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YOU ARE WORTHY, GIRLFRIEND

Sunday, June 24, 2012

It's not everyday I have an epiphany, but today I think I had one. I'm almost sure I did anyway. I have struggled with my weight for some time now and today I wondered if it was due to a lack of self-esteem. Did I not feel I was worthy of looking good and being fit? Maybe the answer is yes. Do we view looking good as a sign of vanity? Maybe this is why people in general do not accept compliments well. If we get a compliment we're quick to say, Aw, this old thing or I just threw on anything or some such drivel instead of just saying, 'Thank you.' Does this come from our parents and society teaching us humility. After all, we empathize more with humble people, not vain ones.

But today, I threw out the notion that wanting to be fit again is vain.


Getting healthy is not vain. Getting in shape is not vain. Looking great is not vain. It's smart. It's just the right thing to do to be at your best mentally and physically. We are not on our journeys to outdo others or look better than others, but to be the best we can be. It just makes sense and in the end, if I happen to look better than all my friends, well who am I to question fate (lol - oh, the vanity!)

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INFLATED 7/10/2012 8:07AM

    You are worthy, girlfriend!

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HEYITSJUDED 6/30/2012 5:47PM

    Great blog! I am a little vain but I think that is what is partly pushing me to work and get healthy (skinny!) Who wants to be the fat girl or chubby one in the picture, NOT ME(anymore!) I do not however think that I am better, prettier or healthier than anyone else. I just want to be better than what I was or am right now. Always strive to be better, that is all you can do!!

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MMBALMONTE 6/27/2012 1:08PM

    LOL. Showing results and being happy with what you look like on the outside isn't vain. It's motivation. Sometimes if I don't see it I'm not as motivated. So let's not depend on it. In time if we put the effort it'll definitely show. I once lost 60lbs and dammit I looked good.

I battle with vain vs. health all the time. My culture thrives on looks. At first I was like I don't care if I'm a Filipino Chubby girl.. .Now I'm doing it for health only. And yes.. if I happen to look good.. oh well :)

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PHOTOFAN440 6/26/2012 9:45AM

    We are on the same page! Do I deserve to be the person I know I can be.....I have thought about that alot. Sabotage myself because of low self esteem. We do deserve it, and we are worthy! Great thoughts today! emoticon

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MDBUTTERFLY 6/26/2012 8:54AM

    Great blog! I think we struggle for so many reasons sometimes and why for some (like me) it is a long journey working through those reasons. Congrats on your epiphany!

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MENNOLY 6/24/2012 7:11PM

    emoticon Stay motivated! emoticon

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VICTORY2XS 6/24/2012 6:15PM

    Love this! Yes, we have to love ourselves before we can change ourselves. This is so true. And it does seem like it is instilled in some of us that not being self-deprecation is vanity. It's hard to overcome, but the support I find here is certainly helpful. There is so much encouragement here.

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