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A Decision Long in Coming

Sunday, June 24, 2012

I have been torturing myself trying to reach a conclusion as to how to handle things. I have not been MIA on Spark People but then again I have. I rarely have time to blog anymore. I do log on every day and try to get the basic Sparking in like my Nutrition Tracker, Fitness Tracker, Daily Huddle with my teams. This past week was really bad as I only just got caught up with my Friend Feed yesterday and I discovered that the last time I addressed anything on my Friend Feed was over 5 days ago.

I am putting in over 60 hours a week at work. I am in the Mortgage Industry and the rates are ridiculously low so I am super busy. Not complaining though as I had been laid off for almost a year and a half. I still get up at 5 AM so I can workout, 2 hours daily before work and on the weekend at my leisure. By the end of the day I am usually stressed out and therefore exhausted. It’s mental exhaustion but it usually leaves me with little desire to Spark. I just want to chill out and decompress.

The answer is not to take a Spark Break as others have done. I know deep in my heart my success on my weight loss journey is because of Spark People. It is the motivation that I get from my Spark Buddies that has helped me stay on track. It is one reason I take my Friend Feed seriously. Your Friend Feed is one way that you can offer support and motivation. Your Friend Feed tells you your Spark Buddies accomplishments and their blogs tell you how they are doing. I have not had enough time to read many of those blogs. Sorry!

Taking a Spark Break would probably see me spiral backwards. I know I am a Foodaholic and I know that no Sparking would send me spiralizing backwards.
I cannot leave Spark People but I must cut back dramatically. I have left some teams and I will be leaving another at the beginning of July. It is one that started but it is a now almost a defunct team. We were so active for the 1st year and the weight loss we achieved as a team was incredible. Sad to say this team’s Weight Loss Challenge showed a Team Weight Loss of 18 pounds for the month of May. That is pathetic! There is not that much participation anymore, the Chat Room being semi-active.

I’ve tried breathing life back into the team. The Team definitely needs a reboot and refocus but I have failed in motivating them to do so. It is time to step down as Leader. Maybe someone else taking the reins will lead them forward.
Diets do not work but lifestyle changes do. I know I am on the right path for me on my journey to a healthier me with following a Raw Food Lifestyle. My Green Smoothie Team, Organic Gardening Team, and Vegetarian Team all support the direction I am going so I will be keeping those teams and my Raw Foodies Team is a no brainer; that is my lifeline!

Spark People is my lifeline as well. Yup, trimming the fat (pun intended) so to speak is the right decision.
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    Yvonne, I totally get where you are coming from. Don't blame yourself for the team failures. You worked like mad and kept up with a dizzying amount of online attention being a team leader requires. There are lots of factors contributing to the success or failure of a team, just like with the failure or success of a teacher.

    I'm so happy to see you succeeding with your weight loss and happy with your raw lifestyle....and working again! Spark people is a wonderful website and the community is priceless, but it has to fit into the rest of our lives, times and priorities and sometimes it's a tight fit. Keep on pushing sister and don't look back, unless you're doing it with pride and a smile! I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your hard work and devotion to the team! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2054 days ago
  • QTEALADY20031
    The first is to take care of yourself and your health! You obviously realize that. I am glad that you are staying with Spark People. The best to you. emoticon June
    2061 days ago
    A wise decision. Having had my employment struggles, I know that you have to strike when the iron is hot and not complain about long hours or jeopardize the job. On the other hand, it seems like taking a Spark break usually doesn't work. I had a few teams in my early spark days that were awesome and then just went very inactive in spite of the best efforts to keep them going. You have to to what is best for you. I think that keeping a presence on spark but cutting back on time and obligations is a great option.
    2063 days ago
    This Too Shall Pass... work will slow down and you will one day have more free time again. Maybe then you can do more than the basic sparking. I say CONGRATS to you for making this decision! Do what you need to do for you now. :-)
    2064 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    I know how you feel being soo busy and then overwhelmed with spark.

    I had over 500 emails and it was all spark emails and i have fallen asleep with one hand on my mouse and one hand on the keyboard typing (one time i was in the middle of a

    You don't have to leave spark, you just have to spark when you can and when you can't you know we will understand that your busy.

