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What they won't tell you.

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Monday, June 18, 2012

I love reading the "success stories" 50, 75, 100, 150 pounds lost. They inspire me and help me know that the goal is achievable. They sometimes even give me new ideas and helpful tips. Sometimes they even make me cry! A life restored, relationships healed, health improved... the stories are numerous.

I want to talk about the part many DON'T mention.

BAD choices - Yep, I still make them - not as often as I did. My bad choices now are actually better than they were. Instead of doughnuts, ice cream, nachos etc. they tend to be "too large" of a serving of something or choosing a chicken entree with a topping rather than plain. The "quantity and quality" of my bad choices have less of an impact now but they are still BAD choices.

EXERCISE BURNOUT - yep - it happens. That's why you must have alternative methods for getting your cardio. When you think you can't pedal another mile on the bike or walk another 10 steps on the treadmill time to mix it up! Get out a DVD, your Wii, go swimming, try a sport, or do something DIFFERENT but don't QUIT exercising. You WILL tire of things but that's when you have to be creative.

DOUBT - Oh yes! I still have doubts that I will keep losing and keep it off. That's normal too! I just have to remember that the destination is NOT optional and that perseverance pays off. It helps to keep lots of visual reminders around (my paper clip chain - see my photos), charts, post-its etc.

MIRROR DISAPPOINTMENT - So I've lost 75 pounds and I look at myself in the mirror and I think - look how FAT I still am. When one has such a large amount of weight to lose as I did no matter how far I've come I have a long way yet to go. It's easy to forget where I "was" and only see where I "am" and think my efforts are not paying off. This is why I keep some of those BEFORE pictures around and that one pair of HUGE pants so that I can have a reality check that indeed I have made huge progress.

UN-SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS/FAMILY - You know what I'm talking about! Here are some of the things they say: Oh you have lost enough let's go get pizza. -- You are only going to gain it back why bother. -- You can diet tomorrow. -- You aren't really fat just big. There are dozens more but they don't help. They are just obstacles in your path.

CHAFFING - Exercise with FAT causes thighs to rub and it HURTS!. I have learned to use lots of lotion followed by powder and wear a pant/short long enough to cover the thighs. Don't let it keep you from exercising.

TRACKING - Yep - I must still track. If I don't I always overeat... ALWAYS. It's a pain, it takes time but it works. I am sure there are people that can adequately count in their head and stay in range but I'm not one of them. That's how I got to be 300 lbs plus!

ACCOUNTABILITY - Are you truly accountable to someone/group/team? It's essential for success. You need someone that is sharing your weight loss journey with you so that you have a REASON to push to the scale each week. Without that it is easy to get into the ANNIE game (tomorrow I'll eat right/exercise/start my diet). Get a weekly weigh-in established with SOMEONE expecting it!

So why did I tell you all this? I am all about being open and honest. If I only told you the "good parts" you would feel a failure if you couldn't produce the same but if I show you that I TOO struggle DAILY to stay on this path... maybe, just maybe it will give you hope and show you that persevering through it will produce results!

Don't be afraid to fail - just make sure if/when you do that you get up and keep PRESSING ON!

See you at "Health & Fitness"
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JOANNHUNT 2/22/2013 10:46AM

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SUTERSPACE 1/28/2013 4:26PM

    Isn't THAT the truth. I've copied all this down and sharing it with others. Thanks.

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ARUSHING2 10/27/2012 2:34PM

 
You said it all . . . you covered it all!

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CHUM48 9/17/2012 12:24PM

    As everyone has said to you to this point. thanks for your honesty and giving us a moment to reflect on our "things not mentioned" Thanks for stirring our hearts and brains to pay attention to these items that just sneak in when we don't pay attention. Thank you!

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SPSPSP1 8/31/2012 2:45PM

    Thanks for your honesty!

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REGILIEH 7/21/2012 4:22AM

  Terrific!!!

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PATTYGRAY 7/19/2012 1:21PM

    Thank You!!

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TONI-ANN_L 7/12/2012 3:49PM

    Dealing with every single one of these issues now...to be honest, it's derailed me just a bit. It's good to know I'm not the only one struggling here.

Best of luck to you. emoticon

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DEB_LEA 7/11/2012 9:14PM

    Good reminders. Thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work!

