Sitting with our sadness takes the courage to believe that we can bear the pain and we will come out the other side.


The last thing most of us want to hear or think about when we are dealing with profound feelings of sadness is that deep learning can be found in this place. In the midst of our pain, we often feel picked on by life, or overwhelmed by the enormity of some loss, or simply too exhausted to try and examine the situation. We may feel far too disappointed and angry to look for anything resembling a bright side to our suffering. Still, somewhere within our hearts, we know that we will eventually emerge from the depths into the light of greater awareness. Remembering this truth, elusive it seems, can help.

The other thing we often would rather not hear is that the only way out of it is through it. Sitting with our sadness takes courage to believe that we can bear the pain and have the faith that we will come out the other side. With courage, we can allow ourselves to pass through the grieving process with full inner permission to experience it. This is the powerful teaching that sadness has to offer us—the ability to surrender and the acceptance of change go hand in hand.

Another teaching of sadness is compassion for others who are in pain, because it is only in feeling our own pain that we can really understand and allow for someone else’s. Sadness is something we all go through, and we all learn from it and are deepened by its presence in our lives. While our own individual experiences of sadness carry with them unique lessons, the implications of what we learn are universal. The wisdom we gain from going through the process of feeling loss, heartbreak, or deep disappointment gives us access to the heart of humanity.