    And hey that is smart to drop some teams.
    2065 days ago
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    I know you have agonized over this decision and sorry you have. You must do what is best for you and your continued journey to being healthy. You are a wonderful person and motivator, that team has been so special and helped me to get to where I am today but it was not the team but the people I have met there and shared with and who are walking the journey with me that really matter.
    Be happy and move forward and I know I will still you around and that bring a smile.
    Hugs and love
    2067 days ago
  • DARA52
    I am not working 60 hrs a week but summer is so busy and with the baby coming... I am focusing on Friend Feed and logging my food. I can't stop that. Hang in there. Love you. Dara
    2067 days ago
    The most important person in the world is YOU! Take care of yourself and do what is best for you. Sometimes that decision makes us feel guilty but if you don't take care of yourself, who will?

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    2067 days ago
    It is very hard sometimes. My workplace always stresses me out.
    I don't know what i am going to do yet about it.
    Good luck and keep smiling.
    2068 days ago
    Glad to hear you are not leaving Raw Foodies yet alone Sparks. Definitely we all need some time to adjust with the curve balls of life.

    I'm glad you are just cutting back and you are still on the same path and direction that is best for your health. I haven't blogged about my food intake but I am still doing a 75-95 Raw. Yet I am not consistent and that's where I need to stick to it unfortunately Money is the issue.

    Definitely being on Sparks keeps me accountable or I would just give up. I just need to find the most affordable recipes that will help me maintain considering lack of funds and a salary cut that will take place at the end of next month..

    I'm glad my spark buddies are here as well to help me adjust and keep me motivated as this can put me spiraling downhill. Thanks for sharing your whereabouts.

    No worries your teams will be fine, to much worrying and stressing can cause you to get your shingles back and we certainly don't want that.


    2068 days ago
    Do what you ahve to to be healthy and ahppy.
    2068 days ago
    I definitely understand where you are. I am ashamed to admit that my friend feed is probably the first thing to go when I am pressed for time.

    I am glad you are staying with SparkPeople. Make the cuts you need to to keep your sanity. Your friends will always be here for you.
    2068 days ago
    Glad to see that you're reorganizing your efforts to get in more of some "me" time and sticking with Spark. You would be missed if you left. Glad to see you make some positive changes.

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    2068 days ago
    I understand completely. I tried to call you but got no answer. I was at the pool earlier. I hope that all is well. Stand up for YOU and feel good about your decision. I agree that it's the right thing to do. I'm in the same boat. Love you... Dawn
    2068 days ago
    We love you and are here for you no matter what. emoticon
    2068 days ago
  • WILLOW49
    No doubt about it, you have to do what's best for you!
    2068 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    take care of you first....
    all the best with your decisions...
    blessings and hugs..........lita

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    2068 days ago
    Yvonne, thanks for being so honest about everything. I'm with the other people in saying that you need to take care of you first. You already inspire many of us and when life gets in the way, that's okay too.
    2068 days ago
    I agree with the rest of the comments here. You need to do what's best for yourself. ((hugss))

    Love Kathy

    I am going to message you.
    2068 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/24/2012 3:20:51 PM
  • TEDYBEAR2838
    Definitely do what you need to do. Just don't go away totally.

    We Need You! But you need YOU more!

    Life is full of changes, some hard ones. You'll do what is right
    for you.

    See you later this summer.

    2068 days ago
    Sometime we have to make tough decisions in order to take care of ourselves. I know that it's not easy but do what you have to do. Even when times are tough, I also stay connected to SP and know it is my lifeline. But I've left leadership positions, or refused to take ones on much as I would like to, because I know that if I don't take care of myself I can't really help others like I want to.
    2068 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/24/2012 3:02:35 PM
    You do what you need to Yvonne, your health and happiness must come first. emoticon
    2068 days ago
    Those are tough decisions but you need to do what is best for you.
    2068 days ago
  • LGAR519
    Life happens. We have to prioritize. It just can't be helped. I do what I can comfortably live with. There is no other option.
    2068 days ago
    Things change....that's the one constant thing in life! But you're a wise woman to realize you need to just shift gears and make the adjustments to keep SP a part of your life. I logged on today thinking I would write my first blog in months and months. Definitely cathartic!i'm struggling to make things fit my crazy life right now. I need SP too! So hang in there dear one and do whacha gotta do! Hugs! emoticon
    2068 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/24/2012 2:29:27 PM
    You need to do what is healthy for you and your success! You are such a great supporter!! emoticon
    2068 days ago
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