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KENDAL0525 7/11/2012 9:22AM

    Great post! I think it's really important for people to know the realities of this journey. The end result, when we reach it, is amazing, but there are so many ups and downs along the way.

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MISSLISA1973 7/6/2012 11:14PM

    You are so right about the "mirror disappointment." I recently saw a picture of me from a year and a half ago and was SHOCKED at the difference I saw. I don't see THAT in the mirror every moring... I see how far I have to go. That is one reason I focus more on NSV's... I love the sense of accomplishment and then can look at myself in the mirror and love what I see, even if it's in a bigger body than I want. emoticon

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GINIEMIE 7/6/2012 4:37PM

    Just got back from the doctors and read your blog, I fell off the wagon! I've been off for long enough to put 20# back on. The weight was bad enough, but the gain also caused my cholesterol to climb. I'm not back to square one, but I must buckle down and track. Like you and many of us, when I don't track I don't do well. Good job on the 75# lost and good luck on the follow through.
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CLEO27 7/5/2012 7:02PM

  Sometimes we really need the reality check and need to hear the good and the bad. Thank you for being so honest. There will be good days and bad days as long as we keep on trying to get to where we want to be it's all worth it in the end.

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1STICKBLUES 7/5/2012 3:41PM

    Thank you for this. It's something that I really could use today!

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MARYM1962 7/5/2012 3:14PM

  Thanks for letting us know you are human and that we all have these problems. sometimes when you read a blog and they tell you all the great things the have done, you think to yourself that they NEVER have problems and that you just can't do what they did. You showed us that yes, you have come a long way and have accomplished much, but that you also have stumbling blocks in your journey and that you have to work to overcome those as well.

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MYVOYAGE 7/4/2012 3:57PM

    Thank you!!! Often times as I read others blogs I feel inspired, tearful and challenged as well...today your blog helped me to be all of the above as well as challenged. These are many of my obstacles...and I needed to hear this today!

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ENRGEE 7/4/2012 11:13AM

    Thanks for sharing what others were reluctant to share. I’m just starting out and finding it hard to maintain energy and focus some days. Thanks for giving me a kick in my motivation.

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MRSLAURALEE 6/29/2012 9:53AM

    Nicely put!

No one told me how hard maintenance would be and that is partly why I failed it! Starting over is harder than making a few changes to now, like you said! emoticon

So what if you have more to lose, you have still lost 75 lbs! Be proud! emoticon

emoticon Keep up the good work and thank you for telling me I am not alone when I make mistakes!

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42FIT4GOOD 6/29/2012 8:55AM

    Thank you for this wonderful and insightful blog. You are correct in mentioning that so many lose the weight and share the positives but don't tend to share the negatives or setbacks or slips and slides. Your blog was written beautifully!! Thanks for being open and honest. A LOT of people out there are struggling with the same thing and tend to forget that others are too! I am one of them. You are correct about how far you have come because I am the same way. I forgot how "far I have come" (lost 70lbs) and still reaching to get those last 30 lbs off. I too, still see my self at my old weight instead of where I am now. Thanks for the wake up call on that!! Keep up the GREAT work!!

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END2WEIGHT 6/28/2012 10:30PM

    I have the same problem with my thighs too! I have come to be friends with Gold Bond Lotions :-)

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CRZYMOM04 6/27/2012 2:40PM

    Thank you so much for sharing. We need to all know the great outcomes and what to look forward to but also the things that may not be as great it is a part of life, but we need to know the information thanks again for sharing.

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JERICHO1991 6/27/2012 9:41AM

    Thanks for sharing the struggles we must deal with daily that can sabotage our quest for a healthy life.

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 6/26/2012 4:31AM

    You speak the truth on this terrific blog! Those reminders are going to come in handy more than once, I'm sure. I am ready to face the day!



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DRB13_1 6/25/2012 10:57PM

    emoticon definitely a emoticon blog...the TRUTH will set us free. emoticon

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DRCLANKY 6/25/2012 8:48PM

    Thanks for keeping it real and sharing your inspiring experiences!

By the way, with respect to the "chaffing" issue, I've discovered that a product called Body Glide does wonders! You apply it to problem areas like a deordorant stick and it really helps. I even use it when I'm not working out on hot days when I'm wearing a skirt and doing some walking. You can pick it up at places like Sports Basement.



