Some of My Story
Monday, June 11, 2012
Hi everyone! My name is Jovi and I'm a mom to 2 wonderful sons. My oldest is special needs (cerebral palsy) and is in a wheelchair. He's 11 yrs old and needs 24 hr care. The love and fierce protection I feel for him, is unexplainable. There are days that I wish things were different or easier...but the love I feel in my heart for him in unconditional. I gave up my job (as well as other things) in my life, to be home to care for him. That's where my weight gain comes in. I feel guilty if I say that it was because of him that I ballooned to 202 lbs (I'm 5"2) in April of this past year. It's not his fault at all. But, I think I used the excuse that he's immobile, and needed to be lifted at least 7 times a day, that I had no more energy to even think about excercise or taking a walk to keep my weight down. The mental stress caring for someone who has a chronic condition also made me eat. Constantly. I rarely cooked, so we ate out a lot to break of up the monotony. I have a valued family and friend support system. But my husband works a lot, so I can stay at home. Believe me when that day came, that I would carry my 55 lb son upstairs to bathe him or put him to bed, and I would be so out of breath and see spots......I serious began to believe I would die of a heart attack one day. Where would my sons be if I got seriously ill or had a stroke or died?? That was my wake up card. I have lost almost 25 lbs since then and more inches than I thought possible. I still have a way to go, but I began to look at my health as a goal of valued importance. It's important because my little guys depend on me right now. I don't know what the future holds...can't worry about that. All I know is right now. I've started becoming more organized, so I can schedule cooking time accordingly. Now that summer is here, it's hard...but not impossible to eat fresh, home cooked meals. My sons both love vegetables and salads. SP has been a God-send. What a wonderful tool to keep track of our fitness journey's while meeting so many wonderful people. If we can encourage one another, I would greatly appreciate it. Many people are compasionate to our struggles....but you can't really understand what it's like to care for a loved one with a physical challenge, until you go through it yourself, or see it first hand. My sons are 11 & 10 yrs old. My youngest son tells me how proud he is of my efforts so far. Lifting my son when I have to has become quite a bit easier without the extra pounds. Thanks for letting me share. If you ever need to vent, I'm here for anyone :)
Member Comments About This Blog Post
I wanted to thank you for your words of encouragment and tell you that you look wonderful, what a wonderful inspiration you are! your personal commitment to yourself to become healthier is wonderful.. ... I too have never had to care to a family member other than watching someone's child for a bit and now enjoying my 2yr old grandson... who inspires me now as well to become healthier....I had a scare about 18 months ago myself...lot's of heart issues in family...ended up with stent placed in artery root , with no major damage to heart , which was wonderful news, would think that would have been enough to change my outlook...at first yes, but old habits are hard to lose....anyway..back to this adventure...and will succeed this time!
God's blessings to you and your family!
1860 days ago
I don't have the experience of caring for someone with special needs daily; but, I can appreciate what you are doing, the commitment it takes, and how emotionally & physically taxing it can be. Before I had my boys (so 13 years ago), I taught children with physical impairments. I saw what was needed to care for my students during the school day and can imagine it is so much more beyond the classroom and in their home environment.
Kudos to you for getting healthy and losing the weight! You are doing wonderful things for you and the family.
Keep up the great work!
1864 days ago
HEY KIDO I WAS CNA FOR 15YEARS AND I HAD TO TAKE CARE A LOT
OF DIFFERENT PEOPLE INCLUDING MY OWN MOM.
BUT YOU KNOW WE LOVE OURLOVE ONES REGARDLESS IF IT IS OUR
MOMS, SONS, BROTHERS SISTERS, OR HUSBANDS, GRAND PARENTS
WE NEED TO TAKE CARE OF OUR SELVES BEFORE WE CAN TAKE CARE
OF ANY ONE ELSE , WE THINK WE ARE SUPER PERSON BUT WE
ARE JUST LIKE THE REST OF THEM WE HAVE HEALTH ISSUES
AND WORRYS BUT YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT
YOU ALSO .NEED TO GET YOUR WEIGHJT CONTROL AND TRY AND
SIT DOWN WITH YOUR FAMILY AND HAVE A MEAL AT HOME INSTEAD OF
GOING OUT AND HAVE FAMILY TIME .THAT IS MORE IMPORTANT
THAN ANYTHIN G IN THIS WORLD . SO MY FREIND I AM HERE FOR YOU
ALSO AND YOU HAVE A FREIND IN ME TTYL OK
1864 days ago
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