Tuesday, June 12, 2012
"I can't" has a good friend, "I won't". "I won't" has a slightly bigger vocabulary and is a huge procrastinator. "I won't" likes to stay in it's comfort zone at all times.
"I won't" keeps putting things off that could have easily been done today. "I won't" knows you can do it, but doesn't want to. "I won't" has a few fears that keep you from doing things. "I won't" most days just doesn't feel like doing things.
"I won't" knows that you can move your body, but is too lazy to do it. It would rather sit and watch tv or play on the computer. "I won't" would rather keep the bike in storage than bring it out to enjoy the nice weather. "I won't" knows you can go for that walk and knows you can go faster today, but doesn't push. It would rather just stay stationary daily and not get around to things.
"I won't" likes to stay in it's comfort zone and would rather not do anything that you have any fear about. It could be a fear of intimacy to a fear of heights. "I won't" would rather keep you fat to make sure no one will take notice of you. "I won't" would rather stay on solid ground than climb that ladder to fix the house or go to the second floor of any mall. "I won't" doesn't like to fly and will make you take the extra time to get where you need to go to stay safe. My "I won't" keeps me out of the aquarium at the Mall of America because of an unnatural fear of the glass possibly breaking and thinking that we'll all drown there with the sharks. My "I won't" gives me panic attacks when we pass over the glass floor on the second floor, although I still do it, heart beating fast and all.
"I won't" doesn't like to try new things. It's set in it's ways. It would never try a new vegetable. It would never go to group exercises. It would never join a gym. It would never try a new cooking method. "I won't" would never date random people. "I won't" would never start a conversation with anyone. "I won't" gets upset when it's favorite show is canceled. "I won't" becomes upset when it's favorite food at it's favorite restaurant is discontinued.
"I won't" puts things off. It says "I'll do it tomorrow". This can apply to many things, from not cleaning the bathroom to not going on the walk in the park or at the gym. It could mean that today's the last big eating day because I'll go on that diet tomorrow. The problem with this "I won't" is that tomorrow never comes. The thing that was pushed off today will also be pushed off tomorrow. It's energy draining thinking about what needs to be done, but never gets done. "I won't" then uses the excuse that "I'm too tired" and decides to relax or take a nap instead.
"I won't" doesn't do research. It never looks up information for anything. It never figures out the new train schedule to try it out instead of driving. It never goes on vacation, it would have to decide on a place to go. It doesn't try new things at the restaurants because it doesn't know if it would taste good or be too caloric or salty. It doesn't want to know if something has your full calories for the week in the one meal. "I won't" holds you back at work because it doesn't like to do the work.
How can you get rid of that "I won't"? Start arguing with it. Tell it that "I will and I'll do it right now". Tell it that it would be more energized if it just would go out there and do it. Tell it that those thoughts about it's fears are unnatural and let logic take over. Tell that "I won't" that if you don't do it today it will never get done and you'd rather feel a sense of accomplishment. Remember that "I won't" likes to feel depressed and lonely, "I will" likes to feel good about what it did and is a bit proud of the things it knows it can do.
So get out there and do those things you've been putting off! The sense of accomplishment will be worth it! It's a rush to have that list checked off!