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Sunday, June 17, 2012

Some people don't understand the concept of things not to say. I was out with my dad, sister and partner yesterday afternoon at a restaurant - I'm a strong believer of I will eat what I want/ how I want and being unwell I was treating myself. Dad said I don't know where you put all of that food - then he goes oh wait yes I do I can see it...pretty much telling me that I'm fat, my sister then goes on to tell me that there's more to love. Words cannot even start to comprehend how upset I was by all of this. I've been sick - chugging along at the gym, eating well for 5 out of 7 days a week and they call me fat.

I really just don't have an appetite at all today, I've been drinking lemon honey ginger to get rid of my cold, had a piece of ginger loaf, some eggs and some sushi but every time I think of what was said I just want to burst into tears. Now this is going to sound stupid but I didn't even think I looked heavy, I've lost a pants size since the beginning of the year and yes I have a bit of a stomach but my cycle has bloated me out and I can't avoid that. I can't help that I'm hungry and enjoy food.

I thought that once I was happy in myself no one would really care about how I looked obviously it's not enough for my family to be telling me how fat I am. Pretty crap end to a weekend, especially couple that with the cold I'm fighting, the personal training I'm doing and effort I'm putting in.

I hope that no one else ever has someone else say that to them, when we are already so self conscious of ourselves to have two people in your family comment on how heavy you are is a pretty low point :(
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SUPERKHAN 6/23/2012 8:37AM

    Not only do we lose weight, we also need to gain confidence. If you know you look good and you have made progress, forget what your family said. At the end of the day sit in that dinner table with your smaller jeans on and eat what you want. Don't get upset, get even. Lose more weight and prove that you can do you and still lose.


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ONEHOTFILIPINA 6/22/2012 4:44PM

    Are you sure they were talking to you because you look pretty bomb to me! Don't let their comments get to you. Sometimes, family, because of the "unconditional love" clause, feel that they can say whatever they want, whenever they want. Take those harsh words and prove to them how you can take their negativity and turn it into an INCREDIBLE and SELF-LOVING positivity!

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CECE0330 6/18/2012 10:44AM

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(That is a kick to the head of your insensitive family members!!!!! One for your sis, one for your dad)

Seriously???? Cuz I went out and took a quick peek at your weight and pics (like to get the whole picture before i respond) and you appear to be a healthy vibrant woman at a completely normal weight. Sometimes family members just don't know how to express themselves when they are concerned for their loved ones health, and rude is rude, regardless of their intentions...but I honestly don't see WHY they would feel the need to criticize that way. Hard as it might be, try to brush it off, focus that frustration into your next workout when you've kicked this cold, and if it's still bothering you, by all means: Confront them! There's nothing wrong with saying "You know, I was hurt by the comments you made at lunch that one day"

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ALIHIKES 6/17/2012 11:47PM

    Sometimes it hurts far more when negative comments come from family members and those we love. Maybe consider saying something like "That is a really hurtful and mean comment." I hope you can keep your motivation going, and don't let anyone else's negativity get your down. emoticon

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LADYJAKE1 6/17/2012 11:42PM

    Some people don't have a filter and say what they please.....I was 100lbs overweight at one time and people always thought I needed them to tell me, that some how I was unaware of it. Little did they know it was the first thing on my mind when I woke up the last thing on my mind when I went bed.....every bite I took was thought about even the ones that I knew I was over eating.

Hugs to you for going through what I have






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TERRI289 6/17/2012 11:10PM

    I am so sorry that they were so thoughtless!!! Sometimes family thinks that they can say anything that they like(my mom still does that with me and it makes me nuts!!!!)-I suggest a good cry and then remember that you are beautiful no matter what anyone says. Your have a wonderful heart and you are living a realistically healthy lifestyle. No one needs to match someone else's idea of healthy.

Big hugs from south Jersey, visit my blog today so you can smile at my dolphin pictures!! Take care of yourself, emotionally as well as physically!!

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