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KALANTHA 6/24/2012 7:38PM

    Thank you for being a truth teller. Your honesty lets the rest of us know that we're not alone in our weakest moments and that no matter what, there is always hope (as long as we're willing to do the heavy lifting).

Great blog!

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ENCOURAGEDLADY 6/24/2012 3:54PM

    Thank you for helping to motivate me! Your blogs are excellent emoticon

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SWEETSADDICTION 6/24/2012 9:40AM

    A really good post with very good reality checks. kudos to you for sharing. i am on 13 months and have lost 35 pounds and average of about 2.? pounds per month. i am losing less and less as i go but i am still losing so it is not the end of my journey i have the faith that the slower i take it off the longer it will stay there and hopefully the joy of never seeing it come back. my biggest struggle is still the sweets i want my goodies and even though fruits are better they just dont stand in for the sugars.

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AROCHFORD 6/24/2012 3:53AM

    To help the chafing I use any cream that they use for baby diaper rash in the night before I go to sleep. I find it heals it quickly. E.g. A&D cream

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_CYNDY55_ 6/24/2012 2:51AM

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GEOGIAGIRL2 6/23/2012 11:24PM

    Thank you so much for insights! It helped me a lot.

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BIKECHIC1 6/23/2012 4:41PM

    Thankyou so much for your post, I don't like it's just me anymore. I thought I was the only one that kept slipping back into bad ways, although they're not as bad as they used to be.
I feel much better now!! emoticon

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DLDMIL 6/23/2012 3:54PM

    Great post, thanks for the reminders. emoticon

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JDELMIT 6/23/2012 3:30PM

    Thank you for being open and honest. Sometimes it is easy to forget that the people that you admire b/c they have succeeded also have problems too. It takes hard work to lose weight and it will not just come off.

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SLIMSOLO10 6/23/2012 2:12PM

    this is all soooo true and good to remember when you feel discouraged! but seeing your success makes it all worth it! thank you!

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J2740LOU 6/23/2012 11:42AM

    You are an inspiration! Thanks for sharing. Nice to know I'm not alone on this journey.

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BETHJRN 6/23/2012 7:54AM

    Wonderful blog.... very inspiring and right on target. Thanks for sharing with me.

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STARRSKS5 6/23/2012 7:22AM

  Thank you so much for writing this entry, so inspirational.

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MKRUSE34 6/23/2012 7:21AM

    You are right. I have been maintaing my weight for about 3 years now, and I still do all the things that you mentioned. Just don't give up.

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CINDY_LYNNE 6/23/2012 1:01AM

    Thank you for writing this. :)

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DEVERYLEJ 6/22/2012 11:42PM

  They also don't tell you that you may have some sagging or wrinkly skin that won't go away no matter how fit you are and how much muscle you gain. But don't give up; you are still getting healthy and strong and you can still look and feel good!

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SDELISFORT100 6/22/2012 10:07PM

    AMEN!! This is so encouraging. I would like to print this out! emoticon

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BEACHGIRL328 6/22/2012 9:56PM

    Amen! I really needed to read this! and it is so good to see i am not the only one with the struggles!

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FLUTTER-BY)L( 6/22/2012 7:34PM

    Yep, we are here for the good, the bad, and the boy I wish it weren't so. Glad you are seeing success.

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CHICKYBEE 6/22/2012 1:16PM

    Wonderful blog. Thanks for a totally different perspective, and the reminder that weight 'loss' is not all good. It has its darker side, and by expressing it, you have given us all another area in which to identify with each other and connect. Sometimes, just an understanding, sympathetic 'pat-on-the-shoulder' is all we need to keep going.

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DRULON 6/22/2012 12:17PM

  Many of the things you mention are exactly right, but the one that really hit-the-nail-on-the-head for me is that I still don't see myself as anything but still fat, and I have already lost. I don't have any pix of me as "before" but I'm still going to lose it, so I won't see my self as fat. emoticon

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FITMOMMA4LIFE 6/22/2012 11:29AM

    Took the words right out of my mouth!

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1DUZYW 6/22/2012 10:38AM

    You said just what I have been thinking! Thank you for letting me know I am normal and I can do it!

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YULLABELLE 6/22/2012 9:51AM

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DORY914 6/22/2012 8:48AM

    Thank you for sharing this, its the same stuff I have been struggling with. Its nice to know I'm not alone. emoticon

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