Sunday, June 17, 2012
Luv and I got married in the very early 70's. Viet Nam was still an American nightmare, doomsdayers were predicting not only an economic meltdown, but a complete self-destruction of our democratic way of life. Unemployment was high. Most important, I was young an impressionable and allowed myself to be drug down to the level of the pessimists that seemed to be so well informed. Somehow I missed focusing on all the good people and the good things in life that surrounded me even then. I didn't think bringing childeren into this kind of world was fair to the children and had decided not to have any. Fortunately, Luv didn't share my cloud of dripping negatives and "accidentally" got pregnant!
By far the best accident that ever occurred in my life!
Today I can't imagine a world without my sons and now their families. As they grew up, I grew up. Sharing my world with them turned into a life of adventure and excitement. In place of worrying about the status of the world, life became a personal challenge and although difficult at times, it became very satisying. Life was no longer focused on me, but became focused on us and it's been about US ever since.
Then and now, we played together, worked together, solved problems together, met the challenges of life together. Back when the boys were 13 and 15 we borrowed the money and bought an old used pop up camper and spent 6 weeks touring America! We were told if we didn't do it then, the boys would get to that stage where they didn't want to do things with their parents anymore. Well that was an amazing trip, BUT we never got to that stage that was predicted. They never stopped traveling with us and doing things with us. To this day, we take a family trip every year with everyone - our sons, their wives and now their children! Life is good!
Yesterday, the boys and I celebrated Father's Day a day early with what has become an annual event for us. The 3 of us headed out for a day on the stream. We packed our kayaks with our fishing equipment and beer, slopped on the sun screen and had an amazing day together fishing, laughing and simply enjoying our relationship to one another. We even caught about 60 fish! It just doesn't get any better than this!
Now life is focused on staying healthy and fit, so that adventures like these with my sons and now my grandchildren (my 9 yo gd just got her own kayak) will continue for many years down the road.
So now I look back on that pessimistic young man that I once was and can't even imagine what life would have been like if that first accident hadn't occurred. (BTW, I don't think there was any real accident involved.) I am a very blessed man!
Life is good!