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Dealing with Stress

Friday, June 15, 2012

This summer is starting out very stressful for me.

On Memorial Day weekend my husband was hospitalized with chest pain and other heart attack symptoms. After having a cardiac cath we found out that his heart was healthy and that the pain was probably due to a viral inflammation or Esophageal spasm, We felt blessed to know that he had no blockages or plaque buildup but the experience was scary.

Now we are facing fire at our beloved cabin. I can't express how that feels. We know we were lucky to be evacuated early, but every day we watch the fire grow closer. They have put a daily infrared aerial picture on the fire web site and we have watched the fire move toward our cabin. Yesterday the "hot spot" ie flames were 500 feet from the cabin. I was in shock. I had really denied the fact that we could actually lose the mountain retreat I love. DH, the animals, and I feel an utter sense of release, relaxation and joy when we go there. I just didn't want to accept the fact we could lose it.

Yesterday I was filled with anxiety and trepidation. I went on my usual Thursday walk with a friend, but we had to walk around the mall because of the smoke in the air. We walked fast and I talked faster! Much of my anxiety diminished. I spent the rest of the day with another friend who is fighting pancreatic cancer and we shopped for hiking gear for her. She is in remission and is planning to hike one of the Colorado 14 ers (14,000 feet elevation mountains) in August. We have been hiking a couple of times a week to help her prepare. She is the most incredible woman and has faith, spirit, joy and love of life. Yesterday, she let me talk and express my fears and she shared some of her approaches and joys. What a blessing. My anxiety changed to gratitude and joy! I am blessed to have had my cabin, whatever happens, and more blessed to have the friends I have.

On a secondary note, because my DHs blood work showed a pre diabetic tendency I have been looking into Diabetic Diets and have greatly modified my carb, fat, protein proportions to try and help him and lo and behold I have lost a pesky 5 pounds in a week!

Life's lessons are hard but full of peace and joy if you embrace them rather than run away from them with food.

Our cabin bf (before fire)

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    Just letting you know that you and your DH along with your cabin have been in my prayers daily this week. emoticon
    2100 days ago
    I have several evacuated friends right now and you're all in my thoughts every day! Hoping your cabin makes it through! The firefighters are doing an amazing job!!!
    2100 days ago
    Nancy I have thought obout you all week!! I have a co-worker whose home (currently rented out) and his parents home not far away were in the fire's path. It went through but the homes were saved (one garage was not). So he has been keeping us updated. I hope and pray you keep it but must say I am so encouraged and inspired by your attitude! I totally agree that the hard things of life are to be faced and when we do so, we find we grow.

    2100 days ago
    500 feet - sigh. Have you heard anything this morning? Sending you lots of online support here. Congrats on clearing away those pesky 5 pounds - they were not good for much any way! May I ask, what is your husband doing for those esophageal spasms? I've gone through the exact same thing this week, except they are scheduling a CT scan to make sure there are no tumors in my case. But the doc hasn't changed my Prilosec or added anything, so I'm kinda in limbo for a couple of weeks.

    Stay strong out there, and lean on your friends when you need to - that's what they are there for. emoticon
    2100 days ago
    Oh Nancy, How uplifting to see that you've been handling this stress in such a positive way! Seeing the joys that can unfold. Walking is one of my best stress relievers too; all the better if the walk includes someone I'm comfortable talking with. Sounds like you really are blessed with great friends; as are they with you. Hang in there, no matter what happens at the cabin, you and yours will be fine. Even the scare with your husband can be seen as a message that will lengthen possibly both the quantity and the quality of both of your lives. Probably the purpose of stress, if we pay attention. (And you obviously do) After all, a violin couldn't make music without considerable stress on the strings! Life is good. Be well.
    2100 days ago
    I, too, have been dealing with a lot of stress. Last year it was my husband's two strokes and broken ankle that didn't heal due to his refusal to deal with his diabetes. This year it's moving my alcoholic mother into an old folks home, and having her fight me every step of the way. Praying about it and talking about it is the only thing that helps because when it comes to people places and things outside our control, what else can we do?
    2100 days ago
    First of all, congratulations on the weight loss! It's hard to do that sometimes in the face of the stress you have been facing. I love the mountains and forest so much, and can only imagine how much you love your cabin because it's something I dream of having one day. I'm glad that visiting with your friend, who has such problems in her own life to battle and is making plans, fighting back, and moving forward, helped to look at things a little differently. But I am so hoping and praying you don't lose your cabin. But like all the other losses in our lives, they have great memories to treasure attached. Whatever happens is out of your hands now, That is such a helpless feeling. But my prayers continue to go up for your cabin and others who are losing things so valuable to them in one way or another. Keep us posted.
    2100 days ago
    Your blog reminded my of the importance of great friends and counting our blessings!
    Thanks for sharing, I really needed the reminder.
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