25,000-29,999 SparkPoints 28,471

When will I learn??

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

When will I learn not to EVER ask for help on public forums when it comes to weight loss??? ACK!!!!!!!

So, I re-joined Weight Watchers yesterday. They have a community forum. I really struggled with eating ENOUGH food yesterday. Since my surgery, I mostly have not have the appetite I had before surgery. As well, I have SO many more food guidelines/restrictions than most people do (no soy; no eggs; no gluten; restricted sodium; low fat; yadda yadda).

Anyway, I simply posted a question asking if having too many daily points was something anyone else struggled with. Yeesh!!!!!!!!! Why oh why will I never learn that asking a question in a public forum where everyone suddenly becomes a proclaimed expert is just not a good idea???????? Oh my bob.

Of course everyone wanted to "fix" me rather than just answer my question. And of course all their fixes are things I can't currently implement--eat full fat, eat more cheese, eat more dairy, where's your oil, oh, and my favorite?? STOP DIETING AND EAT REAL FOOD.

Gah gah gah.

I am NOT dieting. I am eating real food. I do not like dairy and cannot eat eggs or soy and cannot eat full fat stuff right now. I don't eat gluten and must eat very low sodium. It's tricky. But I did not ask for anyone to solve my eating problem; I only asked if anyone else ever felt like they had too many points! and guess what? Several people agreed that this was their hardest part in the beginning....eating all their points.

If people only realized the mixed messages---------eat less and move more, but EAT ALL YOUR POINTS aka EAT MORE. I can't both eat less AND eat more.

I am sick to death of people who proclaim themselves as experts and run in trying to fix other people. Why can't we just be cheerleaders for one another? What works for you may not work for me!!!

I'm finding more people here on Spark who get this, but that WW crowd??? Yeesh! You know what they actually started saying to me?? Maybe WW isn't the plan for you. Because I'm struggling trying to eat 38 daily points??????


When will I ever learn? I want companionship on the journey, but that doesn't mean you are free to tell me what I should be eating or doing! Support is encouraging each other, NOT becoming my expert adviser!

I think I shall stay far far away from those STUPID WW forums!!!!! At least some people here on Spark actually GET it and know that everyone's journey is individual and the best we can do is just ENCOURAGE one another!!!! YAY SPARK!!!!
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
    I have had people tell me that I was starving myself because I was eating 24 out of my 26 daily points. That I should worry about being in starvation mode and that I would gain all the weight back.
    I had trouble eating all my points at first too. This week I went way over my weeklies but that's another story. I have found that people, especially at weight watcher (I go to live meetings), consider anyone that deviates from the actual plan/assigned points, to be people they need to "fix" and force to conform. I hate it. So what I do is make WW work for me and WW does work :) but I listen to my body before I listen to my leader/other members. What works for me works for me. We are all different. Especially since you just had surgery. Just don't listen to all those self-proclaimed experts. A lot of them are jealous too because most people have trouble staying within their calorie or point range and not with eating enough and might feel bad about their own appetite and choices....
    Spark is wonderful. I really didn't feel welcome at all on the WW forums either.
    I have found Sparkers (for the most part) to be so positive and encouraging regardless of the eating plan you chose/where you are in your journey/how much you have to lose.
    I truly believe in the WW eating plan but I don't like the "this is the only diet that works mentality".
    Hope you have a wonderful week :) (and let's stay away from negative people)

    2100 days ago
  • SO-BE-IT
    I can relate. Yes, when I was in WW's I was supposed on eat 28 pts. but found I was full on 24 or 26 so stuck with what my body was telling me.
    You follow your body, period. I am very allergic to soy, dairy and whole grains. I make my own food from scratch...and combine eating my version of the rice diet, juicing and even counting pts from time to time. Daily I change because my body and I change. Boredom and freedom to choose are big for me and with this I am better satisfied.

    You are an intelligent woman, well versed in nutrition so don't doubt what is best for you.
    Your already a success just keep moving forward!

    On a last note:
    Sparks people are far superior to WW people. LOL

    2100 days ago
    Oooo - I get to be the first to comment - sometimes I eat too much, and sometimes my body simply doesn't want a lot of food... Listening to YOUR body - and YOUR doctor (after surgery) is what matters. I am beginning to understand that everyone's body really is different. So I wish you well as you figure out how to nourish your body, given your restrictions.... And I think you are right to not listen to annoying people. I determined that the only way for me to succeed was to make my OWN plan - and not do anything I really didn't want to do... You sound like you HAVE to make your own plan - to accomodate your body...
    2100 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.

More Blogs by KNIT1PURL2LOSE3