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Saturday, June 09, 2012

I was sitting here answering some messages on the Panic Message board on SP, when I realized once again the drastic changes that have occurred in four years in my life.

Many of you will have already seen this picture of me when I was at my heaviest:

Guess what I did today? I started a new boot camp with a friend of mine for women only that met for the first time this morning. I was the INSTRUCTOR not the person in that picture above.

I get frustrated for people who think that because they've had one bad meal that they can't overcome it and get on with life. I feel sad for people who think they are just destined to be fat. I don't believe in that kind of destiny.

Does anyone really believe that for the last four years that I haven't blown it a time two or a few dozen? I over ate last night at a Cajun restaurant listening to jazz music with a friend I hadn't seen in over a year. I told my class and said so what? I'm here this morning. I got up. I ate healthy. I'm drinking my water. I'm working out with you and my life goes on. It's the choices you make as a whole that makes the person, and not the one off meal that you had. When you reverse it and your one off meal is the healthy one and your bad meals are the majority - therein lies the problem. A while back I might have lamented over that meal and used it as an excuse to falter but not anymore.

This image pretty much says what I was thinking this morning as 50% of the people who registered for this class did not show up. The red line represents the people who did. They found a way to overcome the barriers that everyone else will use as an excuse. Here's what I will hear in the morning when I see people who didn't come:

I'm tired - well guess what I went to bed late and was woken up at 4 in the morning. Do you think I was all bells and whistles about teaching at 7:30 am? I don't even like AM.

I had stuff to do - okay so did I. After class I still took two teenagers clothes shopping to get ready for camp, bought groceries, etc. etc. We all have stuff to do.

I slept through my alarm - waking up at 4 wasn't my plan. I had set two alarms so that if one didn't wake me up the other one would. How many did you set? Did you ask anyone to call you as a backup?

What I said to a friend recently was at the end of the day you either have results, or you're left with all your excuses and an unhealthy life. What do you really want? How bad do you want to get healthy?

I will tell you flat out honestly - I find maintaining weight loss just as difficult as I did losing it. Health is no easy street. There is no magic pill, injection, fast weight loss program or anything they sell on TV for the low, low, low price of $19.99 that is going to make getting and staying healthy easy. This has become one of my favorite pictures that I found on Pinterst:

Really ...choose because in the end no one held me back but me. No one. Wake up, look in the mirror and realize that the person you're looking at is the one responsible for your health. Until you see that, you will find any and every excuse not to succeed in the journey that is hard. But in the end, they are all hard. Which one do you want the most?

This is a picture of me and my daughters taken a couple of weeks ago. I'm in the back in the purple shirt. When my daughter was a freshman, I weighed 261 lbs. I decided I did not want them to graduate and leave and just remember me as the overweight mother. Four years of very hard work, and a constant mental and emotional battle - I stood there completely happy and not worried about that anymore. My daughter said to me recently that she didn't remember me overweight - she just remembered me now.

I've chosen my hard and that is healthy. What do you choose?
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ALIDOSHA 10/23/2012 4:31PM


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DRB13_1 6/29/2012 6:53AM

    from then to now - the instructor. Now THAT'S lighting the spark!
may you daughters always see the real you - the woman who can do anything!
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VOLLEYGIRL77 6/23/2012 10:04AM

    Awesome blog! And you look great!

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EMILYDOODLE 6/21/2012 3:59PM

  great blog, congrats on your weight loss1

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    I LOVE this !!! Thank you so much for taking the time to write it.

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SUGARBEACHES 6/19/2012 4:38PM

    This could have not come at a better time for me!!! THANK YOU!! I needed this kick in the butt!!


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ILUVTHE80S 6/16/2012 5:49PM

    Fantastic blog! SO TRUE!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 6/16/2012 2:07PM

    SUCH great writing! You look like one of the girls going off to college!!

I have three daughters also so I can relate.

Thanks for sharing.... emoticon emoticon

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DEBK0923 6/16/2012 1:08PM

    Great blog, you rock

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LAURAW1214 6/14/2012 5:39PM

    I just wrote a blog today about stopping the excuses. I loved your blog it was very inspirational. emoticon

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XTINEMAS 6/14/2012 5:20PM

    Great blog, very inspirational!

