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Really? You really think you can do that?

Wednesday, June 06, 2012

May was a frustrating month for me. I let myself take the easy way out, much more than I should have. Yes, I broke into 150-ville early in the month, and dropped to 156, but then I bounced up and down between 156 and 159 for the rest of the month. I didn't do any ST and I think my arms have forgotten what a push-up is... Bleahhh. I did make progress in my C25K program, but I lost time in it by skipping planned days.

So now it's June and I'm ready to go again. I hate that I lost momentum, but it's through my own doing, so shake it off, and away I go. Weighed in at 155.8 lbs, so yes, got past that stumbling block! National Running Day today? Why, thank you, I think I will lace up my Defyance and head outside! Hmm, need to spark motivation? I know - I registered for my 1st AND 2nd 5K's, 7/28 and 8/4.

So what's the problem? I'm pissed. Yesterday was my WW meeting, where they happily told me I was down 1.8 lbs from last week. I smiled, as I knew it just meant I was back where I was before my 2 lb bounce. Joni, our leader, told us to look at the calendar in our weekly handouts, and write in events, plans, vacations, etc for the summer months. The calendar ended with Labor Day week. She asked us to look at our current weights, and plot out a goal for where we wanted to be on Labor Day. I thought it over, and figured, 13 weeks to go, 5K training to do, kayaking lessons planned, I wrote down 16 lbs loss. That's what, 1.2 lbs a week? I did that during the last 5% Challenge, I can surely do it again. Joni asked us to share our goals, so I did. That's when I got pissed.

Really? 16 lbs?

Yes, 16 lbs.

Do you think that's a good goal? Realistic?

If I stay on plan, yes, it's absolutely realistic. I lose 1.5 - 2 lbs a week when I track and work out as I should.

You really think you can do that? I think it's unrealistic and too much.

Wow! Really?! Way to encourage me, weight loss leader! WW tells us that if we're active and on plan, we can expect to lose 1-2 lbs a week, so why is what I want to do so out of reach? Yes, it means work, but shouldn't a goal be a challenge? If it's easy to achieve, then what was the point? I know what I need to do, I know how to do it, and I have support from my husband, family and Spark friends. Apparently, I have all the support a girl could want - except for my WW leader. Which makes me want to lose the weight in less than 13 weeks and throw it in her face with a big "Bite me!" tossed in. Yes, I really am a 44 yr old, grown woman.


I woke up still pissed this morning, and I'm looking at alternate meeting times with different leaders. Am I over-reacting? I just can't help but feel that she should have smiled and said "What a great challenge! How can I help you?" Why try to tear my goal down? It's not as if I said I wanted to lose 30 lbs in 13 weeks, after all. I'm just so unhappy with her lack of faith.

Come on, Sparkers, let me have it - What does the Spark-verse think?
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    You're right in that WW believes in 1-2 lbs a week being okay. She apparently was having an off week and if that's her norm, I, too, would look for a different meeting. Let it go and following your program. Find your stride and your apt to reach your goals, and several people (both here and there) will applaud you. There's no "I told you so" here as we've all had our share of set backs and simply hit the re-boot button.
    1722 days ago
    I think that's an amazing goal this also coming from someone who lost momentum in May only to kick it in gear in June!!
    1723 days ago
    You set an amazing goal, and you are determined to meet it.... She was catty and demeaning in her response... why is nobody calling "JEALOUSY"? lol. Either way, she motivated you. And don't you love the "mad run" a little bit?~ I am much less likely to give up or give in with a little fury in my step. Good for you for seeing what you want and going for it. Can't wait to cheer you on when you meet or beat that goal. You go, Girl! And remember~ it's usually small minded people who have the biggest mouths~ your WW 'leader' just proved that. Good luck! emoticon
    1723 days ago
  • JENNNY135
    She should never have said that to you, especially in front of everyone. Sounds like you like challenges, just like the 5% Spring Challenge helped you, make what the WW leader a challenge too. Make her doubting comments fill you with inspiration and drive and go for it.

    I too go to WW and had a leader presume I was only in a Learn to Run program - when I told her it was a 10km clinic she was taken aback. That was 3 months ago and 15lbs down from then. Ha! And I did a personal best time at the race - so there.

    So fellow Cloverleaf it's time to kick butt!!!
    1723 days ago
    I'm really surprised she acted like that. 1. that she would say that out loud in front of a group of members
    2. I think you should report her
    I worked for WW. They would want to know so they could discuss this with her. Maybe you could even discuss it with her if you feel like you can do it without being rude. I couldn't :) The meetings can make the difference between success and failure. You can do this. let's join the 5 % challenge on here and show her!
    1723 days ago
    WOW that came from someone who is supposed to be motivating and leading you? I would certainly be pissed off as well! You are not overreacting and I would also look for an alternate time to not have to deal with her. It would motivate me to prove her wrong too!! emoticon
    1724 days ago
  • MARIES32
    Well, running is a great way to release anger. Some of my best run times come while I'm working through a frustrating situation and muttering things better not said in polite company.


    You sound determined enough to win with whatever path you choose - smile from ear to ear after your 13 week weigh in, or find another group and then smile after your 13 week weigh in there.
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    1724 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/6/2012 9:12:55 PM
  • YIWEN39
    Finding a different group sounds like a good idea! She's supposed to help, encourage and assist you, not bring you down and p### you off like this.
    Anyway, as you said:
    1) a goal should be challenging
    2) you know what you have to do and are ready to do it
    So: GO FOR IT!
    And we'll be there for you even if that person won't!
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    1724 days ago
    Wondering how she became a leader. Hmmm.
    I have always been able to lose 1-2 lbs a week or more when on track. I lost over 100 lbs in 10 months without being deprived and while eating well. So I know it is do-able.
    You sound very motivated and that's great. You will do well. Hold fast to your goals!
    1724 days ago
    I think you are completely right on to be pissed..it is unreal to me that a leader would act like that. Maybe she has some issues she needs to work out! I know you can do it and I hope it works out that you can find someone at WW who will support and help you if or when you need it it. In the meantime keep up the great work!!!
    1724 days ago
    and *I* agree. The last thing someone in a encouragment & leadership role should do is discourage a perfectly reasonable goal! WTH?
    The only thing I can even imagine was in her mind is that the closer you get to your goal weight, the harder it gets. But still...sheeesh. If you can't be supported, why go, ya know? Sorry she was a nimcumpoop! Stay on track and you'll be showin' her what's "reasonable"..pfffft!
    1724 days ago
    I think you WW leader knows ZERO about what is attainable. I also think she should be dethroned for poopoo-ing your goals.
    That's what *I* think.
    1724 days ago
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