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Learning to say NO but...

Monday, June 18, 2012

I do feel overwhelmed at times as I try to do so many things and be all things to all people. I am looking at it now that it is ok to say No.
Is it selfishness? No it's self preservation. There is a limit to my time and energy.
I was asked to help serve on a charity sale. I found myself saying Sorry NO. but I will contribute towards it
Asked would I join a new team on Sparks. I answered sorry I cant, but I am happy to be her friend and wished her team good luck.
Again, it was sorry NO I cant be a team leader at this time, BUT I do try to be a good team member
Once the NO has been said firmly, with an added BUT.... It is accepted with no hard feelings and I don't feel as bad about refusing.
Can you say No? Irene

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SCRUMPTIOUSK 6/21/2012 11:32AM

    Yep..No is a hard word to say but not saying it can lead to all kinds of problems. I too had a problem saying No. I did me no favours and I had to learn the hard way that you have to. I agree with you Irene as long as you explain the reason why then people usually understand and if they dont then its their problem !

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JUSTA123 6/21/2012 10:51AM

    Important lesson, sometimes we need to say No!

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BILLPHIL123 6/20/2012 7:11AM

    Great thing to learn!! Thanks. Phyllis

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BOBBIENORTHERN1 6/19/2012 8:35AM

  Yes you are not only correct by saying no but also wise and smart knowing when to say no.

We have bodies that tend to slow down as we get older and we have to pace ourselves so that we can do what is most important for us so that we can extend our love and care for others when we are able.

It is very important to know when to say no for our own self preservation.

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HANNAHV 6/19/2012 2:51AM

    emoticon I had to learn NO is a word and an answer.

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RAWHIDE64 6/18/2012 8:39PM

    I agree that you have a very polite way of saying no and it is self preservation. Good for you. emoticon


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CELIAMINER 6/18/2012 10:12AM

    Good for you, and thanks for the hints on how to say NO nicely.

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DSJB9999 6/18/2012 9:54AM

    I find it very difficult to say NO but think its right for us to look after ourselves firs!

emoticon you , well done Irene


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BEARGODDESS 6/18/2012 9:08AM

    It sounds like a graceful, positive way to say no, and saying no is very necessary to our own well being.

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SUNRISE14 6/18/2012 8:54AM

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4DOGNIGHT 6/18/2012 8:51AM

    Yes, I can say no and I can speak up!

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GABY1948 6/18/2012 7:04AM

    Yes, I learned that saying NO is very good for me too...after a long life of not being ABLE to say NO. It takes a lot of practice but it is VERY good! Thanks for sharing!

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