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MOMWATTY 6/14/2012 3:57PM

    Wow! I usually don't spend the time checking out the blogs. I spend too much time on the computer at work to go on it too long at home. You look fantasic! Great job and I am sure your daughters are very proud of you. It is a battle to take off the weight. It is a battle to keep it off. Great job.

Mary emoticon

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MARYJEANSL 6/14/2012 11:42AM

  Great blog - and I love the thought 'choose your hard.'

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NIXY72 6/14/2012 9:15AM

    Well written. ... And congratulations on your amazing weight loss and attitude towards it. It's always a choice.

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ROUNDTOWNMOM 6/14/2012 6:17AM

    I needed this today..............more than I can ever tell you.


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BHEAN_RAMHAR 6/13/2012 11:12PM

    Well said!

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ANGGEL40 6/13/2012 9:07PM

    emoticon emoticon I have chosen my hard and it is healthy also! Thanks for the motivation! This is my favorite blog now, I will make sure to come back to it when I need Motivation emoticon

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JENNYLENNON 6/13/2012 8:57PM

    Great blog!

This was perfect for me to read tonight!

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SHELZY68 6/13/2012 8:30PM

    I just happened to check into SP today. I don't come here everyday. Not sure how I found your post from today, but I have to tell you, You slapped me right in the face and I NEEDED it! I had lost 25 pounds at one time and struggled to lose more, I just wanted to get below 200. It didn't happen for over a year and a half, but I managed to keep the 25 pounds off which I kept trying to give myself credit for. So I started curves and within a month, started gaining weight and inches. I was so distraught that I threw in the towel and haven't been back since and started eating whatever and whenever I wanted. That was in October, by March I had gained back all of my weight and now my blood pressure is teetering toward the high mark some days. I'm worried about diabetes cropping up as well and my freaking clothes are tight again. I know you didn't ask for my story, but there it is. Now I'm gonna take Your thoughts and turn them into something positive for me and remember, I need to eat healthy MOST of the time and if I have a bad meal on the weekend, don't throw it all away. I hope I can keep some motivation. I sooooo wish when I was 23 and had gained 30 pounds after getting married and having my first child I knew what I know now. I would have worked harder at getting the weight off then and not now at 100 pounds later. Thanks for your words!

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IRONBLOSSOM 6/13/2012 8:18PM

    Definitely love that. Choose your hard. Recently I've been choosing the "stay fat" hard but I WILL, I MUST kick myself back to the "losing weight" hard!

Great post.



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SUSIEMT 6/13/2012 3:17PM

    Thank You for saying things I have been thinking but couldn't put into words!
WooHoo to you!

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GRACEOMALLEY 6/13/2012 3:09PM

    Thank you for posting this! Just what I've been thinking to myself, but being reminded NEVER hurts and loved the photo of you and your girls!!!
Keep up the GREAT work!
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QCESCADA 6/13/2012 2:36PM

    Great encouragement and so true. I like that - "choose your hard"

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COLETTEISGREAT 6/13/2012 12:41PM

    Wonderful, motivating blog!!

I really like the "choose your hard" poster!

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LULUBELLE65 6/13/2012 10:24AM

    I love this!

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FLY0NTHEWAL1 6/13/2012 10:13AM

    Really great blog.

It's true that you have to decide what kind of life you want it to be. It's going to be work no matter what lifestyle you choose. Being overweight is hard. It's hard on the spirit, and on the knees. Being active is hard. It's hard to get and stay motivated. It's hard to challenge yourself once you find that motivation. But I sure prefer to know that I'm chasing that goal down (one more rep, one less chip) than avoiding life because I am too tired and feel too fat to get out there and experience whatever my life has to offer.

I had a bad day yesterday. I ate too much and didn't exercise. Today, I got up early (wrong number at 6:30 in the morning). I laid around for over an hour trying to go back to sleep. And then I got up, got my sports bra on, and got in some step aerobics. It's early enough that I can pack up my gym clothes so I can stop there after work if I want (and I DO want to).

Every day I get to choose what kind of life I want to live, and who I want to be. I want to be that person that loves her life and goes out and lives it. I want to love my body and take advantage of it - and NOT take it for granted.

Have a great one!

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    Love it, love it, love it! Thanks! I read this as I watch a bacon sundae being advertised. Oh my.
Congratulations to you and what a role model you are.

