoughts to get me over a bad craving. As I started loosing weight I realized how a healthy diet has made me feel so great and that is not worth giving up again. Thank you for sharing, this is a very important lesson on attitude.
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ANDRAYAYA 6/28/2012 8:52AM

    emoticon ! Thanks for sharing!

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KAYYYDEE 6/28/2012 8:40AM

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JPEARL127 6/28/2012 8:30AM

  Your mind set is just what I am hoping to achieve, and now my husband is saying that he wants to get fit--he is thinking about ordering meals, and I told him to try the meal plans on SparkPeople for 3-4 months first. We can make nutritious foods from scratch and control what goes into our meals. First big step for him was NOT buying the sale-priced "Suddenly Salad" because of its high sodium count. Today we will have slow-cooked pulled pork with home-made buns. I'm in 2 months and feeling energized even without major weight loss--but my clothes are fitting differently!!!!

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NEWTINK 6/28/2012 8:27AM

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INGMARIE 6/28/2012 8:24AM

    emoticon you come a long way. woo hoo emoticon

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TRYINGHARD54 6/28/2012 7:34AM

    your blog hit home. thank you

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CHARLEBK 6/28/2012 7:34AM

  Inspirational.

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FIT@401 6/28/2012 2:25AM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing. I sure could relate.

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NEWKATHYNOW 6/27/2012 10:07PM

    Thanks for this! I needed this message right this very minute! You probably helped me make a healthy choice right now. You look wonderful - congratulations! Thanks again!

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UNIQUELADY42 6/27/2012 9:44PM

    I'm glad I came across this Blog!! I was having an issue with me getting motivated but after this blog NOT any more thank you for your wisdom!! emoticon emoticon

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LIVINHEALTHY9 6/27/2012 8:46PM

    So True!

You look great! Awesome job.

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HIPPEENIK 6/27/2012 7:25PM

    I loge your attitude and I feel that is exactly what my mind set is at..I am however not losing weight despite the big chang so I HOPE that I can keep the positive up..
Good Luck and well done.
Best Wishes

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