Why are people so petty?
Tuesday, June 05, 2012
I'm astonished at how petty, small minded, and even cruel people can be.
My beloved MIL died almost 2 weeks ago. The family has been preparing for her memorial service, and beginning the details of settling her estate. My SIL has decided that, as the eldest sibling, she is in charge of all arrangements.
Last week, she sent out a note to my husband and brother-in-law, asking if there was anything specific that each of them wanted from among my MIL's effects. My husband provided a small list, mainly some family photographs that he had printed, matted and framed for his mum, and a few other small items that have only sentimental value, and only to him.
Husband went to MIL's house to collect the photos and other items last night, only to find every last one of them gone. SIL had packed them all up and taken them away to her own house, three hours away.
There are many family photos other than these ones, and these are pictures of MIL with our children. I can't imagine why anyone else would want them, and we can have copies printed for anyone who does.
I can't think of any reason she would do this other than mean-spiritedness. I can't even muster up any anger over it -- I'm just tired, and disappointed that SIL thinks getting her own way is so important that she's willing to cause such hurt over something so insignificant. It wasn't even that she said she also wanted the items. She and BIL agreed that Husband could have them, and then she spirited them away.
What's wrong with people?