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NWGARDENGIRL 6/13/2012 12:00AM

    Thank you. I need what you say here. I open my medicine cabinet in the morning and pasted there are all my motivational lines and images. I can choose to close the door and believe I'll never make it, or I can read those lines and look at those images and believe that I can do what it takes to get there. Like you say - it's only me that holds me back.

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  Congratulations! Thanks for sharing, just what I needed to hear.

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KARLEIGH66 6/12/2012 7:24PM

    I thoroughly enjoyed your blog! It was a great motivator for me and I will refer back to it in the future when I find myself making excuses. Thanks!

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HOLLI3MW 6/12/2012 6:56PM

  Great blog!

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    Really gave me something to think about - thanks so much for this post! And congrats on your wonderful success! Wish I could attend your boot camp!

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LUKEDADDY 6/12/2012 6:06PM

    Great Blog Post! I find myself wishing I were the Red line...but knowing that too often I am one of the Blues...

Gotta work on that.


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BLESSED2BEME 6/12/2012 4:18PM

    Abolutely the best blog I have read in a long time! I used to be the 'excuse' person and now I'm working to be the one that climbs over the wall! Thanks for the inspiration. You rock!

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    WOW!! Thanks for the kick in the pants...I was maintaining...and it was hard then I gradually slipped on some of my healthy habits and gained a few pounds. I'd been contemplating going to a new maintenance level but that really isn't the answer. I chose my hard when I lost the weight. Whining about how hard it is isn't going to get me what I want. So, back to choosing hard again!!!

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KAYO5CHIX 6/12/2012 3:56PM

    It was meant for me to read your blog today. I needed a swift kick in the pants! Thanks for the motivation. I like your style! emoticon emoticon

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CHEEKY1000 6/12/2012 2:57PM

    "The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do." I love this. It's something I've slowly been learning over the last couple of years. I'm a Capricorn (lol) we are slow but steady. So, I'm getting there. Not as fast as some people, but when they drop out, I keep going (with the occasional "fail," but that "fail" is no longer reason to stop altogether).

Great blog! Thank you! And you look wonderful and happy with your daughters.

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DBCLARINET 6/12/2012 2:24PM

    Thank you for the tough love!

People make it out like dieting and exercise are so hard, and it's just because they're too stuck in their tiny box of a "comfort zone." It's not hard. Eat moderate amounts of whole foods and move a bunch, in whatever way inspires you.

I've never been overweight, and I intend to keep it that way. I can see how being overweight affects even the most basic things, like walking up stairs, and I think, wow, my workout isn't nearly as difficult as that!

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_MOBII_ 6/12/2012 1:40PM

    Great blog!

Oh, and....I don't like the AM either!!!!

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APONI_KB 6/12/2012 1:15PM


I also get frustrated when people say they don't have time to cook. Really? Well a little planning and I can whip up dinner in less time than it takes to get take-out. It's nothing to land me on a cooking show but it's really not that hard. Frankly if you can do a basic chem lab in high school you can make dinner.

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CUDDLEY51 6/12/2012 12:42PM

    Wow, what an inspiration and a really motivating blog! You look fantastic and your daughters have every reason to be proud! emoticon

I can't wait until I can post my before and after photos! Thanks for sharing these thoughts and opinions!

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THISTIMEMYWAY 6/12/2012 12:37PM

    Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this! I do not want my kids to remember me as the overweight mother also. I want them to remember me as an active mother who did lots of things with them and enjoyed life!
Thanks so much. You look great. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HEIDIROYCE 6/12/2012 12:37PM

    emoticon I love this. Such inspiration! Keep it up!

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GUITARWOMAN 6/12/2012 11:09AM

    Tough and true!


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SKRONBERG1 6/12/2012 9:40AM

    Ah, thanks once again. You motivated me when I needed it. You rock! emoticon

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BILLSGAL 6/12/2012 8:36AM

    Again, just the motivation I needed today! You are so inspirational. Thanks for the post!

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SUSANS706 6/12/2012 7:54AM

    Wow! What a great post! I needed that kick in the pants this morning!! Thank you!! emoticon

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HEALTHYLU1 6/12/2012 7:52AM

    I loved this blog too (but not so much the wallpaper emoticon ) The visuals of you and also your motivational inclusions are awesome.

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